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that it's not ok to kick out a guest from a party

201 replies

OhSoBored2 · 14/11/2021 17:38

If a guess of one family member has a conflict with another family member but behaves generally in a civilized way, talking to other people. As soon as a small altercation occurs, that guest is told to that he's not welcome and to get out of the house while a group of people walking towards him pushing him to the door not even allowing him to pick up their coat from a room (the host went to get it).

AIBU to think that it's very exagerrated? What WOULD justify this reaction? A physical fight?

OP posts:
HeronLanyon · 14/11/2021 21:39

Is op still out on the pavement ??

Bluntness100 · 14/11/2021 21:42

@Phrowzunn

I would also like to know if OP was originally the OW but I doubt she’d tell us honestly now…
It doesn’t really matter though does it. Bottom line is she wasn’t invited to this, the hosts don’t like her and she shouldn’t have went. The ex was right, she wasn’t welcome and the hosts took the ex’s side and chucked her out. You don’t turn up where you’re not wanted to someone’s party.

If she’s issues with her partner going to an event with his ex present then she needs to deal with that, not wangle an invite from someone who can’t invite her and barge in.

TooBigForMyBoots · 14/11/2021 21:44

What did you hope to achieve by turning up at this party @OhSoBored2?Confused

CeratopsofthePharoahs · 14/11/2021 21:51

I'm trying to follow this but..

that it's not ok to kick out a guest from a party
pickingdaisies · 14/11/2021 22:06

Poor DH getting dragged to parties full of sort of relatives and exes, then manhandled onto the dancefloor against his will, and watching helpless while his wife gets crowded out of the door. Is he still standing in the middle of the room looking bewildered, do you think? Or maybe he's just grabbed himself a beer and carried on partying?

BoredZelda · 14/11/2021 22:25

You picked a fight with your OH’s ex wife.in front of her friends. Yes, of course they will take her side and eject you.

Almostmenopausal · 14/11/2021 22:56

I had no issues understanding it @OhSoBored2 ??? X was definitely in the wrong, despite all the “The host can do whatever they like so nerrrr” on here Confused

steff13 · 15/11/2021 00:42

@Almostmenopausal

I had no issues understanding it *@OhSoBored2* ??? X was definitely in the wrong, despite all the “The host can do whatever they like so nerrrr” on here Confused
But the host can do whatever they want in their own home. And the OP didn't have to respond to the ex wife's goading. She was trying to get a rise out of OP, and it worked.
girlmom21 · 15/11/2021 07:45

@TravisFountain

Why do they dislike you?
They're jealous of her storytelling skills.
CSJobseeker · 15/11/2021 07:51

I'm guessing the divorce was not a particularly pleasant one (for whatever reason), and these people were Team Ex.

Benchbenchbench · 15/11/2021 08:09

Oh dear, why on earth did you accept the invite? Have you been manipulated into this do you think?

girlmom21 · 15/11/2021 08:58

@Benchbenchbench

Oh dear, why on earth did you accept the invite? Have you been manipulated into this do you think?
There's one manipulative person in this situation. The one who went to a house she wasn't welcome in then confront her husbands ex aggressively enough for other partygoers to feel it necessary to escort her out of the house.
Skeumorph · 15/11/2021 09:25

Sounds like you need to make sure that you’re NEVER in a social situation with his stirrer ex again? All of your family, I mean. Because that would also solve the issue of her ‘grabbing’ your husband to dance.

Missey85 · 15/11/2021 09:40

Of course the host can throw out assholes if they don't want them there was the AH your partner or something?

FortVictoria · 15/11/2021 17:33

I’ve never asked anyone, no matter how objectionable, to leave my home. There are a number I would never invite back though. I think you have to do something pretty bad to actually be asked to leave.

Bobbins36 · 15/11/2021 17:44

“Small altercation” 😂 sounds like someone behaving like a knobhead and got rightly chucked out.

riceuten · 15/11/2021 17:55

Sorry

Without knowing the full details from both sides, it's hard to make a judgement call. Were you the one ejected?

MeredithGreyishblue · 15/11/2021 18:25

"Get aaahta my pub!"

HeronLanyon · 15/11/2021 18:26

Rip PM/BM

HeronLanyon · 15/11/2021 18:26

Oops BW!

TatianaBis · 15/11/2021 18:56

@MeredithGreyishblue

"Get aaahta my pub!"
Good summary.
Roxy69 · 15/11/2021 18:59

Grown up, polite people don't act like this and have to be seen off the premises. Why would any normal person start an altercation at a party? God role model for the children - not.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 16/11/2021 07:17

Seems daughter wanted to go to the party and asked her dad to go too, if he'd been invited you'd have been his plus one. So no direct invite to you and you probably went as you didn't want DH going on his own.
Daughter should have gone on her own, dh didn't need to be there and neither did you.
It wasn't going to end well, especially as you know they don't like you.

Invertedsnob · 16/11/2021 07:50

@CustardySergeant

"So the man of the house run them and instead of telling people to calm down told me that I had to leave"

Apologies, but what does "the man of the house run them" mean?

I want to know this too 🤔
Bunnyfuller · 16/11/2021 09:27

You all sound so classy. Was this an episode of Shameless?