..to think you wear black to a funeral?

[NotLikeTheOthers]

Just that really. You wear black to a funeral, unless the family have requested otherwise, don't you? DM doesn't like wearing black and is going to wear a burgundy outfit. Is that viewed as disrespectful? I feel like mostly black with a muted colour might be ok, but not no black. I don't go to lots of funerals though so need to know what the done thing is please!

I don’t think it has to be black. Last funeral I attended was in March and people were wearing black, grey, navy..darker colours but not all in black.

I think that black is outdated now, the funerals I've been to in the last few years have had people wearing smart clothes in muted, dark colours. I'd wear black if I had something suitable, but I wouldn't go out and buy black clothes if I had something appropriate in a different colour.

It used to be very set in stone like that, but these days it's more flexible. Often the funeral party will put out a request for a dress code. Funerals can be seen as a celebration of life, too.

Yanbu

I think any dark colour is ok.

Burgundy is fine. I wore navy to mum’s. bright red or yellow is a different story, generally speaking. Burgundy is somber enough.

I always wear black unless requested otherwise.

I wear black or navy unless it says otherwise

No need for all black. I was at a few funerals lately and people were wearing muted shades, navy, grey, black, often with a bit of colour in a shirt or coat

I don’t think it is a thing so much anymore.

The last really big funeral I went to was some years a go and there was a real mix. There had definitely not been any kind of “wear bright colours as a celebration!” message. People generally wore normal clothes that didn’t draw any attention - so, slogan tops, kids cartoon characters, shorts, etc would all be inappropriate - but a smart jumper and trousers whatever the colour were in.

Obviously lately funerals have been smaller so it’s hard to tell, I guess if there are only 20 people and you’re the only one in colour you’re going to stand out.

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a Western funeral where everyone wore something black, people just seek to wear a smartish outfit, or children their school uniform.

It doesn’t have to be black. Unless maybe if the deceased has died in tragic circumstances. Anything in neutral or dark colours is ok.

Having to wear black to a funeral is a tradition I find so strange.

I certainly wouldn't care if someone wore burgundy to a funeral.

Ah ok, I'm surprised by the answers but at least I won't have to broach the subject with burgundy wearing DM! Personally I'll stick to black though

In wouldn't worry about it as long as its muted.

We lost my aunt recently and my DM made a huge fuss about my DB wearing his dark blue suit, right up until she saw her sister in faded black skinny jeans and a navy floral top. At that point I think she realised it didn't matter, people just needed to be with each other.

I work in funerals - black is actually quite uncommon now, I've literally seen everything from tracksuits to Hawaiian shirts!

As others have said, it depends on the family's wishes. Many of the ones I do specifically say "no black". A burgundy jacket isn't going to cause a problem - in all honesty the family are often just delighted you have turned up to pay your respects more than critique your attire. Although only you know the family in question. And if you aren't that close I'd err on the side of smart yet understated.

A lot also depends on the deceased - I regularly do ones where the man was a huge football/rugby fan and everyone turns up in his team's colours, either via replica shirts or just an item of clothing in that colour. It always looks amazing from the front and in my opinion making those sort of efforts is a wonderful tribute.

School uniform??? Why??

I don't think it matters what you wear to a funeral I think it's about taking the time to attend and support

At my great aunts funeral I was stressing about what to wear. As my nanny pointed out - she wouldn't care what you wear as long as it's smart. (My nanny and Great Aunt did like people smart and tidy. :) ) - think of the person whose funeral it is.....would they mind that your mum is wearing burgundy or would they be pleased she is there.

Honestly it really doesn't matter. Personally I probably wouldn't wear bright colours unless it was asked for. But let her wear what she has. A funeral isn't about clothes.

Unfortunately I’ve been to a few recently. Immediate family have all tended to wear black. Others have worn some black, or grey, navy etc. I probably wouldn’t wear burgundy personally but I don’t think it would look out of place if someone did.

I'm a celebrant OP and can honestly say that at most of the funerals I've officiated at, there's been a mixture of black and other colours. Burgundy would be fine.

No. No need for all in black. Just dressing respectfully, usually in fairly muted colours is becoming the norm. I think burgundy would be fine.

I'd say no garish colours unless otherwise instructed, but other than that things are generally a bit more relaxed than they used to be. Which I think is a good thing.

Burgundy is absolutely fine.

Look smart, act respectful. That's it for funerals.

Dark colours are fine. Navy or burgundy are good alternatives to black.

I think burgundy is fine. At the last few funerals I’ve been to there has been a mix of colours. Generally all muted / dark shades, but not all black.

@Burnerphone21

School uniform??? Why??

I don't think it matters what you wear to a funeral I think it's about taking the time to attend and support

Because most children (especially boys) these days don't have darkish smart clothes. So uniform tends to fit the bill