Husband taking £400 spending money for 2 nights in Liverpool..aibu to think it's ridiculous?

[rachybarrr]

He has gone to Liverpool till Monday.
The hotel is paid for and includes breakfast.
He has taken £400 spending money.

He said "the bars are quite expensive down there"

So basically he is happy to potentially waste £400 on alcohol for two nights.

I'm annoyed and think it's pathetic
He said we are going for a nice meal tonight too.

£400 for two nights is just scandalous I think

It's a lot to me but I don't drink, I would treat yourself to something nice OP because you will never keep up if someone spends a lot on drinking, it doesn't seem very fair.

The question? Can you afford it? If so, then I would say it's a decent amount for a weekend away. If not, then YANBU. We couldn't spare it at the minute! We are living pay day to pay day at the minute.

Wow, I am amazed at the amount of money people spend in one night

Also amazed at how much spare cash everyone has, and their “normal”

There has been lots of activity on this thread but just to add me and dh went to liverpool for 2 nights in the summer, breakfast was included in hotel but we still spend around 1k on food and drink alone!!! No drugs i assure you!

You need to take out the equivalent and treat yourself

He hasn’t ‘taken’ £400 has he though ? He has £400 ‘ available’ on a debit card.

He might only spend a tenner 🤣

I think people are missing the point here.

If the op spends the same amount of money as her husband they won't have a pot to piss in.

I'd probably bring £500 for a weekend away, £400 definitely isn't excessive. But as pp have mentioned it all depends whether you can afford it.

It can be so hard to get your head around the cost of nights out/weekends on the lash when you're out of practice yourself.
My rule of thumb is to think of £50 as the new £20, it doesn't go far these days!

£400 can be a lot of fuckall. There are bars where cocktails start from £15 and then there are pubs that are £1 for a pint. A nice restaurant can be £200 per meal or you can get something for £10 in a less fancy restaurant. I would have no problem spending £400 jn a weekend jn Liverpool without drugs, prostitutes or gambling.

But based jn the information about him taking it from your joint account and I'm complaining about your jacket is that your financial set up is not working. Put either x amount or x % to joint account and x to joint saving account. Rest is yours to use and nobody can complain.

OP it's rather hard to say unless you say what the occasion is. Is it a Buck's Night (Stag Night)? Is it a wedding? An old schoolfriends meetup? We'd need to have an idea of what it is.

If he wont give £400 to you, and £400 to each of your children yes he's being ridiculous to spend that on himself

Sounds about right, especially for Liverpool. Taxis, food, drinks etc. All adds up! I took £400 for a 2 night hen so recently. Spent every penny!

It's all about communication. Why wasn't it talked about before. You can still talk about it when he gets home.

I'd say that's right food & drinks .

Sorry everyone it's just a lass weekend
No special reason they are just having a weekend away

*lads

You don't necessarily need your own savings account. You can, but it's not essential. Dh and I only have one joint account, but communication hasn't been a problem.

Better he makes a realistic budget than over spends.
It's not excessive unless you can't afford it.

He's probably discussed with friends and that's what they've agreed. It's not right he shouldn't be able to go in on rounds or pay his spirit of the bill etc.

Let him enjoy himself and make a mental note that you've got £400 to spend on a spa, make up, clothes, hair etc. Soon!

@rachybarrr

I'm not controlling at all but if the roles were reversed he would have something to say. I bought myself a jacket from Zara for £49.99 and he went on about it for a week. I wore it every weekend so I would show him I was getting my money's worth

This changes things. The relationship feels claustrophobic and judgey. You each have things you get enjoyment out of why make each other feel bad about it.

@rachybarrr I know that you are under no obligation to answer these questions but please do think about them. Are you afraid of him? Do you think that you have fair spending money over the course of a year? Does he do 50/50 around the house and with the children? Do you pay an equal % into the running of your house? And finally , are you genuinely happy with him?

seems a bit too much and my first thought was coke

Only if he doesn't plan to eat for the whole weekend

[quote ToastCrumbsOnAPlate]@rachybarrr I know that you are under no obligation to answer these questions but please do think about them. Are you afraid of him? Do you think that you have fair spending money over the course of a year? Does he do 50/50 around the house and with the children? Do you pay an equal % into the running of your house? And finally , are you genuinely happy with him?[/quote]
All this over £400 spending money?

I saw that you pay things 50/50, have you actually calculated that the bills he pays equal the rent you pay? My bills add up to less than half my rent. It sounds like you're being taken for a ride here.

Save your own money in your own savings account under your own name. Don't top up his party slush fund any more. Honestly, I can't believe the audacity of him moaning about your £50 coat but dipping in the savings for beer money. Are you not furious?

Food and drink will be costly
Taxis
They might have other things planned too, like darts, escape room, shuffleboard etc etc
Possibly casino

If it’s his money and you can afford it then I don’t see the issue. Better to have too much than too little