How often do you talk to your DP on the phone during the day?

[Rageagainstthebing]

Just as the title says. Both working, me from home in a job that needs me to have a headset on. Also I'm easily distracted so every time I stop what I'm doing it takes me an age to get back into it.

I'm curious what others do as I'm feeling like I'm being unreasonable to not want/need to check in throughout the day and wait until we're both home to chat.

Not often. Only if needs must.
Eg could he bring some milk home, does he want to to the cinema or somewhere that night or tell him if o e if the kids has phoned about something in particular or if I'm not coming straight home.
Cant be assed ringing for a chat. I've got no time for that.

@DentalWorries omg this cracked me up as my DH does the same and it gives me the rage too 😂😂😂

We never speak on the phone unless it's an emergency. We usually do send messages back and forth, but not always. It depends on the day and what we're doing.

If one of us found it distracting, we'd limit it to lunch and possibly a break or two during the day. Sometimes there's not much to chat about, anyway!

Never If I'm working as I don't get a chance but if dh is working and I'm home alone (once a week) I ring him once.
Usually to is what he fancies for dinner or does he want anything picked up

He is in an office and its only for 2 mins.

8 times!!!!

Sometimes never, sometimes multiple times a day.

If either of us are busy, we let each other know.

Rarely, he called me today about holiday allocations as he'd had his turned down and needed to check with me about alternatives he was offered. We do WhatsApp or text probably daily but it will be usually him saying "gym" and me saying "ok"

Occasional forwarding some article to each other about our mutual hate of a particular political party but those are just to park for later after work.

I WFH as well. He might ring me quickly to tell me he's setting off for home, so that I can put his food on or ask him to grab milk on his way past the shop or whatever, but other than that, not at all. If we need to tell each other something during the working day we use email.

Never.

Not at all.

There might be an odd text, eg:
"can you get x out of the freezer".
"Don't forget DS is late home due to y club". "My train got cancelled, I'm getting the 6.45 instead".
"Can you email me that carpet fitter quote & I'll check the measurement".

Never. May send the odd What's app

I can't recall ever phoning my DH in work. Why would I?

We only phone each other in an emergency.

I absolutely hate it when my DP calls me for a chat during the day. I've just seen him in the morning, I will see him after work, I have nothing to say.

Happy to text but no calls please!!

No calls, we WhatsApp a fair amount through the day but each takes a few seconds to send so total time out of the day spent will be about 5 mins

Probably only rang each other through the day about 5 times in 30 years. Each call would be urgent!

Married and living together. Never for a chat. On rare occasions if something important or urgent happens.

Depends, if one of us needs to know something urgently. Sometimes a call during a lunch break or on the way home, but we're not really able to chat during the day due to work.

@Rageagainstthebing

Ah ok that makes me feel like I'm not BU! Thank you.

So a call to say "I've not spoken to you for a couple of hours" isn't likely to be received well by others too 😂.

I tend to call only when I need to or if I know he's having a bad day to check in. Not for general chats. He likes to be constantly in touch. Last week I counted 8 calls in one afternoon. It's exhausting.

Too much. Far too much. What does he want to talk about? It would feel too needy and dependant to me, so the relationship wouldn't last.

never unless an emergency.

On the phone when in the office only now and then if we need to know something urgently (all our sockets went off the other day, DH is an ex-sparky so I rang him at work to go through options). If he's WFH then he's always in and out, I'll pop in to see if he wants a drink/lunch etc, he'll pop out to fuss the dog etc.
We text periodically during the day to update on location/how the dog is/anything interesting or annoying through the day.

I should add we work different shifts - if he's in the office he leaves at 6am, I don't get home until 11pm so we don't get an after work chow down etc so we have to communicate normal house stuff through the day by phone or text, unless he is WFH.

@DameFanny

How is he if you go out with friends OP? Does he let you relax?

I would love to know this too.

Well we live together so I don't need I talk to him in the day unless something is important - making sure he knows to go to the pharmacy, something up with the kids etc.
I send him photos of the kids if I take cute ones and we'll send each other off texts, he'll check in on us if I had a rough night etc. and he will text or call if he's running late

Very very rarely. Unless we have something we need to tell each other we don’t text or speak all day as we are busy working

Only call if an immediate response is needed.
Even if away for work, only speak maybe every couple of days.