How often do you talk to your DP on the phone during the day?

[Rageagainstthebing]

Just as the title says. Both working, me from home in a job that needs me to have a headset on. Also I'm easily distracted so every time I stop what I'm doing it takes me an age to get back into it.

I'm curious what others do as I'm feeling like I'm being unreasonable to not want/need to check in throughout the day and wait until we're both home to chat.

Unless there's a specific problem eg train cancelled then nothing at all. Can't be doing with constant contact. With anyone.

@littlebigtiger

That's ridiculous, he would do my head in.

Absolutely.

8 calls in the space of a working day is absolutely ridiculous and I’d be telling him straight out to just stop it. Is he a toddler who needs to see mummy every 5 minutes to feel secure? No. He’s not. Tell him to stop being so needy and let you get your work done.

I couldn’t live with someone like that, ugh I feel harassed just reading about it.

Good god, next to never, and we don't even live together. We text quite a lot during the day but lord, if he called me at all during the day without specific reason, I'd think he was a needy fucker. 8 calls utterly unacceptable.

I just checked my call log and it seems I talk to DH on the phone about once a month. Those times would probably have been for something a bit time sensitive that needed an answer quickly, otherwise our first preference is to text or email. He used to text when he was leaving the office, mainly as a heads-up, but he's mostly wfh now.

I usually store up 'chat' conversation for the end of the day, even if we're both at home wfh, as our working days are busy and we like to be able to get everything done in the day and not have to do anything work-wise in the evenings.

Well he's just upstairs now, but before that rarely. Texts if I needed him to collect a loaf or setting on the way home. Mostly he was not somewhere he could either take or make calls but knew to check texts on his way to the station. Calls only if dire emergency. Similar tje other way round. Contacting me to say he'd be late was about it!

One of us is usually WFH so will send a photo of the dog to the other one

If we’re both at home, we see each other at lunch, and to take a drink in to the other.

When we were both out of the house, we’d never speak. Just a text to say we were on our way home.

Agree that 8 calls in a day would be bloody annoying, and a deal breaker for me if he didn’t grow up and stop it

Never. I'd find multiple calls completely draining.

Never. Before he retired, I'd text if I needed something.

Telephone? As in actually speak? On the phone?! No chance!!

Never . If he or I need to convey a message we send a text .

@CMOTDibbler

Typically, not at all. Maybe one WhatsApp to ask the other to get milk/pick up a prescription or whatever, but thats it

Yeah, this! I don't call him to chat (I don't call anyone to chat though!). If I know he's having a bad time I may send a check in text, but even that is rare.

Virtually never - would only of it was something extremely urgent. Can think of only a handful of times.

We exchange a few texts here or there sometimes, certainly not every day.

Only if we really need to, never just to keep in touch.

Never! However, dh works 3 days from home and I only work early shifts, so I see him in the week.

Never really when working in the office unless there was a need to convey a message.

We are both wfh at the mo and only see each other if we happen to be out of our offices at the same time, or as when in the office, if something needs to be discussed at that point.

He rings to tell me he if he has been offered overtime at the last minute , so will be late that's it .

DH rings me when he’s left work but that’s it. We might send a couple of texts during the day if we have time but they don’t always get a reply. 8 calls is nuts.

Actual phone calls? Literally never.

We send a few texts throughout the day. How many depends on how busy we are. No pressure to reply from either side.

Never unless it is a family emergency/ extremely important. We Whatsapp throughout the day though, unless very busy at work and no chance

Not at all.

Maybe twice a month he'll ring to say he's going to Tesco on the way home and will ask me to check if we need bread/milk etc.

Never speak on the phone unless it's an emergency.

The odd text now and then, but they tend to be giving information, or asking if someone can pick up milk or something rather than just chit chat.

Maybe once, to check food or school run, but often not at all. I'm busy, I imagine he is too.

We both wfh, him full time, me mornings. We usually have lunch together and chat for half hour then which is lovely. We don't tend to talk to each other outside of lunchtime as we work in separate rooms and are both usually really busy. When we were in the office we'd have a quick lunchtime call maybe two or 3 times a week, but sometimes one of us would be working through and need to cut it short, which the other was always understanding of.