To be frustrated by people who are just oblivious

[Manyview]

Nursery drop off queue - always a joy

Particular group of parents who just don't seem to have any grip on reality

Husband and I work hard in public sector jobs. They asked me how work is (for me social care) and I was like well pretty manky, big staff and money shortages, everyone's working v hard etc

Response : oh yeah I think I heard something about that last week...and covid is still about a bit isn't it apparently?? Did you hear that?

Is it just me? How can you be soooooo oblivious to real (and stressful) life around you? How can people be just so lacking in understanding of the genuine issues affecting real people?

pressed send too soon...

Whine in detail about their lives

@Theworldisfullofgs

Yep. Its one of the reasons why the country is in the state its in, lots of oblivious people.

I agree , you are not at all being unreasonable

I agree , you are not being unreasonable at all

YABU who wants a heavy conversation first thing in the morning when dropping off the kids. Keep your work complaints etc for coffee with close friends.

The thing is, some of us, and I am absolutely one of these people, just want to enjoy life without dwelling on any of the miserable bad or sad stuff. I'll be the first to admit I have an incredibly lucky life - we're not rich but we have a comfy little house in a nice safe place, food and warmth, plenty of small things to enjoy. Some people just prefer to focus on the positive nice things. I avoid the news unless it directly affects me. COVID is not the big spectre it was last Spring. People are vaccinated. I'm sorry there are bad things in the world and some people are sad or struggling, but if someone I didn't know that well started moaning in depth at drop off I would absolutely be the person who politely shut it down and didn't want to engage. I have done this to a colleague before at work who wanted to go on a big ranty political discussion during lunch, I just stopped them and said I'm really sorry but I don't want to do that, I just want to have a nice peaceful day and enjoy myself. So, you know, some of us just want to be left in our happy place instead of worrying about things we can't change.

Safe Conversation has its place,and it’s protective. Not veering into a deep or fraught conversation doesn’t mean people don’t care don’t know about difficult events, it means they’re waiting for an appropriate time & appropriate person