Would you let a 12 year old have their nose pierced?

[SpongebobNoPants]

Just that really.
We’re being harassed and being subjected to awful tantrums and rudeness because DP has said no, it’s not happening.

My 12 year old granddaughter has her nose pierced, along with her bellybutton.
However, as I'm her grandmother I'm not in a position to pass comment on it, despite not agreeing with it.
My own daughter? Not a chance at that age.

I was 14 and had to wear a retainer at school (had snakebites as well) and it was a faff so on that alone I think I'd say wait a bit.

No chance. It would be dismissed out of hand.

[quote KurtWilde]@BowledOverly they absolutely do, as long as there's parental consent. And they're very reputable fwiw. It's not the same as a tattoo, just like a child choosing to have their ears pierced if they get bored of them they take them out and the tiny hole heals up. I honestly don't understand the horror tbh. [/quote]
If you can’t understand then I won’t waste my time trying to explain why body mods on 12 year olds is something parents shouldn’t feel the need to consent to (not envy)

@BowledOverly oh the horror. It's a piercing. Not a swastika tattoo. And anyone who sees a belly button piercing on a 12yo girl as sexual, well the problem is with THEM not the girl, her parent, or the piercing.

I wouldn't necessarily mind as far as the piercing itself. But kid's noses can grow a lot in the early teens, so I'd suggest waiting. No kid wants to end up with a funny piercing.

I also think nose piercings are not the easiest to take care of, and a lot of 12 year olds aren't up to it.

But with tantrums it would be a hard no anyway.

And anyone who sees a belly button piercing on a 12yo girl as sexual, well the problem is with THEM not the girl, her parent, or the piercing

I disagree with this. Belly button piercings by their very nature are designed to draw attention to naked stomachs and draw the eye downwards. I also would question what the child is wearing that would warrant adorning their belly button.
No one is saying a child is “sexual”, that is abhorrent, but the whole point of a belly button piercing is that it is intended to be sexy. So why on earth would anyone let a young child have one??? It’s very different to earrings or a nose ring.

No, absolutely not.

I’ve just had mine done and wouldn’t recommend it to anyone after the bother I’ve had! I had to take it out and it’s turned into a small but noticeable keloid scar/piercing bump thing. At 12 I would definitely say no

Not at that age and I say that as someone who loves my nose piercing!

@BlibBlabBlob

Surely it's illegal in the UK anyway? Ear lobes only until age 16, I believe. At least with any reputable piercing studio.

It'd be a no from me. I have my nose pierced. I love it but it takes a really long time to heal and there are often complications. Not something a 12 year old should be taking on. Very welcome problematic for school sports etc as well.

If it's still the same as when I was young it's 16+ without parental consent. You can have piercings younger if you have consent.

@SpongebobNoPants

And anyone who sees a belly button piercing on a 12yo girl as sexual, well the problem is with THEM not the girl, her parent, or the piercing

I disagree with this. Belly button piercings by their very nature are designed to draw attention to naked stomachs and draw the eye downwards. I also would question what the child is wearing that would warrant adorning their belly button.
No one is saying a child is “sexual”, that is abhorrent, but the whole point of a belly button piercing is that it is intended to be sexy. So why on earth would anyone let a young child have one??? It’s very different to earrings or a nose ring.

Well she certainly doesn't go round school in a crop top showing her bellybutton off! She does like to wear things that show her midriff during the summer though, and why not when those kinds of clothes are sold in children's departments? May as well say that kind of outfit shouldn't be sold in child sizes at that rate, if a bare midriff could be seen as a sexual thing. And that's a slippery slope to young girls being made to feel like they're responsible for the inappropriate thoughts and behaviour of boys and men.

And really, who are we to question what another parent allows? My DDs aren't interested in belly button piercings fwiw, but that doesn't mean I judge parents who's DDs have had it done.

Just no. Infections, sports, problems with a cold. Catching it on something. If you can't resist tantrums over this you won't be able to when she is asking to do anything else under your roof.

And that's a slippery slope to young girls being made to feel like they're responsible for the inappropriate thoughts and behaviour of boys and men
Don’t be obtuse. Women / girls are not responsible for the inappropriate thoughts of boys but young children require protecting from these things, and encouraging sexualised dressing of young children isn’t being a good parent to them.

Well here to agree to disagree on this one @KurtWilde because I definitely think belly buttons are designed to be sexy and therefore have no place on 12 year old children.

Also, just because shops sell certain things doesn’t mean everyone finds it acceptable or that we want our kids wearing these things.

We’ll have to agree to disagree*

And belly button piercings, not just actual belly buttons 😂😂

No way!!

No I’ve told my daughter she can when she’s 16, I’ve said belly piercing from 14 but nothing on face

No. No way. Not until 18 for a face piercing.

No way!
They are not mature enough to decide what they want on their face for the rest of their lives, plus they cannot wear it to school (at least in most UK ones).
Now, when it comes to fake ones, why not? You better say yes to those now, or she will actually get a real one as soon as possible!
I got fake ones for mine. Can be used on ears or nose. It is better to let them express themselves, within our watching eye range.

No way. My dd wants this done along with a few other piercings and I said I will consider it when she is sixteen(next year)

Nope

[quote LawnFever]I’ve got a tonne of piercings and at 12 I still say no, because a reputable piercing salon wouldn’t do it, and I wouldn’t go anywhere like Claire’s that uses a gun, especially for a facial piercing.

This place is very highly regarded and says no under 13s, I actually thought itd be 16 but there you go.

www.holier-than-thou.co.uk/services/piercing-faqs/[/quote]
I agree.

13 here is for lobes... 16 for other piercings. So your initial thought was correct.

The tantrums prove she isn't old enough for me. She's acting like a child (which she is) and needs to wait until she's older to make these kind of decisions for herself.