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to be annoyed DH is going on a stag weekend to Amsterdam?

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JinglyJangly · 10/12/2007 18:57

DH is going on a stag weekend after Christmas to Amsterdam and too be honest, I am not too happy about it. I have heard what really goes on and why men go there, i.e. sex shops, brothels, live sex shows etc.

The blokes he is going with are a bunch of knobs. I have heard the majority of them frequent these types of places (only from what DH has said).

DH went on a stag weekend to Edinburgh a few years back and the guy who's stag party it was, was well up for visiting a brothel and guess what? he is going on the stag weekend to Amsterdam .

AIBU to be annoyed about him going? I am feeling a bit down in the dumps today and keep thinking all sorts about what they will get up too.

Whatever happened to guys going for a few beers at the local? It seems the norm for stag weekends to be held abroad nowadays. WHY is that?

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MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 20:37

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JinglyJangly · 12/12/2007 20:42

MotherFunk - I did say that I am sure not ALL aussie men are the same didn't I?

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MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 20:47

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JinglyJangly · 12/12/2007 20:49

Whatever .

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DeathBySnooSnoo · 12/12/2007 21:01

when i mentioned brainwashing i meant in general,by the media,government etc and how these things influence what we find socially acceptable.i was not trying to say that certain individuals had been brainwashed by their oh's.

i dont think i ever said that men are more likely to cheat than women?

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:04

Anyone who doesn't mind their dh going on a stag weekend to Amsterdam either doesn't love him or is a surrendered wife

Thought I'd try out the generalising, its fun isn't it

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:06

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StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:08

Joint decisions

Sex and drugs and rock and roll

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:09

You're obviously not married motherfunk

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JinglyJangly · 12/12/2007 21:11

Star - I think MotherFunk just loves a good argument - am I right MF?

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StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:11

How would I explain to my daughters that dady goes to lap dancing clubs, looks at prostitutes etc

If you can't explain it to your daughters why would you do it

Time to grow up

What happened to the feminism my generation fought for

CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 21:16

"who doesn't mind their dh going on a stag weekend to Amsterdam either doesn't love him or is a surrendered wife"

Or, alternatively, a woman who enjoys a degree of mutual trust and liberty that some of us cannot even imagine.

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:19

Read the whole of my post coted'azur

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:19

And do you have daughters

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:20

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JinglyJangly · 12/12/2007 21:20

Know what you mean Star. I was saying similar to DH, i.e. how do I explain to DD aged 5 that her Daddy likes going to these places for the reason you mentioned. That's when he decided he didn't want to go to Amsterdam . DD is everything to him & he wants to be a good example to her. Shame about his mates (well some of them).

The one guy (who is the one well up for the brothels, the one that slept with a pro on his stag night) well his wife is pg & baby is due in March - this is when the stag do is. What does that say about him?

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StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:20

What will you tell them about daddy even looking at prostitutes or going to lap dancing clubs, forget the rest

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:22

Bully for you motherfunk, why are you telling any of us about your sex life?

Sounds like you might have a little problem with self esteem

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:22

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StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:23

Feminism means men who don't want to be around sexploitation of women or girls

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:23

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MerryPIFFLEmas · 12/12/2007 21:23

WTF has where DAddy goes for a stag weekend got to do with a 5yr old?

I must be lucky I'd let my DP go anywhere with whomever to wherever
I trust him.

CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 21:23

"How would I explain to my daughters that dady goes to lap dancing clubs, looks at prostitutes etc. If you can't explain it to your daughters why would you do it?"

Err... you & your husband's private lives don't include anything that you would mind explaining to your daughters? Really???

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:24

If its not something you can talt to your children about why would you feel comfortable with it

Would you like your son doing it

What age

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:26

Sounds pretty sordid when you imagine your children finding out though doesn;t it