My doctor just called me a good girl and I died a bit inside

[Wtfdoctor]

I just pretended he hadn't said anything - I don't know what the actual fuck got into him, I think he thought he was being funny or charming or something and I think I was expected to smile and find it funny. But no. It wasn't funny.

He is normally a good doctor who to be fair to him has sorted out a major problem for me because he does actually listen and did blood tests to find out my issue. I generally felt very comfortable with him before this but don't know now at all if I'd feel comfortable going forward. The clinic is hormones/ fertility etc. One of the procedures he recommended I have done is a transvaginal ultrasound and I don't think I can have him do it now.

I just feel really uncomfortable and foolish when I think about it. Am I being oversensitive? I have a lot going on at the moment and wonder if I'm being unreasonable to question having him as my doctor anymore.

It's a bit cheesy and would make me cringe but I'd let it pass personally. Particularly from a doctor in their 70s as I think the standards around appropriate language have changed significantly between my generation and my parents'.

I'd be less forgiving if it was said by a younger doctor which I appreciate is a double standard. Ditto with the use of "my love" or "my darling" which seem to be still used by older men.

I think you're doing absolutely the right thing by not having this doctor do the transvaginal procedure. If your doctor has made you uncomfortable due to anything at all, no matter how big or small or what other people might think or feel, you are right to remove yourself from that situation. I can't believe women are trying to convince you otherwise.

@2Rebecca

Is this in the UK? Here radiographers usually do the ultrasounds even transvaginal ones or sometimes radiologists. You also dont tend to have a gynaecologist for this procedure but another gynaecologist for that procedure unless it's something specialised like infertility and you are going to a tertiary clinic. Maybe it's private UK practice but even then it's unusual for gynaecologists to routinely do ultrasounds

This, & they've finally stopped putting posters of George Clooney, etc., on the ceiling to 'help us relax' WTAF

I’m guessing he was as camp as Christmas?