AIBU to delay 7yr old DD getting ears pierced until she’s 12

[Whosthebestbabainalltheworld]

DD (7) went to a birthday party today where one of the girls got her ears pierced as a birthday present. Cue the inevitable.

I’ve said not until she’s 12. Am I just totally not with it? I don’t have any massive objections, but I was about that age myself and being totally honest, I think they look a bit cheap on small girls - and for saying that out loud I’m sure I will burn in mumsnet hell.

@Lokdok

You’re right. Why are people arguing over semantics, we all know OP means earrings on small children looks tacky and is low class. It’s awful, every time I see a kid with them I think what a shame.

That says more about what kind of person you are to be honest. I think it's a shame that you're so judgemental.

@ChocolateDeficitDisorder

It’s awful, every time I see a kid with them I think what a shame.

Me too, it speaks to the judgement and priorities of the parents.

I'd rather be friends with a parent who let their child get their ears pierced than friends with someone like you.

@Lokdok

You’re right. Why are people arguing over semantics, we all know OP means earrings on small children looks tacky and is low class. It’s awful, every time I see a kid with them I think what a shame.

I personally think it's more of a shame for those children with controlling, overbearing, judgemental parents tbh. They'll grow up and either go off the rails or turn out just as weird as the parents.

@hopingbutlosing

Not expensive??

Did you mean to be dense? It's bloody obvious what the op means

I'm sure we all actually know what the OP means, but it's not a nice way to refer to a 7 year old.

She's not referring to the child 🙄

I told mine 12 and now regret it in some ways should have said 16 but we researched infections and method and places eg but 7 too young

Much easier to wait until they can look after them and aren’t as likely to catch them on anything playing.

We’ve always said we’d do it between leaving primary and starting secondary which coincides with Dd 11th birthday.

This is so middle class it's hilarious. I don't like seeing them on babies because it's painful and unnecessary and they get no say, but I've always said I'll allow DD to get hers done when she asks and is old enough to understand it'll hurt and she'll need to look after them.

I got mine at 5. Primary school is the most common age in my very working class town. DD is 8 and I'd say at least 50% of her peers have them done. Maybe more. I've told her she can get them done when she likes but she's not very keen as she's concerned it'll hurt so I won't bring it up with her now until she asks.