Husband wants to eat a mouthful of my dinner just as I sit down with it

[beatrice82]

9:30pm not stopped with work, taking kids to clubs, feeding children, laundry, housework then made my own very quick tea - pasta with leftover salmon.

Sat down.

Husband watching football after a busy day at work, makes comment on the amount on my plate.

Literally the second I sat down with my plate popped on the coffee table whilst I plump the cushions behind me, ready to enjoy... husband wants a mouthful of my food.

He already knows I find this off putting but for an easy life, I say yes, as long as I can't see and proceed to cover my eyes.

He laughs and says I'm weird. I remind him that I've literally sat down to enjoy my dinner and he's fussing to have some. He then uses the opportunity to remind me of weird I am in general.

I tell him he's being unkind, and ask if he thinks this conversation is helping our relationship. He laughs and carried on watching the football.

I told him that he's being the weird one to treat me like that, and any other person would think he was being out of line.

AIBU to want to enjoy my dinner in peace without being pestered, judged or called names?

@beatrice82

I don't really want to break up our family. I just want him to stop being unkind and go back to how he was 10 years ago

He sounds like a really unpleasant bully, but have you tried putting these points to him (at a quiet time, not during some argument)? Can he see his own behaviour and does he know what he’s become since 10 years ago? Maybe he does, and doesn’t care, but it’s possible he doesn’t realise you’ve even thought about breaking up.

@WhatAHexIGotInto

As long as there was enough, I can’t imagine objecting to dh helping himself to a mouthful. This is someone you (presumably) kiss and have sex with, not some random filthy person with teeth like something out of a horror film?

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER Um ... what on earth has any of this got to do with anything? You think because people have sex with each other they are not permitted to have their own boundaries when it comes to other things? Really?

There are boundaries and boundaries when it comes to food.

My pet one is those people who invariably say they don’t want any chips/pudding, but then expect to help themselves to yours.

But the OP’s complaint, I couldn’t get steamed up about that. I’d probably do the same to him, though - with a bigger spoon, if it was anything I particularly liked.🙂

Swiping food or hovering while you eat is disrespectful and on par with the child who tries to put unwanted food on your plate because they don't want even to see it on theirs.

OP's DH has issues around food and is making them hers, or trying to!