Where does everyone stand?

[pumkinbump]

Posting here for traffic.

Married 7 years.

1 child age 6yrs.

Her - forever unemployed by choice. Cheated throughout marriage. DNA test needed on baby as didn't know who the father was. Left 8 months ago with be with someone else which was likely going on before the split. On benefits. Child is autistic so gets a mobility car which she has.

Him - full time worker. Paid for deposit on house. Paid every bill and mortgage payment for the duration of the relationship. Has their son 4/5 nights out of 7 as she doesn't want to. Pays her £100 a month despite this, plus extra for shoes, clothes etc.

He is terrified that she's going to claim half of the house in divorce.

Does anyone have any advice where he would stand on this?

Thanks in advance.

Gosh, I can’t imagine being so invested in someone else’s life.

@LoveGrooveDanceParty

Gosh, I can’t imagine being so invested in someone else’s life.

You could if you were in a romantic relationship with someone and they were feeding you all this

But that’s not the OP.

Apparently.

pumkinbump

I notice nobody has commented on the fact that she was having and least one of her partners in the house while he was at work. I'd question how much care she was providing whilst she was entertaining

Because it is irrelevant to the question you came on here to ask.

Ultimately even now he doesn’t see that in order for him to work his wife still has to enable him.

I wonder if having a non verbal child and was sole carer for that child for years it hasn’t worn her down and maybe she is just trying to catch up on her life
Whilst her Dh was off at work enjoying adult conversation she was at home caring for a child that doesn’t and probably won’t ever respond to her.
I can’t think it was a happy existence. I don’t think anyone who is truly happy has an affair
I sort of understand why.

Re the council flat, is it because her bf has a council flat and she lives there as opposed to the council actually giving her a flat for her sole use.

And in answer to the question would the courts order the house be sold and putting your friend in rented accommodation.
The answer is yes. If there isn’t enough money for 2 homes for this dc then both will have to go into rented.

She won’t be back

Well, she probably will be. In 6 month. Starting a thread under a name change about this guy lying and cheating on her

And how she is pregnant as well, so trying to make this work

@mmmmmgyrl

And how she is pregnant as well, so trying to make this work

And on the waiting list for an emergency council flat