Husband taking £400 spending money for 2 nights in Liverpool..aibu to think it's ridiculous?

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He has gone to Liverpool till Monday.
The hotel is paid for and includes breakfast.
He has taken £400 spending money.

He said "the bars are quite expensive down there"

So basically he is happy to potentially waste £400 on alcohol for two nights.

I'm annoyed and think it's pathetic
He said we are going for a nice meal tonight too.

£400 for two nights is just scandalous I think

Steakhouse £60
Return taxis £30 per night
drinks £50 per night
Food another night £20
Lunches of daytime coffees etc £20
Midnight kebab £12

I'd say probably a little on the low side to me.

The problem is the money comes from joint savings and it sounds like he takes quite a lot quite regularly from the joint pot and OP doesn't.

Id know I would need about 300 for general spending and I would also take an extra 100 in case of emergencies or if I wanted to buy something etc

£400 is a lot if you don't care to go out eating and drinking but people spend money on different things. Before covid we used to spend loads going to gigs which can be £500+ a time for 2, others would think this a waste of money

@Oblomov21

You don't necessarily need your own savings account. You can, but it's not essential. Dh and I only have one joint account, but communication hasn't been a problem.

That's brilliant for you, but OP gets shit for spending £49.99 on herself yet he can spunk £400 out of joint savings up the wall willy-nilly.

Unless it's fair and mutually agreed, I'd be keeping my money separate from this selfish prick.

Lol this thread makes Liverpool sound like Vegas/NYC... it isn't.

I'd missed it was Liverpool 😂😂

@SchoolFraud @HollowTalk where do you both eat???

OP said he was moaning not giving her shit. It very much depends on what she defines as moaning. My DH and I would often say moaning when what we mean is saying we think the thing the other is spending money on is a waste, because to us it seems a waste, however we don't actually begrudge the spending of the money iyswim

@Wonderfulstuff

Lol this thread makes Liverpool sound like Vegas/NYC... it isn't.

This! 🤣

It's also always interesting to see these threads. Why do men always suddenly want to go to expensive bars and eateries alone with their mates but they don't take their spouses to them.

@Sunseeker90

There has been lots of activity on this thread but just to add me and dh went to liverpool for 2 nights in the summer, breakfast was included in hotel but we still spend around 1k on food and drink alone!!! No drugs i assure you!

You must recognise that's totally out of most people's "normal" though @Sunseeker90? That's almost what I earn in a month!

Just because you CAN spend 1k in two days, doesn't mean it's advisable, sensible or normal. It's more than what we spend for two of us to go on a self-catering holiday for a week, including accommodation, trips out, fuel and three meals a day!

Doesn't seem excessive to me thats £200 a day for food, booze and activities! If you can afford it and it won't leave you unable to feed yourselves I'd tell him to go for it and have a good time. I would try not to nag either and remember this for when it was my turn to go away.

I swear MN is a totally different universe sometimes.

£400 on drinks and dinner for two days for ONE person?
1k for drinks and food for a weekend away for a couple?

I think the amounts some people must earn to able to splash that amount of money on a night out is just so far outside my normal, lol.

Sounds Normal

I don’t see the problem he might want to go shopping too it’s a city break

I hope there’s 400 transferred from savings to your account now! Ridiculous he gave you flak for buying a £50 jacket.

Liverpool is definitely not expensive,I live there and friends who visit from all over can’t believe how cheap it is,he’s telling porkies.

Could he be taking extra just to be on the safe side? That's what I would do, I wouldn't want to be left short.

Liverpool is not expensive; I'm a scouser.

Who has he gone with?
What is the occasion?
Is it his money or joint money?
Can he/you as a couple afford it?

@ShaneTheThird men can go on nights out with friends, just like women can.

If I was you Op, I would be taking £400 plus half of the remaining funds out of the joint savings account and putting into a savings account in my sole name, and from now on would put my monthly £500 into my own savings account. If he wants to spend on trips away, footie, darts etc it can come out of his share of the savings.

“it’s expensive down there.”

Where is he travelling from - the North Pole?

@RobertsRadio

If I was you Op, I would be taking £400 plus half of the remaining funds out of the joint savings account and putting into a savings account in my sole name, and from now on would put my monthly £500 into my own savings account. If he wants to spend on trips away, footie, darts etc it can come out of his share of the savings.

Abso.

*absolutely