To think once every 2 weeks is enough?

[naggy095]

Sorry it’s another PIL one…MIL does this passive aggressive thing of talking to 4mo DD in her baby voice about things that are directed towards me, e.g. “is your mummy anti-social? She is isn’t she!”. My favourite one so far “you’re much prettier than your mummy, aren’t you!”. 🙄

PILs have been going on since the day we got home from the hospital about looking after her overnight (no matter how many times I decline the requests keep coming), and the most recent comment to DD was “we can’t wait for you to sleep over, but you probably won’t know who we are because we don’t see you enough, do we”. We see PILs with DD at a minimum 1-2 times every 2 weeks, we spend a few hours with them each time. They see her more than anyone else on either side of the families.

AIBU to think at least once every 2 weeks is ‘enough’ for a grandchild to see their grandparents?

If she refuses to tow the line tell her you will be cutting her visits down to one a month or less until she learns to show you the respect you are entitled to.

What happened today when you saw fil

Any updates OP? Am following this thread with interest as I see so much of my MIL's behaviour in yours.

FIL wasn’t actually there when I turned up at the house yesterday! He must have finished his job before I got there.

I see MIL tomorrow with DP and DD, it will be the first time seeing her since the comment about her not seeing DD enough and after DP talking with her about it. I’ll post an update after I’ve seen her!

Best of luck OP.

You owe this awful woman nothing.

Remember that.

When dh leaves the room I'd set my phone to record...
Be prepared to leave.

Tell dh you hope it'll be a lovely visit with everyone being respectful to everyone else. But if someone if rude to you, you'll be leaving with dd and expect his immediate support. (Keep the car keys)

Hope went ok with mil

@naggy095 I hope you're all ok and that everything went ok with your MIL