How often do you talk to your DP on the phone during the day?

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Just as the title says. Both working, me from home in a job that needs me to have a headset on. Also I'm easily distracted so every time I stop what I'm doing it takes me an age to get back into it.

I'm curious what others do as I'm feeling like I'm being unreasonable to not want/need to check in throughout the day and wait until we're both home to chat.

I hate texting/messaging. It's too much of a faff. Pre covid when I was office based we would only message or call each other for urgent things like getting some milk on the way home from work. There was hardly ever anything that couldn't wait until I got home. I hate being chained to the phone.

We text during the day
I don’t think we’ve EVER called for a chat !

Phone - literally never.

I sometimes text DH if it's something important he needs to know but 95% of the time he wouldn't have time to reply.

Your DH would drive me mad, it's completely unnecessary.

Never, why would you? Doesn't he understand that you have work to do? Is he actively trying to lose you your job?

When I was at work, we always spoke at lunch time, just for 5 mins or so. Now I’m on mat leave, I don’t have time to chat. Might call him when I’m on a walk and the baby is asleep, just for a quick chat. I send him pictures of DS throughout the day which I know he enjoys receiving. We don’t see a lot of each other during the week as he leaves the house before I get out of bed and is home late so we like to chat a bit where we can.

Never (unless an emergency - which has been once in three years). May WhatsApp one or twice a day.

Emergency only. We both work usually away from the home. Last time was when a parent had died. We will text occasionally but always and only if there’s a practicality to sort out or with where to meet if somethings been booked or if one has been ill just to check how they’re feeling.

In decades I’ve never idly chatted or idly texted with dp during the working day. I reserve that for friends and colleagues

Never. The odd WhatsApp maybe.

Feeling very much like an odd one out but my husband and I speak every lunchtime! I'm a SAHM he works full time.

Occasionally we will just message at lunch instead of talking but it's a little ritual we have that we always catch up at lunch. He also messages every night to say he's on his way home aswell. gosh we sound sickening 🤣 been together almost 20 years so it's not as if we are in the first flushes of love either 🤣

Good lord no! Text or WhatsApp if needed.

plants that really made me laugh. Thank god when we find our fit eh ?

Never. Occasional WhatsApp and that's it.

@HeronLanyon

plants that really made me laugh. Thank god when we find our fit eh ?

Yes I'm very lucky 😊 met / married quite young

When our kids were little, a few times a day. Now? Never! Both too busy.

None. We might send the odd text but it's rare that we actually ring each other.

DP travels a lot often to time zones where he is awake when I am asleep and whilst where ever he is he works long hours. We always What's App at either end of the day so I can let him know the cats are okay. But over a week can go without us talking on the phone. I send a daily email full of boring family/household stuff.

Never ever. If I'm at work, I'm at work and I don't like to be bothered. The only times he has ever phoned me was a) ds was choking at nursery and b) he was in hospital with chest pains.

Only ever to check on arrangements around childcare really, or maybe if he knows I'm out somewhere particular to pick up something (typically Ikea or Costco, neither are near home but are near one site I travel to)

Absolutely never unless emergency. What on earth for?

When you go out with work or friends does he also call you several times. 8 times a day is stifling and controlling, I wouldn't put up with it.

Not at all unless it's urgent. Though to be fair, it's only two days a week he's not just in the next room!

Never. I might message and check if I can pick something up, or ask him to put dinner on if he's WFH.

When we both worked almost never unless urgent. I’m retired now and we very occasionally have a call at lunchtime but not often.

Never. We are both busy! Might text occasionally.
Your DH has a control
Problem if he’s calling you 8 times a day. That would drive me crazy

8 times a day is stifling and controlling,

I would find it suffocating. Mind you, we have been married for 40 years, and we both work from home now. It is nice to be apart now and again.