To think it's weird to share a bed with your 14 year old daughter?

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I had a friend.

She was a single mum. Her daughter was bullied at school, so she took her out for homeschooling.

In conversation with her one day she mentioned that her and her daughter routinely shared a bed.

I'm sure it was nothing sexual and the girl is well cared for but AIBU to be a bit freaked out by it anyway?

YANBU I know a 16 year old boy who sleeps in his parents bed every night. There is nothing sexual but it just makes me feel uncomfortable. It might just be because I like my space and would hate a third person in my bed for 16 years.

To add - Good luck finding a card saying Mom. Mum, mother, mam, not mom.

@TableFlowerss that's cute because both the Oxford and Cambridge English dictionaries recognise it as an English word. Google it...

Gawd, give it a rest TF.

@drury7thedition

Gawd, give it a rest TF.

Funny that, if you read all the posts and how it started. Pack mentality and all just because I don’t agree with people.

Of course you're BU to be 'freaked out by it' . No-one would usually say I'm sure there's nothing sexual going on unless it was going through their head, and while I can imagine that being the first thought to occur to a porn-addicted male, I'm pretty sure no-one else would have thought of that even fleetingly.

All the way up to about 16 I used to sometimes beg my mum to sleep in my bed with me. I used to feel scared after dark and it was comforting. As PP have said, the Western 'everyone in their own beds/rooms' is not the norm world-wide.

There are several regions of the UK where mom is used as the norm. My grandma caller her mother mom, and she never went to the US nor watched American tv or films in her life.

[quote girlmom21]@TableFlowerss that's cute because both the Oxford and Cambridge English dictionaries recognise it as an English word. Google it... [/quote]
It’s still predominantly used in the US. Have you ever seen a birthday card with mom…

Not at all TF, but it’s a bit boring tbh.

@TableFlowerss

Its late appearance in English is curious, but Middle English had mome (mid-13c.) "an aunt; an old woman," also an affectionate term of address for an older woman.
In educated usage, the stress is always on the last syllable. In terms of the recorded appearance of the variant or related words in English, mama is from 1707, mum is from 1823, mummy in this sense from 1839, and mom 1867

You can always try to educate yourself, before you state something as a fact. Just because you don't know something, doesn't mean it's wrong, doesn't exist or it's a spelling mistakes.

She's been out of school since she was 7. It is just the two of them alone in a medium sized house in the countryside.

That just makes it seem even more natural to me.

@drury7thedition

Not at all TF, but it’s a bit boring tbh.

Sorry if it offends you that I’m replying to those jumping on something I actually didn’t start and that’s irrelevant to the actual thread.

Of course others are going to jump on the bandwagon.

Dd slept in my bed until her teens on and off and often just the latter part of the night or when ill or anxious.
She also calls me mom and most people I know around here use Mom, it's a regional as well as American thing I live near brum (or Birmingham if you're unfamiliar with that term too!)

[quote AccidentallyOnPurpose]@TableFlowerss

Its late appearance in English is curious, but Middle English had mome (mid-13c.) "an aunt; an old woman," also an affectionate term of address for an older woman.
In educated usage, the stress is always on the last syllable. In terms of the recorded appearance of the variant or related words in English, mama is from 1707, mum is from 1823, mummy in this sense from 1839, and mom 1867

You can always try to educate yourself, before you state something as a fact. Just because you don't know something, doesn't mean it's wrong, doesn't exist or it's a spelling mistakes.[/quote]
Lovely. Yes it’s in the dictionary but it clearly states it’s the US version of mother. No ones saying it’s not the same word…

@swapcicles

Dd slept in my bed until her teens on and off and often just the latter part of the night or when ill or anxious. She also calls me mom and most people I know around here use Mom, it's a regional as well as American thing I live near brum (or Birmingham if you're unfamiliar with that term too!)

I’m quite familiar with it, I used to live there but moved back home as I hated it.

Imagine thinking a mother sharing a bed with her daughter could have sexual undertones.

You sound down right pervy.

Have you ever seen a birthday card with mom…
Yes, hundreds of them. I don't say Mom I say Mam but I live about 40 minutes from Birmingham and you can get cards here that say Mom.

@SavoyCabbage

Have you ever seen a birthday card with mom… Yes, hundreds of them. I don't say Mom I say Mam but I live about 40 minutes from Birmingham and you can get cards here that say Mom.

Just not in the rest of the UK.

•Have you ever seen a birthday card with mom…•

Yes available where I am (which is nowhere near the midlands either btw!)

OUP looked at short stories written by children across the country and found that ‘Mom’ was the top word used more in the West Midlands than any other area.

Attached a graph too. Regionalism. Look it up.

P.S. my comments have nothing to do with you contradicting me. I'm fascinated by language,usage and etymology and I speak a few so I always join in on language debates.

@AmDillDandin

•Have you ever seen a birthday card with mom…•

Yes available where I am (which is nowhere near the midlands either btw!)

Really? Would you say it’s the norm?

All my DFs family say Mom and they all manage to buy Mom birthday cards. I never really saw Mam birthday cards until I moved to an area where the most commonly used word for your mother is Mam. Its regional differences and I love that they exist.

OP, you have a disturbed mind to even question it in the way that you do. Nothing freaky about them, but your reaction certainly is freaky.

@AccidentallyOnPurpose

OUP looked at short stories written by children across the country and found that ‘Mom’ was the top word used more in the West Midlands than any other area.

Attached a graph too. Regionalism. Look it up.

P.S. my comments have nothing to do with you contradicting me. I'm fascinated by language,usage and etymology and I speak a few so I always join in on language debates.

Even if it is regional and that’s why everyone has no trouble biking Mom cards, it’s still not the default in the vast majority of the UK. It’s still seen as Americanised outside of the local areas that use it.

It’s neither here nor there to me what anyone calls their parents.

Really? Would you say it’s the norm?

Where I'm from yes. It's certainly not just huge swathes of people getting 'mum' mixed up, like dad/ dod