that it's not ok to kick out a guest from a party

[OhSoBored2]

If a guess of one family member has a conflict with another family member but behaves generally in a civilized way, talking to other people. As soon as a small altercation occurs, that guest is told to that he's not welcome and to get out of the house while a group of people walking towards him pushing him to the door not even allowing him to pick up their coat from a room (the host went to get it).

AIBU to think that it's very exagerrated? What WOULD justify this reaction? A physical fight?

So Y was a guest in X's home and had a "small altercation" (I'd love to know whether there's another view about this) and was asked to leave? Doesn't sound too unreasonable to me.

If Y is often disliked, I'd wonder if maybe they struggled with their social skills and maybe aren't brilliant at judging how they are coming across?

@NFLBingo

So X made a statement that Y didn’t agree with, so Y corrected them and was then slagged off and as they rose to it were then kicked out of the party? I feel like we need to know what was originally said, as if it’s not something that needed correcting then Y probably just said it to be catty. Either way I’d have kicked you both out

Well, if it were both I would understand, but it was only me and the impression that people who were not present got was that I started the whole issue.

No the X and Y business was definitely NOT easier than just telling the story!

You really should just not have bothered responding to her. I'd have asked you to leave too.

The hosts were her friends.
You must have known it was never going to end well.

Keep your social circles separate in future.

So you and your husband went to a party at the house of his ex wifes friends. Not his. Her friends?

Why?

X-post with your update.

The answer is to stop hanging out with the ex, and not to go to parties if you know the host dislikes you (even if invited by the host's daughter).

@Nyxly

So you and your husband went to a party at the house of his ex wifes friends. Not his. Her friends?

Why?

These people were related to my husband as well. They have some common friends and my participation in that party was an exeption, I don't mix with them normally.

I need to know what X said to Y and what Y said back

You went to the ex-wife's friend's party? Quite a few of them dislike you?

Why? What possessed you to go?

Physical fighting - absolutely remove.

Other scenarios would depend on the situation.
If one person has a different opinion then they shouldn’t be removed but if they’re making everyone else’s time miserable because they’re trying to start something then yes they should.

Anyone causing a disturbance in my home would be told to leave.

My aunt has a problem with me , eg jealousy for some reason and always has a comment or two to say to other people, rarely to me. She’s been asked to leave family parties before as she can’t keep her mouth shut and be civil! No need to be disturbing others social occasions,.

I bet you wish we were back in lockdown and you could avoid this type of Eastenders nonsense I can't identify with any aspect of this story, who carries onn like this

The answer is to stop hanging out with the ex, and not to go to parties if you know the host dislikes you (even if invited by the host's daughter).

I completely agree.
Poor kids.

Ahh cross post.

Bonkers. There is ex surrounded by all her friends and family and you rock up to a party with her ex husband. A party you weren't strictly invited to and where you know there were people who dislike dislike you.

Why did you accept?

They're all insane and you shouldn't have gone

I think going to a party where you know people dislike you is a recipe for disaster really.

In future politely decline and go to parties with people who like you. But yes from that retelling it does all sound over the top but it also sounds predictable so I’m not sure who I think is unreasonable really.

Also who the fuck crowd pushes people toward the exit?
Honestly the lot of them sound off

I always find women who use the term "female jealousy" to explain why they aren't liked usually fail to notice that it's usually not jealousy that causes the dislike but their superiority complex, bitchiness and general behaviour.

If you are a guest in someone's home then you should have enough respect for them, regardless of any provocation. You deal with the issue another time with class and dignity and do not ruin their evening.

It sounds like you were determined to make your presence felt at this party you should have had more sense than to go to in the first place.

It sounds like you and ex wife who was attending had problems and it became uncomfortable.

Really you ought avoid parties where you know the host dislikes you and there may be trouble ahead. I wouldn't want my DC in middle of that kind of toxicity. Regardless of how it happened you were asked to leave and left. Don't invite these people to your home and avoid them at parties. Your DH should also consider who his real friends are if they treat his new DW that way.

Maybe start a new post with the actual you, ex wife, friends details.

Were you the OW OP? Just wondering about the backstory to them all not liking you.

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P.S. You gave her the reaction she wanted and the result she wanted. Played into her hands!

Why on earth did you even go?

You made this so complicated to understand and then the information needed didn’t come until pages in and after several updates. YABU for that.

YABU also for saying people need to ask for your permission to dance with your husband (wtaf?)

There’s no way to know about the general situation because you’re clearly very biased having been right in the middle of that one incident, and the broader problems.

The whole thing sounds utterly dysfunctional and I can’t fathom why any of you went tbh.