How on earth does my DP know?

[CJCC]

I have several male friends, they are just friends, nothing sexual has ever happened between us and I dont see them being any different to a female friend. My DP has always had an opinion on this, he thinks men who want to be friends with a woman are just biding their time to pounce basically.
I speak to 2 of these friends regularly on fb, conversations are completely 'normal' we don't flirt etc we are genuinely just friends.

Here's the weird part, everytime I speak to one of these friends my DP always makes comment about have I been talking to my other boyfriends or making jokes about who have I been texting. He's always done this and I put it down to him just being a dick sometimes but its taken me a while to connect the fact that he always says these things when I have infact had a conversation with one of them and we dont speak daily, sometimes it's a month or 2 so it can't just be luck. It's honestly like he knows but how could he unless he'd seen the messages?

I had a convo with one yesterday and my DP came home from work and made jokes about who have I been talking to and asking if I'd been talking to my other boyfriend and he couldn't have even looked at my phone so is he just bloody psychic!?

About a year ago some man I wasn't even friends with messaged me and it went into message requests so I didn't even see it. DP had a go at me for messaging other men and I was massively confused as I hadn't even seen the message. When I saw it and figured out what he meant I asked if he'd been looking at my fb from my iPad and he denied it, but I'd had my phone with me so it was the only way he could have seen. I deleted fb from my iPad after that so the only way he could access it is my phone now.

Do you think something is going on or am I crazy??

Good you found out OP, take care while planning your next steps.

I have no reason to think he would become violent when he finds out he can't snoop but clearly I don't know him as well as I thought for him to do this in the first place. He hasnt discovered it yet as we went to bed together last night.
I am unfortunately stuck in the tenancy until January so my plans will have to wait until then.

@CJCC

I have no reason to think he would become violent when he finds out he can't snoop but clearly I don't know him as well as I thought for him to do this in the first place. He hasnt discovered it yet as we went to bed together last night. I am unfortunately stuck in the tenancy until January so my plans will have to wait until then.

The tenancy ends 12/31 then? I'd be looking for a place right now and trying to move in December (finances permitting).

If you are in an abusive relationship (and you are) then you can walk away from the tenancy.
Ask Womens Aid and shelter for advice on how to do this legally.

''A domestic abuse survivor who leaves a joint tenancy has options for ending it, so their rental liability does not continue.''
england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/housing_options/housing_options_for_people_experiencing_domestic_abuse/leaving_the_home_after_domestic_abuse

You don't know this man.

The important information you have learned from all of this is that he sees you as his property. So beware.

Find somewhere else to live - start searching today. You can do this in the six weeks you have, minus the Christmas season. GET STARTED.
As TheInebriati says, you can get help.

Get a burner phone to do your searching and seeking help with.

Well done for discovering this. Please speak with Women's Aid.

He will no doubt question why you've changed passwords- you'll need a plausible answer.

Personally I recommend a new phone, new email for socials, ditch the boyfriend as his clearly stalking you in some way. Either his cloned your phone or put something on to access everything. Get rid of him if his this insecure as it will only get worse.

May I recommend, to anyone reading this, a password safe?

pwsafe.org/

That way you can have a different password for every site without having to write them down, or commit them all to memory, and you only need the One Password To Rule Them All. Also, when a website asks for your recovery question, for example, "What was the name of your first pet?", never actually use the name of your first pet, because this sort of stuff can often be dug up through social media. Make up something random, and store that in the password safe, too.

Obviously, what also helps with keeping data safe is not to go out with a stalky fucker who presents themselves as trustworthy. I wish you the very best in escaping him, OP.