Entitled male tradesmen.

[EmKayEm]

Ok.
Had an issue with electrics, kitchen keeps tripping out.
Called a couple of people to come and look at the issue and quote.
One came yesterday, gave me a price, agreed the job, and arranged to sort today. I sorted with work to WFH for the day, as can do stuff around the power being off for a couple of hours.

Last night the guy messages me -
''Um...just wondering...''
"???"
"Are you attached?"
"Why? Does that have anything to do with my kitchen?"

He leaves it a bit, then comes back with

"You can't possibly be single"

Then

"Hope this doesn't come across as creepy lol"

I ignored this. But he still went on. If I had had a bad experience in dating maybe he could change that. He is, of course, "a really nice guy".

I messaged back that my personal life was personal and I would rather keep this strictly professional.

This morning, due at 9am, messages me at 08:15 to say he can't come today due to another job.
I message back to ask when he can, he is a bit vague. I tell him not to to bother, I will contact someone else.
He then messages me to say he was only being nice, I should take it as a compliment etc.

WHAT THE FUCK IS IT WITH ENTITLED CHILDREN DEMANDING ATTENTION???

@pjahsy

I would have cancelled him coming around the moment he sent you strange messages to be honest.

100% this.

@Almostmenopausal

The entitled isn't the asking about my status, it is about being told no and then refusing to do the job that they are paid to do.

That is creepy. Sounds like he is messing you about deliberately cos he feels entitled to you dating him and he has been rejected. Not sure if you are single or not from your post. If you are a single woman I would be very careful about letting a strange man into your home who has sent those kind of messages. Cancel and find someone professional.

Looks like he had a lucky escape.

For some men, the world is their toyshop -- and WE are the toys!

"Are you attached?" = Do you have an owner?

"You can't possibly be single" = Every woman ought to have an owner.

This thread is from November last year

Cancel at the first message. I had a tradesman arrive to finish off the new conservatory a few weeks ago after a solid week's worth of constant work with no issues at all, I let him in and got on with my work, went down to make a coffee and asked him if he wanted anything and he winked and said how about showing me upstairs when I'm done. I told him to f off and to leave immediately, I have withheld the payment and named him locally. He has since sent me a number of messages saying he is sorry and reduced the bill by over 75% if I will stop posting about it on social media. I won't as this is how they learn.

Yes he was creepy and unprofessional - but you get creeps In all walks of life. Most tradespeople thankfully aren’t like this.

<<round of applause>> Good for you!