OP what a brilliant response from your son. And from you, to report anyway. I’m surprised the coach and other parents haven’t 🤨
About 6 years ago, I had two phone calls on Saturday from school friend parents who’d been on sidelines at a home rugby match between schools my 13 year old DS was playing in. I wasn’t there (home with younger DCs) so it was second hand. A boy from visiting school team was shouting gay slurs at my DS on the pitch “ f-ing gay fag—t“ to try to put him off.
They said DS was brilliant & he passed the ball onwards and shouted back “Loud and proud mate! Who cares if I’m gay you kn-b!!” (He doesn’t happen to be gay, but what a super response!!)
Apparently match halted as boy carried on trying to abuse DS & was being shouted down by DS’s team mates & parents nearby for few minutes until Ref heard what was going on behind him - the boy was sent off pitch to sit in their school’s minibus.
I got a call from school guidance manager on Monday after, who said they’d had several reports of ‘a concerning incident’ so she was ringing ‘to offer school’s support’ and had talked to DS that day in case he needed it and DS had consented to her contacting me - she wanted to advise how seriously they took it.
DS was totally unfazed and didn’t see need to even tell me initially after he’d got home and hit the shower - he was far more full of how well they’d played and said the boy & his older brothers “have always been kn-bs” (knew each other from primary school) and that boy was p-ssed that DS’s team was winning.
Glad you are reporting it, regardless of whether it bothered your DS - homophobia shouldn't be tolerated, needs a clear message and reporting it is also about protecting other children who may be struggling with their sexuality, scared they might also get picked on or outed from the sidelines by an adult.