To embrace getting older?

[donemeover]

I don't know why older people always talk to younger people as though they're jealous and wish they were young again.

Saying things like 'these are the best years of your life when you're young' isn't how I feel. Youth is full of ignorance and insecurity a lot of the time and uncertainty that I really didn't enjoy.

Getting older for me feels liberating, I've accomplished things and am proud of it that I couldn't have down when I was young. I have less test idiot men to content with approaching me as I get older, I am more confidence, I have less social anxiety, and I am frankly starting to give much less fucks about other people and what they think/how they receive me.

There are Many benefits to ageing, I don't see the majority of them as a massive disadvantage.

Also - I'm not fussed about when my days are over really and I die. I don't want to live forever!

Anyone else with me on this or am I weird?

And how old are you? This information is crucial.

@HalfpastFlea 35

35 - you are so very young still!

@RandomMess yes but I hear so many people my age saying this to younger people, I don't understand it!

[quote donemeover]@HalfpastFlea 35[/quote]

Ffs you are 35

You are not old.

Getting old is painful. I mean real physical pain.
It is also limiting. Places you can’t go anymore.
Being looked through and ignored.

Come back after you have gone through the menopause

My thirties was my favourite decade so maybe this is why you feel like this

@GreenLunchBox how old are you? What's your least favourite decade?

I am nearly double your age and feel the same

Mind you, I do look at young women and because they don't give two hoots about being fat and love flaunting it so I do find that really liberating in a cringey sort of way but good luck to them!

Many other cultures also embrace the beauty of being obese as a sign of fertility and abundance so I have to take off my judgey pants although it's hard when it's what you have been conditioned to believe in from the 60s onwards.

Was weight for females ever a thing before?!

I think women judge each other far too much but when you get older, as long as you have your health, your children are all doing well then you really don't have so many introspective worries .

I think this is one of the most threads that’s ever been on MN. I hope you are pulling our leg.

Well l am loving my 40s so far.

Getting old is a privilege. I had a good friend who will never have it.

@CurlyhairedAssassin I don't know what you mean I think there's a typo in your message!

@Tarne this is positive to hear! And I agree about people being quite judgey

@CurlyhairedAssassin

I think this is one of the most threads that’s ever been on MN. I hope you are pulling our leg.

Ignorant. Ignorant theads

35 🤣🤣🤣

@CurlyhairedAssassin ignorant to be positive about ageing when so many are so down on it?

I think you should leave the thread if that's how you feel, it clearly isn't for you.

Instead let's all be sad and piss moan and whine about getting older, would that make you happy?

Grasshopper, you have much to learn.. Just saying

@RandomMess

35 - you are so very young still!

😘 give it 20 years 🤣

40s is fine. Till they’re not - when you’re nearing 50. Till your hormones start playing up, you start sleeping badly, you’re shocked to find your libido alters, your parents suddenly seem to age very quickly, you start getting the odd ache and pain, your confidence plummets and you have as much anxiety as a teenager. It’s quite shocking to find yourself feeling so different when perimenopause starts up.

35 is still young. Since then, I've had a child, been made redundant twice, developed a chronic illness and both my parents have died. I'm only 46 and am already wondering if my happiest days are behind me. Sorry for the downer post, but it's true that life can kick you in the butt.

I agree op-I’m 44. If ever I feel moany I genuinely think of jo cox and check myself.

[quote donemeover]@HalfpastFlea 35[/quote]
Come back in 20 odd years.

You are still very young.

Ffs I can't believe I'm responding to a 35 year old about this 😂

Your 30s is a great decade, as you have much more confidence and less insecurity than in your 20s and you’re probably much better off financially, more settled etc, but with all the benefits of still being young.

@Bythemillpond

Ffs you are 35

You are not old.

Getting old is painful. I mean real physical pain.
It is also limiting. Places you can’t go anymore.
Being looked through and ignored.

Come back after you have gone through the menopause

The part about being looked through and ignored is a real thing. When I was younger I never believed that could be true. So true. SIgned, Older that Dirt.

Geez, I didn't mean to offend anyone having a hard time!

I'm trying to be positive - as I hear too much negativity about age and never positivity and I guess I just find it weird.

There ARE some positives to getting older and obviously the positives will vary from person to person but no one seems to value wisdom these days, it's about shallow youth and beauty. And I think it's BS.