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Why are you obese?

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Beautybunny · 29/10/2021 07:28

I have been following a fab thread regarding others not being obese. Lots of posters that are obese have commented that the strategies other have don't work for them. I have tried many diets, acupuncture, fasting, diet pills etc. In my adult life I have been a size 8 and a size 22. Food and wine are my comfort in unhappy times. I have a nutrition qualification and am a very competent cook. I was also a vegetarian for years. I like my veg. Never had a weight problem until I had my children. Their births were followed by a harrowing law suit and then a bereavement. I have lost weight on and off in the last twenty years but generally I have been fat and getting fatter as I now take steriods for RA. I also have an under active thyroid. I find slimming groups difficult as the logic can be a bit bonkers (mashed banana is a syn etc). I also work away so the personal trainer approach is not convenient. Has anyone used a good therapist /weight loss guru? I know my weight is my amour against attack, it started in my childhood. If I have a shitty employer I put on weight, conversely I had a great one in 2016/17 and lost two stone naturally. I would love any suggestions.

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Annonnimoouse42 · 07/11/2021 15:15

fecking migraine medications and autoimmune disorders

Beautybunny · 07/11/2021 20:01

Meds don't help do they? I have just handed over plum crumble to my husband as too sweet for me. I am following the 'mindful eating' idea. Do I want it? Do I actually like the food? I wanted to try the pud but it wasnt for me. Happy to do without. I might have a yoghurt later. Haven't weighed myself this week so will do that tomorrow.

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Muchuseaschocolateteapot · 07/11/2021 23:51

@HopelessSinking

Because bingeing is literally the only thing that gives me a few seconds of control and release in my life at the moment. It's a form of self harm and I know it but every time life turns to shit (more shit, it's always bad tbh) it's like a really unhealthy crutch.

I was trying hard to lose weight and succeeding in a small way last month but shit happens and I can't cope.
I do hurt myself too but not to the extent I used to as I don't want my DC to know.

I'm punishing myself, it's kind of like drugs and alcohol for some people, I just want to take the pain away.

I’m so sorry you feel like this. It sounds as though you are really struggling. I don’t have any words of wisdom but am sending you a hug 🤗
whyiscakesodelicious · 08/11/2021 00:05

I've been between 9st and 12.5st as an adult. I'm around 11st now. I found 9stone for me was very hard to maintain naturally and had to exercise and calorie count to maintain. I think we have a natural weight our body seems most comfortable at and it depends a lot on our genes and body type.

whyiscakesodelicious · 08/11/2021 00:08

Sorry should have also said I have an under active thyroid which I take meds for

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 08/11/2021 00:21

Because I'm a hungry Horace and I never stop eating. I'll freely hold my hands up. Grin

MummyShah369 · 08/11/2021 13:40

Whilst my BMI is ok normal weight my waistline is over 36 inches and am diabetic

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