To have left them outside for 10 minutes

[Notoday]

I'm a few days away from having a cesarian. I'm having to take some suppressant medication that makes me poorly, so that's fun. I've spent the last week between the bed and the bathroom.

My partner who lives with me went to collect his kids from school and bring them here but he didn't take his keys with him as usual thus leaving the door unlocked.

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Typically they arrive back when I'm stuck in the bathroom. I couldn't do much about that unfortunately so they had to wait 10 minutes or so until I was able to go and let them in.

DP comes in doing a silly dance saying how much he's bursting for a wee and his youngest DC is majorly pissed off about having to wait outside for so long.

WIBU to have locked the door and made them wait as opposed to leaving the toilet to open the door?

Hi op, how about owning this? Perhaps you could say to your partner don’t expect me to leave the door unlocked if you are out, if I’m busy I don’t want to be worried about getting robbed and , I’m fed up with being your parent. You’re an adult please remember your keys.
Im sure if you could have you would have opened the door, but for people to say that you should have dragged your loose bowelsdown the stairs is ridiculous…
I have a thing here too I feel safer with the door locked,particularly if I’m on my own, mainly cos I’have really bad hearing but also cos I’m a Londoner and used to needing to be secure. I don’t live in London right now and my partner can’t understand it. But he’s a bloke so doesn’t get the constant level of risk we women live with.

When I first read the op I felt you may be a little unreasonable but realised that is just because you're situation is so far removed from mine. If he had forgotten his keys once I'd say maybe you could have been more accommodating but as this is regular then no way it is his fault. I don't think being a stepmum has anything to do with it. 12 year olds are always annoyed about everything anyway so that's irrelevant.

I needed some commas!
I meant no way is it your fault, it is his fault.
Not, no way that it is his fault.

Yanbu. There have been many times that I would not have been able to leave the bathroom to answer the door. I also would never have left my door unlocked on the main road we lived on in south east London.

It's really unusual to have a front door that can just be opened from the outside without a key - particularly in such a very dangerous part of town. Do you think it might be worth changing the handle/lock to a type where you can only open from the outside with a key? If your DP is frequently forgetting his keys, it sounds like it'd be worth it.
If he were to leave the house with no one home, and forget his keys (therefore not lock the door behind him), anyone could just walk into your house and burgle it!

He should've taken his keys. You know you're right so idk why you posted here. There's no version in the world where you could be wrong in this situation. A heavily pregnant woman shitting and vomiting on the toilet is not gonna get the front door. And she's also not going to leave the front door unlocked so she's vulnerable. Is your partner regularly that stupid?

Honestly I'm gobsmacked with some of the comments on here!

How many times must you repeat the facts over and over, that you always lock your door regardless, your partner forgot his keys as always etc etc.

I feel infuriated for you, so many baffling responses as well as people not RTFT!!

@Notoday I hope you're feeling slightly better this evening.

@Explosivefarts

Your attitude towards your stepchildren is horrible

How?!

@Thevampireswife

You’re not being unreasonable!

@Notoday

Has anyone said LTB yet? If not can I be the first?

@TheVampiresWife You are tremendous, whadda post

Life must be so exhausting to have such a drama over a door.

Not sure why your partner is getting a bashing here.

Life must be so exhausting to have such a drama over a door
I quite agree, so next time he can just be a big boy and take his key. Maybe OP could consider some sort of reward chart by the door? If he remembers his key 7 days in a row he gets a dinosaur sticker

@Explosivefarts

Your attitude towards your stepchildren is horrible

Gah you got me. I hate them, HATE them I tell you. Horrible things, children.

I spent the whole week praying to get diarrhoea at the exact moment they arrived just so I could leave them on the doorstep for 10 minutes. M

What else can I do to inconvenience my step kids, anybody?

Perhaps next time they're due round I'll have a good go at shitting myself mid DIY project, as suggested to another PP above.

Cop on ladies, don't be so bloody daft.

We all know I haven't said anything nasty about the kids. Thank you for proving my point that MN hates SM's and will go to any lengths to demonize them, creating false narratives to fabricate problems where there aren't any. I've had a good laugh at some of these posts.

On a brighter note my stomach is feeling a bit better today, but my door remains firmly locked

That you’re still in such good spirits, despite the endless gobshite on this thread, is excellent @Notoday. My blood pressure got dangerously high yesterday reading some of the absolute nonsense they were posting and I had to step away.

Anyone try to imagine what these people are like in real life? God, I’d love to know. I hope Mumsnet gets hacked and there’s an exposé… 😂

Anyway, all the best. Enjoy the respite from your dangerously long ten-minute diarrhoea and I hope your birth goes well.

@Explosivefarts

Your attitude towards your stepchildren is horrible

What exactly is so horrible about being unable to unlock the door because you are stuck in the bathroom with diarrhoea?

@Notoday you were right to lock the door. Waiting 10 minutes because your dad forgot his key and your stepmom was ill in the bathroom is nothing. Kids winge and sulk about such things, but it was no great hardship.

I hope you can ignore the ‘mean girls’. The threads on AIBU always seem to attract the former school bitchiness and bully and allow them to live out their ‘glory days’ again. Pathetic of them, but we’re stuck with it!

If your partner is like this now, what will he be like when your baby arrives. Need to get it sorted out Now with partner and stepson.

Hi op, how about owning this? Perhaps you could say to your partner don’t expect me to leave the door unlocked if you are out, if I’m busy I don’t want to be worried about getting robbed and , I’m fed up with being your parent. You’re an adult please remember your keys.

They've been together 2 years, you think he'd have twigged by now that OP always locks her door...

Also to the PP who says it is 'rare' to not have a door which locks automatically, I've lived in at least 4 houses which didn't so how about that! There are different types of locks, who knew!

OP you were definitely not in the wrong!

I don't get the 'I never take my key if I know someone is in' comments. Quite entitled. I literally never leave the house without my keys, it's ingrained. Even if I'm nipping to the shops. Never mind a chance burglary, what if that person in the house was called out to an emergency?

Totally with you OP. Some comments on this are just bizarre.