Friend threatening to tell her DD uni's that she drink drives

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Friend's DD who is at uni was done for drink driving very recently, her mother is absolutely furious with her to the point she is threatening to tell her uni of her crime as she thinks her tutors would love to know and would appreciate the heads up that one of their students drink drives. Her DD has vowed to never speak to her mum again if she follows through with her threat.

What do you make of the situation?

The dd is utterly stupid for drink driving. The mother is utterly ridiculous for thinking the uni will care. Unless she's doing a course where driving is required.

What is she studying? There will be some courses where she will need to declare a conviction.

Otherwise, I really don't see how it's relevant to her lecturers unless her drinking is an ongoing concern that uni welfare need to be aware of.

Both of them are being ridiculous

Does she need to drive to placements or need a clean record for professional accreditation? Otherwise it really won't be taken seriously.

@LIZS

Does she need to drive to placements or need a clean record for professional accreditation? Otherwise it really won't be taken seriously.

No she doesn't

Both stupid

Are you the mother?

Her uni won’t care

I hope this was the wake up call she needed and never does it again

Why on Earth do you think out of the hundreds (thousands?) of students your daughters tutors teach they will care/pay attention to this if you inform them? Do you think they have no lives of their own other than the students they teach and they will react any more strongly than a shrug?

The mum is lashing out

What exactly does the mother think this will achieve?

@needanewlaptop

The mum is lashing out

This Uni won’t care...the mother likely knows that....but she see she has hit a nerve by saying this to her daughter....the Mum is angry .....she will calm down....I doubt very much she will follow through with her threat

The most the university will do is have a wellbeing chat with the daughter

What good will telling the university do?!

Surely it’s a police matter and she should have her licence removed.

Friend's DD has said she will deny to the uni what she did if her Mum tells them

What a mess.
Of course the parent should not tell the university. Does she think university office will fire it off as an email to her tutors?

I'd be absolutely furious too if one of my DC did this, but I can't see the point in telling the university. It's a irrelevant detail to them, given you've said she doesn't need a clean record or have to attend placements currently. I wouldn't think they'd even add that information to her University records as it's being provided by a third party that's not the police or another official body and could be malicious. This dispute over telling her Uni is taking the focus off where it should be, which is on DDs behaviour.

The mum would do much better by removing the car keys from the daughter.

Both stupid, and if the mother is trying to teach her daughter a lesson, she'd be better off googling the stories of people who've lost family members to fucking drunk drivers.

The mother sounds really cruel to me. Don't get me wrong, I'd be completely fuming if my DC did this but I wouldn't threaten to do this. I doubt the university would care but I could be wrong

Friend thinks they might remove her from the course but of course they won't I agree my friend is lashing out, she seems to have made it a mission to make her DD's life a misery now.

If she was caught then that’s all punishment she needs. It’s going follow her for years if not forever every time wants insurance or DBS check. The Uni will not care what does she think will happen, she gets a term of dentention?

’Friend thinks they might remove her from the course’

And if they did? What does she think having her DD kicked off her University course would achieve?

@Carboncheque

’Friend thinks they might remove her from the course’

And if they did? What does she think having her DD kicked off her University course would achieve?

It wouldn't achieve nothing but friend thinks it's not fair that a place at a uni is being taken up by a criminal where they would have been people who applied to the course who did not get on the course.

Tbh if it was my dc I’d be fuming drink driving is serious she could’ve killed someone so I suspect she wants to give her a good sharp shock. Back in the real world I doubt it’s nothing to do with uni , hopefully she’s learned her less and will never drink drive again .