To embrace getting older?

[donemeover]

I don't know why older people always talk to younger people as though they're jealous and wish they were young again.

Saying things like 'these are the best years of your life when you're young' isn't how I feel. Youth is full of ignorance and insecurity a lot of the time and uncertainty that I really didn't enjoy.

Getting older for me feels liberating, I've accomplished things and am proud of it that I couldn't have down when I was young. I have less test idiot men to content with approaching me as I get older, I am more confidence, I have less social anxiety, and I am frankly starting to give much less fucks about other people and what they think/how they receive me.

There are Many benefits to ageing, I don't see the majority of them as a massive disadvantage.

Also - I'm not fussed about when my days are over really and I die. I don't want to live forever!

Anyone else with me on this or am I weird?

Hmmm, update us when youve gone through the menopause.

[quote donemeover]@CurlyhairedAssassin ignorant to be positive about ageing when so many are so down on it?

I think you should leave the thread if that's how you feel, it clearly isn't for you.

Instead let's all be sad and piss moan and whine about getting older, would that make you happy?[/quote]
You’re ignorant to be positive about something you have no experience of. If you’d have started a thread saying you’d found being in your 30s a pleasant surprise from your teens and 20s I could have agreed with you completely. But you’re just using the generic “ageing” which encompasses a number of decades. A few of which are in reality not quite the Rose-tinted future glow you seem to have from your still very youthful state.

35?? you ain't aged yet...

Come on, FFS

It's not about a hard time, it's that you think 35 is old 🤣🤣

You have a l o n g way to go til you're 'ageing'...

You are only 35 so still too young to be talking about ageing.

@CurlyhairedAssassin the definition of ageing is getting older? Sorry for the technicalities in my post perhaps not being to your liking but you have read it and can surely understand the sentiment of it.

You are being pedantic.

@Hunderland I never said 35 was old! It's approaching middle age, so I am approx halfway through my life.

Surely I'm entitled to have an opinion on how getting older has benefits?

Or can I only comment when I get to 70,80?

@CurlyhairedAssassin also you are ignorant to imply I have no experience of life, when I'm halfway through it.

Although i reckon you started this thread with the best intentions..
I really really think you should come back to discuss in 15 years time.

I was about to give you a hard time, OP. I'm 50. But 35, while very young still, is indeed a funny age. It's the age when society starts closing the window on your behalf: Fertility, marriage, career, looks... less so nowadays, I'd say, but when I was 35, the mid-to-late 30s became a negative age. I think the mid-to-late 30s are prime and amazing years.
But good on you for embracing getting older. You're being unfairly mocked here. It takes a second to get from 35 to 50 and you're recognising this now.
I'd take the compassionate heart and wise mind (something no school but the school of life can teach) that I have now over the looks I had in my youth any day, all day long. And I mean that sincerely.

I agree with you OP.
I'm 50 and through the menopause, not having periods any more was liberating for me.

35

@GreenLunchBox

My thirties was my favourite decade so maybe this is why you feel like this

Mine too, I think. Past the insecurities of your teens and the “finding your niche” of career building in your 20s. Many of us are embarking on new fulfilling and thrilling stages of our lives an our 30a such as house buying, getting married or starting a family. All new experiences which for most are exciting changes which add to our life experience and knowledge of the world. And our bodies are still relatively in perfect condition (unless we have any health conditions which aren’t age-related, of course). So yes, you are full of youthful positivity. “Ah so this is what being an adult is like, it’s really not too bad at all!”

40s equals ok for the first half. Doesn’t feel too bad. But the shittier stuff does slowly creep up on you

40s are when the first signs of bodily ageing starts. Or at least it’s harder to stay feeling healthy. Harder to keep weight off. Harder to get by with less sleep without looking haggard next day. Worries over teenage kids, elderly parents, grandparents dying etc etc. You see your kids going off to Uni and reality bites when you realise that it’s so long ago that you went (cos in your head it’s only 10 years since you graduated). Your kids slowly become better versions of yourself so part of you thinks “ah well, Nature, your work here is done, what’s next for me? A slow decline? Ooh how exciting…..”

[quote donemeover]@GreenLunchBox how old are you? What's your least favourite decade?
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Worst decade was my teens

Your kids slowly become better versions of yourself grin so part of you thinks “ah well, Nature, your work here is done, what’s next for me?

Haha, aww that's so cute

I do embrace getting older. A very, very good friend of mine died when we were 46. 5 years on, I’m happy to still be here, and unmedicated.

I'm 50 and through the menopause, not having periods any more was liberating for me.

YES! And leaving the fertility club! Playgroup, pregnancy, miscarriages, stillbirth, TTC, handbags at dawn over primary school places... not necessarily in that order...leave allll that shit (and periods!) behind! Aging rules.

All those laughing saying 35 is still young. What age would be appropriate for the op to say those things?

Just curious.

I was with you until I read 35

If you feel the same at 58, cool.

@Catsoutthebag id also love to know. I find it extremely patronising that age 35 isn't qualified to embrace getting older.

Today 20:34 donemeover

@Catsoutthebag id also love to know. I find it extremely patronising that age 35 isn't qualified to embrace getting older“

35 is young

@MrsSkylerWhite I KNOW! I never said 35 was old, I just said I am embracing getting older.

So, I feel more confident and secure than 10 years ago, and ten years before that etc.

I see the loss of youth coming at me already, things I can't do now/don't enjoy the same way I did when I was younger but I enjoy it.

I'm not fussed - I don't want to do what younger people do. When older people (some) seem to look back at envy at those days - I don't. That's all I'm saying.

OP it really is ridiculous to write a thread about embracing aging when you are only 35. Come back in 30 years maybe.

[quote donemeover]@HalfpastFlea 35[/quote]
Hahahaha 🤣
Wait til you hit 60.
Although personally I'm loving it 😜

[quote donemeover]@Catsoutthebag id also love to know. I find it extremely patronising that age 35 isn't qualified to embrace getting older.
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Because it’s like someone who is 25 saying they love getting older. It doesn’t make sense, you are still in the “young” bracket. Everyone is getting older every day. How you feel about that depends on how old you actually ARE.