DH against flu vaccine - pregnant

[LaLaDe]

My DH doesn't want me to get the flu vaccine. Im 6 weeks pregnant and we were discussing it tonight; I indicated that I would be getting it and he called me a fucking idiot.

He said we shouldn't need vaccines because our bodies should be able to fight things themselves.
He had no medical or scientific background whatsoever.

This all started throughout lockdown/ covid. He believes the whole thing is about government control. He was NEVER anti-vax before this. I can kind of understand being wary about the covid vaccine during pregnancy, however, surely the flu jab is pretty standard and uncontroversial?

He watches Doctors and scientists on various platforms who have been "cancelled" by mainstream media. It's very difficult to have a conversation about this with him. If I say something he doesn't agree with, he'll get up and walk away.

Wwyd? Any advice? :(

It's your body, your choice. Get the vaccine to protect yourself. He doesn't sound very bright

At the end of the day it's your body and you can choose whether or not to have vaccines. Flu can be dangerous in pregnancy as can covid

He's a twat

Honestly? I probably would leave him.
He's not in charge of your body, and his view sounds ignorant and dangerous. If he never held these views before, I'd worry about his mental health.
Calling you a fucking idiot is unacceptable. Presumably he'll also now refuse to allow you to get your baby vaccinated once it's born as well?
Sounds like he's fallen down some sort of YouTube antivax rabbit hole watching those videos.
Sorry you're having to deal with this, it sounds horrible and I hope you're ok x

Pregnant women can get seriously ill with the flu. He’s the idiot.
Myself and millions of other women have had the flu vaccine in pregnancy with no side effects.
I’d just go and get the jab and not tell him… but I’d find his belief of utter nonsense on the internet quite worrying

Just have it and don’t tell him?

Honestly I'd get the covid vaccine as well if you've not had it already

I mean he is entitled to his opinion but he can't make medical decisions for you. I would ignore him and get vaccinated. I probably wouldn't tell him about it unless he specifically asked.

I’d be reconsidering staying with him with that attitude tbh.
Your body, your choice.

Oh my word I didn’t even consider that he might object to vaccines for the baby. He doesn’t does he? That would be a dealbreaker for me

Has he had the COVID vaccine? Have you?

Your DH is a fucking idiot and so are you if you let him make choices about what happens to you, your body and you baby.

What's the matter with you? Just get the flu shot.

Get the vaccine. And Whooping Cough if that's still offered. Its for you and your babies safety.

Where's he gonna stand on babys jabs?

Flu in pregnancy can cause stillbirth l. Why would he risk that?

What are his views on childhood vaccinations?

Has he ever taken antibiotics, had surgery, used painkillers? All things which most people accept when their bodies are struggling to deal with things.

Is he going to be anti intervention when you deliver the baby because he thinks it’s unnecessary?

I’d be having second thoughts about saddling my child with this nutter for a father. This is much bigger than the flu jab.

It's nothing to do with you

Pregnant women are particularly vulnerable to flu

Leave him. You can't fix stupid. And as pp pointed out he will be just as opposed to childhood vaccinations for your baby.

Had the flu vaccine x3 when pregnant and didn't discuss with DH at all.

He would have known if I had got the flu and our baby negatively.impacted.

Have the vaccine protect yourself and baby.

What this does set is a president for not having mmr and all the other life saving vaccine available
to baby.

@Clymene

It's nothing to do with you

him! Nothing to do with him!!

It's very difficult to have a conversation about this with him. If I say something he doesn't agree with, he'll get up and walk away.

Wwyd? Any advice?

Yeah, don’t have the conversation with him. You don’t need his permission. Just get your vaccine.

The first thing I would do is get the flu vaccine. Very standard in pregnancy and a valuable protection for you and the baby, particularly in these times. The second thing I would do, is make a mental note to not ask his opinion on anything medical related during this pregnancy whatsoever and ask your team at the unit for advice. I would also be a bit concerned about his mental health op if he is drawn into all these outlandish theories.

Luckily for you, your medical decisions are absolutely nothing to do with him

Flu could be incredibly dangerous for pregnant women, which if he’d done even the tiniest bit of research he would be well aware of. It is heavily recommended for a reason, it’s optional of course, but it’s not recommended for shits and giggles. It could make the difference between you and your baby being healthy and well, being dead - to be honest.

He sounds like a prize nob head. If he’s going to have opinions then he could at least do himself a favour and have a quick look at Google so he doesn’t present as a total bellened.

Embarrassing.

He sounds like a tool.

It's nothing to do with him whether you chose to get the flu vaccine or not. Whatever you do decide to do, please do not base your choice in the nonsense he is spouting.

Is he going to be anti-vaxx for your future baby too?