that it's not ok to kick out a guest from a party

[OhSoBored2]

If a guess of one family member has a conflict with another family member but behaves generally in a civilized way, talking to other people. As soon as a small altercation occurs, that guest is told to that he's not welcome and to get out of the house while a group of people walking towards him pushing him to the door not even allowing him to pick up their coat from a room (the host went to get it).

AIBU to think that it's very exagerrated? What WOULD justify this reaction? A physical fight?

If I were the host and someone "had an altercation" with one of my family members they would no longer be welcome in my home. It's utterly irrelevant that they managed to be civil to other guests. And they can't have been that popular if so many of the other guests were trying to rush them out. Doesn't sound like an overreaction at all, they were causing issues and ruining the party atmosphere, it's a shame they didn't have the good sense to see themselves out.

If someone has been asked to leave by the host, the offending guest should be out the door before there's time for a group of people to be ushering them out...

It really depends on wether it was the guest being a knob or the family member being a knob and the rest of the family sticking up for them.

The altercation was about a comment a person X made that the said guest (Y) didn't like and answered to correct. All in low voice and without insults. However, Y is not generally liked (female jealosy really, but invited by one of the hosts), while X is part of the group, so X starts talking about Y in front of them. And when Y appoaches (some people would have ignored, but Y is not perfect), X loudly tells them that they are not welcome. And other people join and force Y towards the door (Y was leaving anyway!). Y came with their kids and husband and all this was done in front of them.

I suspect this person is your DP? And you family?

As a host I won't tolerate a 'small altercation"

@OhSoBored2

The altercation was about a comment a person X made that the said guest (Y) didn't like and answered to correct. All in low voice and without insults. However, Y is not generally liked (female jealosy really, but invited by one of the hosts), while X is part of the group, so X starts talking about Y in front of them. And when Y appoaches (some people would have ignored, but Y is not perfect), X loudly tells them that they are not welcome. And other people join and force Y towards the door (Y was leaving anyway!). Y came with their kids and husband and all this was done in front of them.

I feel like I just had some kind of medical episode reading that...

So someone was slagging you off then told you you weren't welcome and encouraged you to leave, but you were already leaving anyway?

And it's because they're jealous of you?

OP are you Y or X?

100% for a host to decide who is or is not welcome any longer. If after the fact it all turns out to be a misunderstanding or overreaction then they can sort that out later. If it was right then no need. No matter even when totally wrong if a householder requires someone to leave then they leave - who would stay when not welcome anyway ?? They do in law become a trespasser if they do not. No longer have permission to be there.

Yes it is OK for the hosr to boot them out if they can't behave
do you think they should stay and upset the other guests?

At a guess you are Y. Is suspect there is far more to this than is being declared here but unless X is the host then both X and Y would be made to leave if it was my house

They sound like a horrible bunch of people with no class who enjoy creating drama! That goes for the people forcibly removing the person from the party not the person who got thrown out.

I am guessing the other guests has a very different version.

Fwiw, every single woman I know who claims people don't like her because of 'female jealousy' is completely ignoring the fact that they aren't liked for their behaviour.

However, as above, if I was the host I would be telling both X & Y to leave. But I am guessing the host has a completely different view of the 'small altercation'.

My brain just imploded

X ÷ Y = Y saying to X that X was a % of Y

You lost me at that explanation OP.

@Thadhiya

Why should a nob be permitted to stay just because he's talking to other people? The host doesn't want him there, the host can kick him out.

If a number of people were shoving him out he sounds like a right tosser.

100% this

Why do you think they're jealous of you?
Are all females jealous of you?

@Whyamistilltired

My brain just imploded

Mine too.

Way too much drama.

Is this algebra? My brain has officially exploded.

Didn't notice the imploding brain upthread!!

Why did Y's kids and husband just watch as Y was ejected?

And how drunk was Y?

So you're Y then?
For what it's worth when people are generally disliked it's not likely to be "female jealousy" one person could be jealous perhaps but not everybody.
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person X made that the said guest (Y) didn't like and answered to correct.*

It sounds more likely from this that perhaps Y comes across as a bit of a know it all or a bit abrupt and that might be the reason they are disliked.

Sorry to be harsh but if you are Y then maybe look at how other people perceive you and why.

female jealousy screams "Y is toxic" to me.

Sounds like there's a bigger story here. In any case, the host isn't unreasonable to eject a disruptive guest.

I have kicked people out of my house previously. People are rgwre for a good time
Noone wants an atmosphere

And when Y appoaches, X loudly tells them that they are not welcome.

I missed this. So the altercation is with X, and X is also the host who ejected Y?

You had an altercation with the host and expected to be able to stay at their party? Bonkers.

Is the ejected guest male or female? From your OP you have put he, but then refer to kids and husband that came with them and female jealousy which i would take to meaning one female jealous of another?

Is this about you and your sister or SIL?