to be annoyed DH is going on a stag weekend to Amsterdam?

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DH is going on a stag weekend after Christmas to Amsterdam and too be honest, I am not too happy about it. I have heard what really goes on and why men go there, i.e. sex shops, brothels, live sex shows etc.

The blokes he is going with are a bunch of knobs. I have heard the majority of them frequent these types of places (only from what DH has said).

DH went on a stag weekend to Edinburgh a few years back and the guy who's stag party it was, was well up for visiting a brothel and guess what? he is going on the stag weekend to Amsterdam .

AIBU to be annoyed about him going? I am feeling a bit down in the dumps today and keep thinking all sorts about what they will get up too.

Whatever happened to guys going for a few beers at the local? It seems the norm for stag weekends to be held abroad nowadays. WHY is that?

Let's just take over the thread with comparisons and details of winners of the 2007 Cannabis Cup. If we're all stoned, we can't be fighting now, eh?

fio, are the blow up dolls not exploited inflatable toys?

Well said Elizabetth.

oh god another one

Meeely, you're right. They may have been brought over on the promise of being beach balls or paddling pools.

Elizabetth: pretty please?

"Anyway, digressing again.. i'm really interested for you to answer cestlavies question. I shall repeat it for your convenience: What do you think goes on on a regular stag weekend?"

I'm only able to deal with so much wankiness in one day and I used up my quota dealing with your claims that there was no trafficking or pimping in Amsterdam. Pity.

I'm sure if you need to know C'estlavie will give you a blow by blow account.

cue laughter at the memories of MIL's ranting at ex-H phoning her in Munich from an excursion to Amsterdam.

then hanging up the phone and telling me in English that he'd eaten an entire space cake and woken up in the pavement, sans wallet, leather bomber jacket and shoes.

DH went to Amsterdam with some pals after we met.

came back still stoned.

Ready rolled Northern Lights, anyone?

madamez-you do not appear to have seen my post in which i asked for scientific evidence that people are born monogonously inclined.

elizabetth-darling,i dont know how long you have been on MN,but i myself gave up trying to preach to the brainwashed a few months ago.they will all tell you that they are not brainwashed,of course,and that you are a 'prude' or whatever,but such is the nature of brainwashing

i am laughing at the notion of your views being victorian,though,i was under the impression that the idea of women being inferior and repressed by society was a more old-fashioned view

oooh yes please glam, I have some purple haze I'll swap ya for

Yes please Glam.

I came back from my stag weekend in Amsterdam having bought a pair of pink plastic sunglasses and a self-popping-up-umbrella as gifts for DW - they seemed like a good idea at the time is all I can say in my defence.

lol @ purple haze!

there's actually a 50m climb by that name on a famous wall outside Boulder.

next to it are climbs like Sister Morphine, Pony Express and Lucid Dream.

I know expat, it is on my list of climbs to do one day!

I'll have a virtual smoke, ta, 28 weeks pregnant!! I avoided the strain known as "Train Wreck" last time I visited.The name!!! NYC Diesel from the Dampkring a much better choice!!!!
Maybe the OP's DH and his mates will take a trip on some Hawaian 'shrooms and come back all enlightened.

Well, thanks Elizabetth, you've really put me in my place. Clearly you are the only one who really knows how men think, and the only one who cares about traffiking of women.

Think I'll take my ridiculous and naive self off home for a lovely snugly night in front of the fire with my lovely DH (assuming he can tear himself away from the other women he's shagging).

You have a lucky DP cestlavie

Glam: she hardly knew what to do with herself

I've lead Purple Haze! It's a brilliant pitch.

Absolutely stunned by the naivety displayed on this thread.
Wake up!! Its a STAG WEEKEND fgs.
Nothing to do with whether you trust or don't trust your dp/dh. Life's more complicated than that...everyone makes mistakes, and frankly mistakes are more likely to be made during an alcohol-fuelled binge in Amsterdam with 19 other men, especially if one is intent on visiting a brothel.

(And btw, Elizabetth, well said throughout this thread - totally agree with your points.)

YANBU. Your reaction is entirely understandable. I wonder why some posters have reacted in such shrill and extreme terms? Touched a nerve perhaps...

excellent, I'm hoping to make it to colorado in 2011 when ds will be old enough to lead (I hope). Gosh that sounds soooo far away...

I,d definately talk to him about it and how you feel. Whenever my husband goes on a stag do the blokes often go to strip clubs. I told my husband that I find it disrespectful and I don,t like it so if there are a few other stags who aren,t keen they go to a pub while the others go in. If everyone wants to go then he goes but doesn,t lie about it.
As for friends going to brothels that is another level.
I can understand your upset.

bufobufo, if I was to pick up on a post that was "shrill and extreme" I think screaming "Wake up!! Its a STAG WEEKEND fgs" would probably win.

LOL yeahbut No shouting in here guys, we're chilling.

Oh, the "touched a nerve" defense - genius. You've totally convinced everybody now. Well done.

You remind me of the women who told me that because my husband didn't want to wear a wedding ring, he was planning to cheat on me. When I tried to argue that as I had trusted him for five years without being married or wearing a ring, what difference would it make that he didn't wear one after we were married, they trotted out the "Ooo, seems we've touched a nerve, you're clearly totally bothered by it!"

Grrrrr.