How often do you talk to your DP on the phone during the day?

[Rageagainstthebing]

Just as the title says. Both working, me from home in a job that needs me to have a headset on. Also I'm easily distracted so every time I stop what I'm doing it takes me an age to get back into it.

I'm curious what others do as I'm feeling like I'm being unreasonable to not want/need to check in throughout the day and wait until we're both home to chat.

Loads, because he rings me, usually because he needs something doing or wants something. He WhatsApps to tell me how wonderful I am (this is true to be fair!) I rarely initiate contact, he is a mitherer

(he's at work and I'm a sahm but with lots of voluntary stuff going on).

Only in an emergency -- otherwise it's texts.

Normally not at all. We'll call if there's something important happened (but I mean big things like, bumped the car on the way to work, think I'm going into labour). Text for changes in who's picking kids up, or requests to get milk or bread etc, or the occasional stupid meme. Otherwise we don't contact each other during the day.

Eight calls in one afternoon ! This is a man who has nothing to do

We send 1 or 2 e-mails each day, just checking in. We rarely call

If DH phoned me when he was at work I’d assume some kind of huge emergency! We occasionally text if he’s telling me when he’s leaving/if he’ll be late/important logistical stuff, but most days we don’t communicate while he’s working. Multiple daily calls would be suffocating given I see him every evening and all weekend - what would we need to talk about?! Plus his employer is paying him to do his job not talk to me!

Usually not at all, unless there's something important like some mail that needs opening or someone has phoned to change a hospital appointment, that sort of thing. We often exchange emails or whatsapps though.

I leave for work a lot earlier than him, so sometimes he’s just waking up when I’m walking from the train station to work. So I sometimes will ring him on that walk to say good morning and have a chat. But not during the actual work day once work has started. Texts yes. Sometimes loads sometimes none.

We speak every lunchtime. We don't call or even text otherwise, unless we have something to say like a child related problem or needing to pick something up the supermarket or similar functional stuff.

Not unless there's a reason! For a chat/check in, never

Not at all, we might text a couple of times if we need to let the other know something (or just a heart emoji ) but otherwise we talk when we get home.

We both wfh and can go a day not speaking to each other, beyond 'do you want a brew'.
When one or both are working outside the home, probably never. Maybe a WhatsApp about the kids or something

Never. We have lunch together on the 2 days pe week we both WFH and chat if I go into the kitchen for a coffee or he comes upstairs for the loo (as long as the other isn't on a call) but otherwise we just get on with our work.

Very very rarely. If I need to tell him something I’ll text / email.
DH works away M-F and some days we don’t speak at all, just a “good morning” text and an “I’m still alive” text in the evening if we don’t have energy for a call.

Er, never unless something has come up

We message on WhatsApp maybe once or twice but more to check how the kids were etc

Don't really have much spare time on a working day!

Hardly ever. Maybe once a month. We chat in our own time not office time.

What would happen if you ignored the calls?

8 calls in one afternoon!! Christ Almighty, that would drive me up the wall. What do you talk about?

I never call DH and he will only call me if it's really important. We send the occasional text and we have a family whatsapp (grown up DDs, one at uni) which we occasionally put stuff on during the day.

Only if it is an emergency. Otherwise, we will text maybe once or twice during the day.

I'm a stay at home parent, Dp works. We text throughout the day but never ring unless urgent.

Actually this reminds me, DH did go through a phase of ringing me in the mornings .... "Hi, how are you" ... "I'm exactly the same as I was 60 minutes ago when you left the house". I think my frostiness put a stop to it .....

Pretty much never. Only for essential practical purposes. And then would be more likely to text unless I was really in a hurry.

single text towards the end of the working day to confirm the person tasked with school pickup is still good for it. Same text also checks what bread/milk/fruit is needed and who's getting that. there's two afternoons when I don't work, and so family admin falls to me, so no texts those days.

Usually not at all. Occasionally a WhatsApp but more if there's something either of us need- home late, something from the shop for example.

I have nothing helpful to add but I'd love to know what his job is so I can get the same one!