To think there's a stigma over having a third child?

[Beachloveramy]

Please tell me I'm not alone.

I already have a 14 year old I had quite young and a three year old (with my husband) and I'm 3 months pregnant with our third child.

As I've slowly told people about the pregnancy I've received a lot of comments such as "you're pregnant again?!"

Now, I don't exactly feel as if I've been popping them out, there are fairly big age gaps between my children. Myself and my husband do also both work full time and support our own family but for some reason I can't be completely excited about this baby as there seems to be a stigma associated.

I'm I being paranoid or are woman judged for having more than two children?

@SomethingOnce

No, sure you don’t.

You seem to be having difficulty grasping that just because I said that about a particular poster, it doesn’t mean I believe it generally or universally to be the case. It’s really not that hard.

Because you said it when that poster had said the complete opposite. You swooped in to have a go because you couldn’t believe being older and childless would make a woman happy. There was nothing in that post to indicate otherwise.

People told me I was crazy to be going back to the baby stage and also questioned why I felt the need to have another when I had a dd and ds already.

I was crazy for having them so close together and as I had a boy and girl for wanting another.

In an ideal world we've have had many more - three was the compromise number did think about 4th as we loved being parents but had awful experince with 3rd pg with NHS - and money and time worries meant we stopped.

Strangly some of the most hostile people to thrid pg were then upset we didn't want or intend a fourth - people are weird.

The UK birth rate is in a steady slow slump and has been for many years which for tax and social reasons is probably best than dramatic drops.

www.macrotrends.net/countries/GBR/united-kingdom/birth-rate

Buy yes there is increasingly a stigma especailly if there's no blended family/new parnter- though ironically at tourist places there's many more 5 or more family tickets avliable than ever when I was in a family of 5 growing up.

@polkadotclip - I’m over fifty, so have definitely see how being the golden child affects people long into adulthood. It’s better not to have a favorite, but it often happens.

For someone to say your pregnant again they must know you...

To be honest there seems to be a ‘stigma’ around anything other than two kids, one of each sex. No kids? You’re unnatural/will regret it when you’re old. One child? You’re selfish/he’ll be lonely and spoiled. Two of the same sex? You need to try again to get the full set. More than two? Selfish/haven’t you heard of contraception/don’t you know about overpopulation?

Just do what’s right for you and your family.

Congratulations, OP.

I see it as a bit of a status symbol and I always look amazed when a Mum announces baby 3/4/5.....it shoes a testament to their finances, marriage, patience, emotional capability and some sort of parenting skills that I seem to lack, as I only have two.