Long winded.... Today is my DS 1st birthday. We intend to celebrate this tomorrow with family and friends and have hired a venue and entertainment etc to do so (we couldn't find a venue today).
Today his actual birthday day, we are taking DS out to the circus . The circus is very close to where my parents live so we will be popping in to see them.
I have specifically told my family not to get/make a cake as it won't be fair on DS other set of grandparents, DH side and we will all do one together tomorrow.
My husband and I will cut a cupcake with him today.
DGP asked if they could come round prior to going to the circus to drop off his presents. DH said yes but pressies only and nothing else.
They've come round and MIL has baked a cake with a candle declaring to wake DS up we are going to cut the cake.
I looked at DH who gave a well what can you do look to me and said meakley I said pressies only.
MIL piped up again, we are going to cut the cake. I had to then intercept as I was quite agitated at this point that I had said no cakes etc to my parents etc etc. And now it won't be fair on them so we won't cut the cake.
PIL seemed upset and said OK we will cut the cake tomorrow.
MIL always has a habit of doing what she wants.
AIBU to have said what I did?
If so any suggestions on how to handle this better.
It's put a real dampener on the day.