DH calls his mum first

[JSmithy438]

I know I probably need to get a grip but it is really p me off when ever something bad happens to DH or there is a crisis for him he calls his mum first to tell her and me second. If it is something that involves me or the kids then he will call me first and his mum second but still I'd like to think he would call me first all the time.

Yesterday he had a REALLY bad day at work and was super upset, he called his mum first then me second.

I wish my husband would call his mum sometimes. I am his only support as he doesn't usually ask his family or friends for help. Not with real problems

Ten pages of mostly reasonable comments and even after all of that there's the occasional post that's just breathtaking in how absolutely vile it is.

Surely @MollyMinniesMum @ArchibaldsDaddy @Bleachmycloths and their ilk are trolls? Surely no one is that unpleasant.

My comment was very tongue in cheek

@MRex do I know you????????

@gannett

Ten pages of mostly reasonable comments and even after all of that there's the occasional post that's just breathtaking in how absolutely vile it is.

Surely @MollyMinniesMum @ArchibaldsDaddy @Bleachmycloths and their ilk are trolls? Surely no one is that unpleasant.

A troll? Lol! Because I think men who turn to their mothers first are weak?? It shows that the relationship they have with their wives or partners isn’t strong. Why does having an opinion make someone a troll? The post was AIBU. And I don’t think she was BU and I explained why. 🙄

@TheChip

Maybe his mum provides the side of engaging with his frustration over the situation and you provide more a useful listening ear. Sometimes when we are annoyed, we want people to just listen and see it fully from our side to begin with. His mother might fill that gap, and then you help properly when he's calmer.

This is so true. I would guess the OP tries to get him to calm and see things rationally but in his hyper-arousal state he needs validation of his feelings hence going to mum who backs his anger up with her own. It isn't the nicest thing but my daughter always comes to me first and my son doesn't unless he needs mama bear to step in

If it happened to be his father or a friend, would he be weak and the relationship not strong?
Or is it just because it's his mother?

@gannett

Ten pages of mostly reasonable comments and even after all of that there's the occasional post that's just breathtaking in how absolutely vile it is.

Surely @MollyMinniesMum @ArchibaldsDaddy @Bleachmycloths and their ilk are trolls? Surely no one is that unpleasant.

Hyperbolic snowflakery, much?? 🤣.

@ArchibaldsDaddy
I'm with everybody else, your views are unkind and old fashioned. Thank goodness attitudes are changing. Your attitude belongs in the past.