How often do you talk to your DP on the phone during the day?

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Just as the title says. Both working, me from home in a job that needs me to have a headset on. Also I'm easily distracted so every time I stop what I'm doing it takes me an age to get back into it.

I'm curious what others do as I'm feeling like I'm being unreasonable to not want/need to check in throughout the day and wait until we're both home to chat.

Also never. If DH has a long drive he texts that he has arrived, or phones if staying overnight for a quick call but that is it.

We're both at work to, you know, work not spend time chatting!

Hardly at all. We wait till we're together to chat. I certainly don't feel the need to check in on him, or vice versa - and in fact I would find it pretty irritating being regularly interrupted by unnecessary phone calls. Texts are limited to stuff like "Can you get some milk on your way home".

Never! Not during the day. I’m an adult and so is he so we can cope
He actually works away all week too so usually a call in the evening but sometimes if we’re busy not even then. The horror!

Rarely.

He likes to be constantly in touch. Last week I counted 8 calls in one afternoon. It's exhausting

What do his employers think of that? I'd be seriously unimpressed if someone in my team was taking that amount of time out and interrupting his work so much.

Emergency only, texts for info we need to exchange. If time allows maybe a mid day check in message to politely enquire about one another’s day.

Rarely, if ever. We maybe exchange a couple of texts, but -

a). we both have busy jobs, and
b). DH isn’t some clingy, needy, cringe-inducing pathetic specimen.

What do his employers think of that? I'd be seriously unimpressed if someone in my team was taking that amount of time out and interrupting his work so much.

This ^^ as well.

I pre-date mobile phones and being able to be contacted 24/7. When I first started work in 1977 it was very frowned upon to make and take personal calls at work, and I never really got into the habit.

Never - we both work in high-security environments where mobile phones are banned. He always texts to let me know he's on his way home though, which I find reassuring, because then I know he hasn't been hurt.

Hardly ever. Quick texts about operational issues (‘Can you pick up milk?’) and that’s about it. We’re both really busy and spend all day interacting with others, so there isn’t time for a natter even if DH was the nattering sort.

I work with someone who spends her entire lunchtime on her phone to either her husband or her mother. I feel sorry for her. She’s someone who is very controlled about everything (everything is perfect- organisation, appearance etc) but very tense. I think she must have terrible anxiety, hence the phone calls.

Not unless there is an emergency. I might text him but we are both too busy with work to chat for the sake of chatting.

Depends. Some days he doesn’t get home until 11pm so we will usually have a phone call if we won’t see each other as I am usually asleep by then.

Otherwise we only phone if there is a specific reason.

My husband rings me a few times if he’s away for the day

However I can go days without speaking. I’ve super busy. Ha.

If we’re both at home. Thank e obviously rarely ring each other.

Never for us. We only communicate if something is needed.
My dad used to call my mum every day to find out what had come in the post when I was growing up.

Never call each other unless it’s an emergency, we both hold pressured jobs. Occasionally a WhatsApp, but it’s the exception rather than the rule... we enjoy catching up in full at home instead!

Rarely - only if there is something that needs to be discussed. Eight calls in one afternoon is excessive.

I mean normally not at all. It would only be if we needed to know something there and then (like if one of us is standing outside the supermarket and needs to know if we need anything or something). Or an emergency, of course.

DH texts me when he’s leaving, which is more for the logistics of dinner. And I will be getting into the habit of texting him to check out of appointments (will be starting a mobile sports massage business next year), for my own safety. But that’s it.

Never! Only in an emergency.

having a nice time while he's hard at work.
It's more likely that I'm trying to keep 2 preschoolers entertained

So you’re wfh and looking after 2 toddlers? He’s definitely NOT hard at work if he’s got time to text and ring several times during work hours!

My DP and I might send a text during lunch break, but we don’t have that much time to eat and talk before getting back to work (neither of us has an 1 hour lunch).

Occasionally WhatsApp a picture of our DD to DH when he's working, he sometimes sends me a meme. Other than that, never really speak during his shift!

Never.
We chat a bit via WhatsApp sometimes if it’s a slow day or something major has happened especially as shifts mean we don’t always have much time together.

Only ring if it’s something fairly urgent/time critical. Never just to chat.

Hardly ever unless my husband is away on tour (theatre). We text a few times though or will call if one of the kids isn’t well or there is something out of the ordinary.

Never. And never have done.

Usually zero.

Very very rarely but we do text quite a lot