To be angry that my relative has booked an event on the same day as my child's birthday

[Allsortsofroses]

I booked a venue for my child's birthday party and invited everyone, including this woman and her child (and husband if he wanted to go), about a month and a half beforehand.

I thought that was neither too much nor little notice.

She accepted.

She then contacted me weeks later saying she's booked her child's christening on the same day because she forgot, and says it's the only date she can get ).

She has now suggested another take her child to part of the birthday party while she prepares for the christening, but her child (and that relative, and her child, and partner) will have to leave the birthday party early in order to get ready for the christening etc.
In fact they'll have to leave before we could get to the cake cutting.

My partner has said tk forgoer about it, that we all know from previous experience that's she's selfish and dippy, but I must admit I'm trying hard to stay totally diplomatic about it.

What do you make of it?

So.....the upshot is.....you're going ahead with the party and absolutely no part of your plans has to change in any way, and this is the reason you are snorting with rage?

You are not affected by this at all, and you are seething about it.

A perfectly reasonable compromise has been suggested....and you are furious.

Someone gets to go to TWO nice events in one day, and this why you are livid.

Nope. No sense to me.

@amiafreakofnature

Kate Middleton is that you?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lol I had the same thought..... finding myself sympathetic to xstining lady, wish her well since she has to put up with people like OP and OP's family.

[quote Teaandlipstick]@TastesLikeFeet
Christening woman is not mate’s sister. She is mate’s sister in law.
Just wanted to clarify as you called another poster cow when they got confused between CW and mate. Op is not clear in her post about a lot of things and drip feeding some information here and there, and being very rude to posters hence other poster commented the way they did.[/quote]
And the annoying thing was they called me a cow when I hadn't even mixed up the women - I'd just worded my post unclearly. I'll amend in the hope that it reduces my bovinity:

I also want to know about this relaxing, excited-kid-filled, fun, day out that is also egregiously affected if 2 kids, and a 'bitch', respectively leave early, and don't get to experience the chill-out zones for one-year-olds

I’d pay good money, (or even accept a christening invite) to avoid the last few hours of an hours long kids birthday party where I’m expected to “enjoy the full facilities of the venue” If it was a place I was likely to do that, I’d go another time when it isn’t full of kids having a party that’s far too long.

Do we know the age of the child yet? It's only been asked 500 times.😁

We'll find out whenever it's broadcast on "Extreme Kid's Parties" or whatever it's called.

The op is long gone.

@Laiste

Something about the swirling circular arguments punctuated occasionally by a poster who hasn't RTFT, with an occasional injection of a new nugget of info. by the OP. It's brain chocolate

As Smithy would say (if he were on MN) 'this thread is comedy gold'.

And Pam Shipman would say "it's all the drama Mick, I just love it!"

I think the whole thing is rude, selfish, and inconsiderate.

Apparently quite a lot of people here don't. What do you make of that?

This thread is batshit!

I genuinely can’t believe how self involved some people are……or how they think other people are actually bothered about other people’s children’s birthday parties

Really, OP, let it go. It's a child's birthday party (and, I'm assuming, a really young child who won't even know the difference, given you won't answer the age question). It's really not that important.

In confused. If you invited her to party I'd assume she would invite you to christening? Will that also mean that family at your child's party will go to the christening too??

It does sound pretty selfish op. Maybe she's plain stupid or did she do it on purpose?

Different, probably non relevant story here but I had a baby same time as a friend (not a close friend) 7 years ago now! We both ended up having their christening same day coincidentally the next year when babies were several months old. It was a non issue for me as we were only having immediate family and a few friends at DD's. She was going all out, inviting everyone. The only overlap on invited was my best friend (who was dd's godmother) so she came to DD's - she wasn't as close to other friend. And also one person in my family she was friends with but they came to DD's as it was close family, other than that no one.. She kicked up a right storm because I had booked the christening the same day as her - in a different area - I could say the same about her booking one the same day. Haven't spoken to her since, not because of the christening itself, but because she spoke to me like shit and bad mouthed me to everyone.

Really, OP, let it go.

OP hasn’t posted on this thread since the day she first posted which was a few days ago. I think it’s other posters like you that need to ‘let it go’. 😂

@Downton57

Children's birthday parties are torture. Adults try and wriggle out of going. They are only human.

This. DH and I play rock, scissors, paper when we get an invitation and the loser has to take the child.

They're torture.

OP, this is a mildly inconvenient thing. Would you be pissed off if - you having booked the party - she'd have just declined your invitation because the christening was that day and your mate had already agreed to go? So she'd booked too but you didn't know? I doubt it. You seem cross because you're expecting everyone to note that X day is THE PARTY TO END ALL PARTIES DAY and woe betide anyone who doesn't see that.

Calm down.

@Wellarentyouacleverdick me and Dh also lay rock scissors stone to decide difficult choices 😂

Oh, who cares? No-one, literally no-one, gives a shit about other kids' birthday parties, apart from the parents of said kid who is having the party.

She forgot, made other plans, and has now attempted to right it with making alternative plans for her child to attend at least some of your party.

And frankly, a one-off christening tops a birthday party anyway.

OP I would honestly let things roll out however they do and put your en. Let things roll out however they do otherwise it may reduce foenjoying the party. Your little one will still have lots of fun.

[quote Offmyfence]@Wellarentyouacleverdick me and Dh also lay rock scissors stone to decide difficult choices 😂 [/quote]
That’s a variant of the game that seems quite easy to win.

My brother didn’t attend my son’s christening and we’d asked him to be godfather because he was meeting up with a friend. As a religious person I’d prefer to go to a christening as it’s a one off but usually I’d stick to the first invite. It’s nice they’re trying to do both.

@WalkingOnTheCracks 😂