Chanel on play dates

[Christmasadverthell]

Went to one of my regular play dates with my Ds, 3 yesterday and noticed again the number of beautiful Chanel bags, designer sandals etc etc. Lovely, down to earth mums, nice friends, but I’m just not in the same league with my Zara bag & trainers
Aibu in feeling a bit shit about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t think the retailers of Chanel bags would entertain an association with Klarna for a nano second.

Ha ha.. more fool them then. They are probably doing themselves out of extras sales to those who are desperate to keep up with the Palmer-Tomkin-Jonses types

How silly it all is and how little it all matters in the scheme of things

@ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHaands

*I don’t think the retailers of Chanel bags would entertain an association with Klarna for a nano second.*

Ha ha.. more fool them then. They are probably doing themselves out of extras sales to those who are desperate to keep up with the Palmer-Tomkin-Jonses types

How silly it all is and how little it all matters in the scheme of things

Given that they destroy excess stock rather than reduce it, extra sales don’t appear to be a major concern. It would take someone who needs Klarna about ten years to pay for a Chanel bag.

Handbags and shoes are Asda for me - more important stuff to spend my pennies on!

Not keen on chanel, chain strap! naaaa. Get yourself to TKMAXX or bugger it and love the stuff you have

I have an everyday Chanel bag (GST) that I just love. I’ve had it for over ten years, it’s the perfect size and doesn’t age or look shabby. It’s my go to bag most days. I have also own a 2.55 I use for special occasions, mainly as it’s too small to cart my life around in. I usually pair it with a dress from a selection I own that cost about between £10-£30. It’s all relative 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Toottooot

Chanel on Klarna - ha ha ha ha. Don’t think that’s ever going to happen.

Quick google of any department store & there you have it. 3 instalments of £300+ klarna and PayPal

You can’t buy a Chanel bag for three instalments of £300 - you might just about get the handle for that.

I have a bag for life.

Are you in Dubai @Christmasadverthell ? Depends who you are hanging round with but a LOT of fake handbags there.

The designer handbags are definitely not better quality - so I think people buy them because they are designer ......

Don't be your own enemy. They probably don't care what you are wearing. People worth knowing don't judge others on such material things
I used to get bogged down with worrying about things like this, now I just crack on and try to enjoy every situation.

MN is a strange place. In one thread people are talking earning 250k/yr having ponies, livery fees, cleaners, gardeners,£10k holidays and nannies. The venom on there is no where near as bad as it is on this thread where an expensive bag is the desire of the OP. I have Chanel bags I bought before having a child and buying our house. I don't have self esteem issues and have no desire to keep up with the Jones . handbags r my thing. All the other bags I own probably cost as much as the Chanels. I have several. I am not a fan of expensive holidays (I personally think they r a waste of money but if that's what you enjoy that is fine!) I wouldn't buy one now because the prices r ludicrous but I have no desire to explain/understand Chanel's branding/price structuring. I wear my bags to the park, the supermarket, playdates wherever I desire. I don't care if anyone thinks they are fake or that I have personality issues (you don't know me!). Sweeping assumptions and generalisation at its best on this thread. The mind boggles.

I've got 3 best friends I met at Play group 25 years ago. We are all so different, even now! I was in my doc martens and coloured hair and they were all yummy mummies. We are all very different to this day but that's what has made our friendship last. We don't judge each other and we embrace and laugh about how different we are. Never had a designer anything or a posh house and it's got. I thing to do with income it's just personal choice

I’m amazed how quick people are to judge the OPs friends as shallow, competitive, likely to be bad friends etc based entirely off owning a designer bag/shoes despite the OP repeatedly saying that she gets on well with them and there don’t seem to be any issues other than the OP feeling insecure? Women really are our own worst enemies aren’t we?
There’s such an innate misogyny about judging what women spend money on,nicely summed up here.

There’s no rule saying that you have to buy or even want to buy a designer handbag. I’ve spent quite a bit on bags in my time, not chanel prices but not primark either because they make me happy. I like feeling the quality of the leather or the lining silk, I like the choice of colours and pulling an outfit together (it’s a chance to be creative and do something for me before dragging myself out to work). I remember where I got them (a lot I’ve got on holiday so there’s my honeymoon bag or the bag I got when caught in a downpour in Barcelona). Would I buy a 4 grand bag? No, I’d rather go on holiday and buy myself a 500 pound bag there. That’s my choice - although after the last couple of years maybe having a more expensive bag that I absolutely loved might have been a better daily pick me up than the string of cancelled holidays.

I go to the theatre a lot. My friend spent hundreds recently ( probably into the thousands once she’s added in travel, hotel etc) to see her favourite singer. More than I’ve spent on going to the theatre in the last year (and I’ve gone a little mad post lockdown!). Did I judge her? No, because she will have an amazing time and just as I wouldn’t be interested in seeing her choice she would have hated a lot of the plays I’ve gone to recently. If I’d spent what she spent and how she spent it, it would have been a waste of money and vice versa for her!

Ultimately I can guarantee that we all have some interest or spending habits that others would baffle at. It seems to be that women spending money on themselves is judged as a moral failing much more than men are. If the OPs friends are wearing Chanel I can guarantee the men in their families are probably wearing expensive clothing, watches etc but there’s no thread here calling them shallow or warning they may be potential mean girls….

I absolutely love bags but wouldn't pay more than about £40 for one and love my bags from Asda/Monsoon etc. The bags with names on often are truly not to my taste. If people want to buy them, fine, but I often feel it's just because they are named and not because they're really nice .

If I had enough money for a Chanel bag I could think of much better things to spend it on. Each to their own. Certainly don't compare yourself to them.

Why are people so desperate for the bags to be fake? Is that what you need to tell yourself to make yourself feel better or what?

How you feel about it is up to you OP. I find how you put yourself together is more important than the rice of what you have on.
If you look good, you'll feel good, it doesn't matter how much it cost.
I'm not one for designer labels but have a couple of rich friends who spend loads on fashion. I've never felt inferior to them and have been complemented on my outfits, the last one of which was a top from George at Asda. I'm mostly in Brora, Jigsaw, Hobbs, Zara, M&S.
If they're lovely people, it shouldn't matter.
Rock what you have with confidence, you've worked hard for it.

Because the chances are that they are fake. Unless OP has fallen in with a group of footballers wags

@Viviennemary

Because the chances are that they are fake. Unless OP has fallen in with a group of footballers wags

Here we go again!

Yeah I get what you’re saying op. You basically saw some beautiful stuff and felt slightly envious that you couldn’t afford it.

Some of the comments on here are awful , such inverted snobbery

My daughter was privately educated and I recall my father and his girlfriend coming with me one rare visit to pick her up.

The mothers were Predominantly wealthy and off course had quite cut glass accents, something I never really thought about, and my fathers girlfriend, looked a group of them up and down and said loudly so they could hear, and with a disgusted sneer ( we are Scottish) “I canny go that, their fucking posh voices and fucking stupid looking bags, oh la fucking te da” and quite frankly I was appalled at her judgyness and embarrassed when they all looked at her.

I just responded it was inverted snobbery and she’d not wish to be judged like that, her behaviour wasn’t ok and this was my daughters school she was visiting, so she should keep a civil tongue in her head.

People are fucking odd sometimes with the chip on their shoulders.

🙈THE BAGS AREN'T FAKE!!!

@motherheroic

Why are people so desperate for the bags to be fake? Is that what you need to tell yourself to make yourself feel better or what?

Because it’s a branded bag. The primary function is telling everyone you have a £2,000 bag.If that’s important to you the chances are appearance is more important than the bag itself.

No one fakes a non branded bag, as theres no point. So who us buying all the fakes?

@Christmasadverthell

🙈THE BAGS AREN'T FAKE!!!

I feel like they might be fake, have you considered that?

@Lightisnotwhite Whatever you need to tell yourself.

@motherheroic

Why are people so desperate for the bags to be fake? Is that what you need to tell yourself to make yourself feel better or what?

Because anyone that knows anything about handbags knows how hard they are to get hold of, how expensive they are and how many people buy fakes - even people with plenty of money