To embrace getting older?

[donemeover]

I don't know why older people always talk to younger people as though they're jealous and wish they were young again.

Saying things like 'these are the best years of your life when you're young' isn't how I feel. Youth is full of ignorance and insecurity a lot of the time and uncertainty that I really didn't enjoy.

Getting older for me feels liberating, I've accomplished things and am proud of it that I couldn't have down when I was young. I have less test idiot men to content with approaching me as I get older, I am more confidence, I have less social anxiety, and I am frankly starting to give much less fucks about other people and what they think/how they receive me.

There are Many benefits to ageing, I don't see the majority of them as a massive disadvantage.

Also - I'm not fussed about when my days are over really and I die. I don't want to live forever!

Anyone else with me on this or am I weird?

Think a lot of people are being unnecessarily hard on the OP here, sure she's 35 but loads of women in their early 30s are already having botox to prevent aging. The cult of youth is pervasive.

Would be great to have more responses on here that were more "that's a great attitude OP, hang on to it, it's mostly how I feel now in my 50s" as opposed to "oh just you wait, you don't know what's coming to you, it's about to get shit". Way to kill her positivity about getting older.

[quote donemeover]@Catsoutthebag id also love to know. I find it extremely patronising that age 35 isn't qualified to embrace getting older.
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It's not patronising FFS. It's fact. Get over yourself, do.

[quote donemeover]@CurlyhairedAssassin ignorant to be positive about ageing when so many are so down on it?

I think you should leave the thread if that's how you feel, it clearly isn't for you.

Instead let's all be sad and piss moan and whine about getting older, would that make you happy?[/quote]
You are 35. Your argument is fruitless, pointless, and ludicrous.

You can't say ANYthing about 'getting old' and people 'moaning' about it, when you are 35 FFS. You are still young.

That's like someone saying mothers have no right to complain about childbirth when they've never given birth themselves.

You have no right.

@donemeover

Geez, I didn't mean to offend anyone having a hard time!

Yes you bloody did. The tone of your posts show you don't give a shit who you offend.

I’m late 30s and also think getting older is something to celebrate. I lost some good friends far too young when we were in our twenties. Every day is a privilege and while I’ve no doubt it will all get much harder, I’d rather that than not be here.

I also wouldn’t swap the wisdom I’m gaining for the youth I’m losing, though I know there’ll come a point when I’ve lost both!

@LittleDandelionClock I never said I was getting old.

Why are people exaggerating my words 🤷‍♀️

Does it make you feel better about being shitty?

@KiwiDramaQueen

Think a lot of people are being unnecessarily hard on the OP here, sure she's 35 but loads of women in their early 30s are already having botox to prevent aging. The cult of youth is pervasive.

Would be great to have more responses on here that were more "that's a great attitude OP, hang on to it, it's mostly how I feel now in my 50s" as opposed to "oh just you wait, you don't know what's coming to you, it's about to get shit". Way to kill her positivity about getting older.

Nobody is being 'unnecessarily hard on the OP.' She is being rude and goady! And the whole thread is just stupid, and offensive.

[quote donemeover]@LittleDandelionClock I never said I was getting old.

Why are people exaggerating my words 🤷‍♀️

Does it make you feel better about being shitty? [/quote]
Oh the irony!

If it helps, then, I and my friends in their 50s/60s say without exception that their lives just get better. I don’t know anyone who wishes they were in their 30s again.
There is a wonderful liberation that comes with age. Learning to live with that takes a little while but once you have there really is little better.
The happiest, most fulfilled person I know is my 84 year old mother. She still discovers or does new things most weeks. That’s the trick, I think.

I still say that if I could go back I'd love to do my last year in school (year 13) again as I loved it!

But I'm 38 and think my 30's is my favourite decade (so far 🤪). Did a doctorate which has led to great career, got a dog, became mortgage free. I got married and had my only dc (through Ivf) in my 20's so that was a great decade too. I looked my best when I was around 33 (has slipped a little now!). I'm looking forward to getting older though, as the alternative to getting old is death (!) and I'm enjoying seeing my dc growing up.

Oh and by the way, it doesn’t come across as very positive if you think at 35 you are halfway through your life. That implies you think you will die at 70, which is a lot younger than the average age of death for someone currently your age, OP.

If you're coming on this thread to moan that I have no right to speak about MY experiences as a grown adult, Why are you here? What purpose do you think you are serving coming on the thread being negative?

It's weird 😳

@donemeover if it’s any consolation I’m 37 and was reading your post and agreeing!!! 😂

@LittleDandelionClock no, people are being rude to me. So I am responding.

You are being weird.

"Nobody is being 'unnecessarily hard on the OP.' She is being rude and goady! And the whole thread is just stupid, and offensive."

She's being rude and goady?? As far as I can see she wrote a really positive post about her personal experience of getting older and wanting to embrace it and then a load of people piled in on her to tell her she was too young to know what she was talking about so she started defending herself.

You are right being a real grown up 35 year old is good. Not too young for anything, not too old.
I’m going to embrace being 60, might get a pair of slippers.

I’m 50 and I can honestly say, hand on heart that life has definitely improved with age. I hope this continues.

I totally agree with you OP but then I'm 39

I do know quite a lot of busy, active, interesting people in their 70s and 80s though so I have that example to look at and look forward to.

Also agree most people wouldn't want to be 20-something again.

This is an extremely goady thread.

35 is a ridiculous age to talk about ageing.

I am really enjoying my 50s for the most part. Young enough to still learn new things and challenge myself, yet experienced enough to know when not to bother, or to just let things go.

I'm in my early 40s and I wouldn't even Imagine to know what it's like for a woman in her 50s.
How you feel at 35 is how you feel but people are allowed to tell you that is not ageing.

Im 56, have been through menopause and pretty much agree with the OP

My 30s were my most miserable decade by far. At 39 I took redundancy and spent my 40th year fufulling my life’s dream of travelling round Africa, I went back to uni and started a whole new career. At 44 I went back to the civil service, purely for the pay, at 46 I adopted my son, the best thing I ever did. At 56 I am now planning my last career change.
Yes my knees creak a bit more, I have a back problem but I’ve had that since my 20s, but my general health is good. I don’t drive, so walk everywhere which keeps me reasonably fit.
I do what I want, go where I want, as much as funds allow, and I don’t care what other people think about my lifestyle or life choices.

I’m 43 and even when I look back at just 35, it feels like I was so young then! Felt very different, have a 3 year old, maybe that did it 🙈
Have to say the comments about late 49’s are very depressing 😢

*Late 40’s

50s has been good so far.

@Ted27 good for you and pleased to hear this can still be done at 50, as some posters seem to think it's impossible and goady to be anything but miserable as you get older.