Would you let a 12 year old have their nose pierced?

[SpongebobNoPants]

Just that really.
We’re being harassed and being subjected to awful tantrums and rudeness because DP has said no, it’s not happening.

Absolutely not. Why have you allowed her to dress and act much older than her years. That’s total inappropriate.

My best friend and I got ours done at 12, very much without parental permission. A bloke in a booth at a shopping centre did it, £5 for two!

I took care of it fine and never had any issues. Other than waiting for my parents to notice and go crazy, and waiting, and waiting...they never did notice.
I finally told them two weeks later enraged that my rebellion had gone completely unremarked upon!

Slightly surprised that looked tarty according to PP, I was going for edgy/mysterious as I remember.

Oh and to prove myself totally hypocritical I would say no!
I think maybe 14 and over is the right time, although couldn't explain why.

Absolutely not.

I feel for the girl and the lazy parenting.

@Allaboutthecake please read the thread. My DP and I haven’t allowed any of this and don’t allow her to dress inappropriately whilst in our care.
Unfortunately we cannot control what happens when she’s with her mum.

[quote SpongebobNoPants]@Hankunamatata that’s exactly what was said.
When she’s 16 she can do as she pleases piercings wise.[/quote]
I think 18 is more like it for other piercings. Nose and belly I say 16. Mine wanted belly at 14 I said when your 16 but she didn't want it after 16 anyway !

Goodness me absolutely not and I wouldn't be entertaining anymore discussions about it. Yes children can have their say about certain things but at some point they need an adult to take the control and say not right now! Is she facing peer pressure?

I feel for the girl and the lazy parenting
Us too. As I said upthread, all my DP can do is put appropriate boundaries in place whilst she’s with us. He’s tried time and time again to tackle these issues with her mum and discuss things but she just closes any attempts at communicating down or agrees with him during the conversation, then disregards it afterwards and gives in to the kids.

No.

@WingingItSince1973 no peer pressure as far as I can discern. None of her friends have facial piercings.

mine would be a no on the basis of her age and the fact that its not a hygienic area and she is still in the rough and tumble of school & PE so for me safety issue. I would go into a tattoo parlour/piercing place as not sure they would even do it in a reputable place but they would def be able to let you know the pros and cons of different ages. Wld be 16 for me

@DeepaBeesKit

Cripes at 12? No way.

Honestly I dont care if I'm laughed at for my choice of words but a 12 year old with a pierced nose would look plain old tarty to me.

I was thinking that too!!
Can't bear younger girls with their ears pierced more than once either.

No

No. 16 minimum. My husband used to be a body piercer and he said 16 too.

My DD had hers done at 13, she looked after it fine and absolutely loves it.

DS had his done at 12, DD at 13. Can't see an issue as long as they look after it - which they did.

DD11 wants hers doing for her 12th birthday next year, which is fine. Her best friend turned 12 last week and had her belly button pierced.

@KurtWilde

DS had his done at 12, DD at 13. Can't see an issue as long as they look after it - which they did.

DD11 wants hers doing for her 12th birthday next year, which is fine. Her best friend turned 12 last week and had her belly button pierced.

This actually makes me feel ill. A reputable piercing studio wouldn’t belly button pierce children this young

@KurtWilde I think it’s more acceptable / normal in different social circles. Where we live it’s very unusual for kids to have facial piercings and virtually unheard of on a 12 year old.

Where my cousin lives the kids are far more alternative and all have piercings.

And I’m sorry but belly button piercings are definitely very sexualised. Incredibly inappropriate on such a young child

No. I had mine done at 14- still have the scar. My kids won't be getting any difficult piercings like that until they are adults.

Absolutely not.

@BowledOverly they absolutely do, as long as there's parental consent. And they're very reputable fwiw. It's not the same as a tattoo, just like a child choosing to have their ears pierced if they get bored of them they take them out and the tiny hole heals up. I honestly don't understand the horror tbh.

Maybe, I’m not sure. Neither of mine ever asked. I certainly wouldn’t care if someone else let their dd have theirs done at that age. Dd2 13 has her helix pierced and her friend got her nose done at the same time. It looks alright, I don’t really get all the stress over piercings.

Yes I would, school permitting. I had a nose piercing at 16 and took it out after couple years and all I have is a tiny dent where it was, so if she changes her mind it will heal. It's not as though she's getting 666 tattooed across her forehead. Having said that, my 15 year old dd isn't the slightest bit interested in anything like that, no piercings or makeup wearing, hair dye etc, she just isn't interested.

No chance