To have left them outside for 10 minutes

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I'm a few days away from having a cesarian. I'm having to take some suppressant medication that makes me poorly, so that's fun. I've spent the last week between the bed and the bathroom.

My partner who lives with me went to collect his kids from school and bring them here but he didn't take his keys with him as usual thus leaving the door unlocked.

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Typically they arrive back when I'm stuck in the bathroom. I couldn't do much about that unfortunately so they had to wait 10 minutes or so until I was able to go and let them in.

DP comes in doing a silly dance saying how much he's bursting for a wee and his youngest DC is majorly pissed off about having to wait outside for so long.

WIBU to have locked the door and made them wait as opposed to leaving the toilet to open the door?

I've discovered recently you can add a voice message to a ring doorbell, if you don't answer you can have it auto play a chosen response.

YANBU in the slightest OP, your step son was purely being rude. Ask him if he would have preferred someone to break in and steal his valuables next time.

'Yes he should have taken his keys, no you shouldn't have leapt up and gone running. But you do sound a bit like you think being about to give birth makes you a bit unique. And there's no need to be arsey with people on here.'

Yes I mean how many people are going to say yes the op is correct and the dp is in the wrong.

I wonder how on earth they will manage once the baby arrives if keys/locked doors/ diarrhoea are causing such ridiculous angst now..

Can you imagine the responses on a thread on Mumsnet where the OP said, 'I had raging D and V, so I was in the loo for ages. Someone burgled my house in this time, because I hadn't locked my door'?

And considering most of mumsnet finds it shocking to open the door even to postmen or neighbours, I'm damn sure they don't ever leave their doors unlocked either.

Dear Doctor @Bluntness100,

I am on an immunosuppressant drug which I inject weekly. It's low dose chemotherapy and about 48 hours later my guts explode out my arse. I am usually stuck in the bathroom from 4am to 6am, then for half an hour at various intervals throughout the day. By bed-time my entrails feel as if Tyson Fury has had a fight with a T Rex in them.

In your esteemed medical opinion, what should I do given the 'deeply concerning' fact that my arse volcano erupts for more than ten minutes at a time?

VW x

PS DH knows always to take a key with him on a Thursday

And OP of course YANBU.

Some of the posters on this thread though, dear God. I am mortified on their behalf.

@AdobeWanKenobi

I've discovered recently you can add a voice message to a ring doorbell, if you don't answer you can have it auto play a chosen response.

I meant to post that to the post thread haha

'And OP of course YANBU.'

Yes locking a door in a crime addled neighbourhood would seem common sense.

Let's hope her dp gets his arse in gear though because what next, 'I was busy feeding/changing bubz and he forgot his key so was knocking for an hour'.

Funny how all the expectations and changes are on the pregnant ,poorly woman but somehow the man can't possibly be expected to pick up a pair of keys when he leaves the house.

YANBU at all OP. Sounds like you are really suffering. DH should be aware of this and make an extra effort to take his keys. You can't leave the door unlocked. I don't think 10 mins is the end of the world, either! You should have been greeted with sympathy for your stomach problems, not anger.

Agree with pp saying once baby is here you can't always drop everything to answer the door immediately, so DH needs to get his act together re keys!

@PurpleOkapi

YABU to lock them out because you can't bear the thought of the door being unlocked for 10 minutes while you're home, in broad daylight. He had no reason to take his key, since he knew the door wasn't locked. Your level of anxiety about this isn't reasonable. And even if it was, just locking him out without warning him that you're going to start locking the door behind him, so he knows he needs to take his key, is about the most selfish possible way of solving the problem.

Are you taking the piss?

@AccidentallyOnPurpose

Funny how all the expectations and changes are on the pregnant ,poorly woman but somehow the man can't possibly be expected to pick up a pair of keys when he leaves the house.

Yes very typical of mumsnet. He's in the wrong but an ill pregnant woman should foresee his stupidity and leave her front door unlocked in a crime area.

But you do sound a bit like you think being about to give birth makes you a bit unique

No, she doesn't. She validly puts forward the proposition that when you are stuck in the bathroom with acute diarrhoea you can't be expected to rush to the door, or to be able to do anything about an intruder if they get in through an unnecessarily unlocked door. What on earth is wrong with that?

@SuperCaliFragalistic

I don't lock my family out of the house while I'm on the toilet. That seems a bit weird but I guess I live in a safer area.

Where does OP say she locks the door only when she's on the toilet? She does what normal people do and locks the door when she is in on her own.

@kateg27

If my partner was at home I wouldn't take my house keys. Why would I? But then again I wouldn't lock the door and leave them outside either but I tend to think of others rather than just myself.

Clearly not, or you wouldn't post such nonsense.

@TheChip

If you knew he didn't have his key, then it would have been better to leave the door unlocked. I also don't take my key if I know someone is in.

What if that person chooses to / has to go out?

@Ajl46 the door would remain unlocked

A cursory google tells me that in 2020:

A burglary takes place every 106 seconds in the UK

London loses nearly three times as much money to residential burglaries as any other county in the UK.

58% of burglaries happen with someone in the home.

67% break in through the front door.

The average burglary takes less than 10 minutes.

And yet, there is a group of posters on here who still believe the OP was unreasonable to lock a door.

Baffling.

@TheChip. You’d leave your house unlocked with no one in it?

It is baffling. I lock the door and we are rural. A lady was stabbed and killed down the road in a distraction burglary, there are plenty of thefts and burglaries round here inc farm equipment. You are stupid in this day and age to leave your door open.

You'd risk your home and everything in it, leave it uninsured, rather than put your foot down and insist another adult pick up a tiny piece of metal on their way out?

If I knew someone was at home and would be home til I get back, I wouldn't worry about taking my keys, YABU to have locked him out.

Yeah

@Youseethethingis

You'd risk your home and everything in it, leave it uninsured, rather than put your foot down and insist another adult pick up a tiny piece of metal on their way out?

MN Bravado isn't it. I don't believe for a second the picture people paint of themselves on here is anywhere near close to their real life.

[quote TheChip]@Ajl46 the door would remain unlocked[/quote]
So if everyone went out you'd leave the front door unlocked rather than each adult take their own key?!