Today is a big birthday and my husband forgot

[Kk789]

Today is a milestone birthday and my husband forgot. He remembered at 6pm and said sorry but we couldn't do anything anyway because of covid.

I feel really sad about it actually because we do usually do birthdays, not so much big presents but we make it a nice day

Feel pretty low :(

Happy birthday !

Ask him for his bank card nicely

Get online

Buy yourself some things you fancy

Don't forget to remind him to arrange dinner plans for tomorrow

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🥳

He's a miserable fucker and you deserve better.

Have a lovely time tomorrow and enjoy choosing a lovely present for yourself.

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

Oh- catch yourself on! She’s not complaining that she didn’t get exactly what she wanted, or moaning about what he DID do. He KNEW it was her birthday, I’m sure she’s had plenty of others in their time, and he’s just ignored it. I can be the absolute Queen of martyrs at times, and I’m hyper aware of it. But this is not martyrdom. This is a lazy and thoughtless person.

OP- HAPPIEST OF BIRTHDAYS!! 🥳 Have a substitute birthday tomorrow. You are not unreasonable. You are not a martyr here. Life should be about finding joy together, even in the toughest times, and it sounds like he’s lost his. xxx

OP, my husband gave me an apron for my 40th, and that was after several reminders. We are no longer married.

I feel your pain op.
My 60th was a washout.
I marched my dh up town a week later and chose some nice jewellery that he paid for.

Happy birthday. Go out and treat yourself tomorrow.

I'm sorry you're disappointed, OP. I don't think it's asking too much to get a card and from your OH to say "happy birthday". I'm not one for celebrating my own birthday, but realise that's not the default position for most people. He really has no excuse.

Happy birthday OP, your husband is a selfish twat.

You deserve better, you know what to for his next birthday. Nothing

Tell everyone you didn't get anything yesterday so really glad to celebrate tomorrow, especially tell his family.

@Kk789, Happy Birthday!

Honestly, OP, I'd end my relationship over this. What a thoughtless sack of shit.

Don't play games with his birthday. Just find a guy who loves you enough to celebrate a special day with you next year

Happy birthday @Kk789

Definitely buy yourself a little treat!

I cant stand lazy thoughtless men, my DH had an excuse when i got nothing for my 50th as he was in hospital having major surgery. I hate the old 'oh didnt you remind them' really? I have been with my OH over 20yrs if i had to remind him of my birthday he would be an ex...its not amusing, or funny to forget your loved ones birthday. Blokes think they can get away with it as their 'poor' blokes with zero brains when it comes to what they perceive as 'womans' stuff.

oh and his covid excuse ...he should hang his head in shame. I am in the UK and have managed to go out three times this week, managed present buying and attending wedding- so he just didnt give a shit

Happy birthday, OP! I agree with many of the other posters: treat yourself to something lovely. Then make sure that you tell him how disappointed you have been and that this isn’t going to happen again.

Happy Birthday!!

Definitely get his card and buy yourself some lovely things. Book a weekend away for you and a friend. Something really nice just for you.

I was married to someone who forgot my special days. He always seemed to manage to remember things that were important to him though. TBH, I should have left him the first time as that type of contempt just damaged something in me deep down.

Happy Birthday!! 🎉🍾🎂🎊🎈🎉

Happy 40th birthday 🎂

So crap for any birthday, never mind a big one, and the "excuse" makes it worse. Hope he makes it up to you!

Happy birthday

🎉🎁🥂🎂 Happy BIG Birthday @Kk789 🎂🥂🎁🎉

I really hope you have a great evening with your friends tomorrow. Your 'd'h should be ashamed of himself, forgetting. My dh isn't a card giver really, but I will be mightily pissed off if he forgets to give me one for my 50th this year. I won't expect a present as such as we are going away next year for our silver wedding anniversary last year and his and my 50ths this year.

This is really poor, if he does come out tomorrow please ensure your friends all ask him what he did special, what did he buy you, how has he celebrated it with you etc etc.
I hope 🤞 if today hasn't shamed him (& it doesn't sound like it) tomorrow will

Oops I have no idea how the random 🤞 got there, sorry

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

Oh behave. Not everyone has such low expectations of a partner as you do.

I'm very sorry, OP, it's completely shit of your DH. I hope he makes up for it several times over. He bloody well should.

Happy milestone birthday.

I remember organising a lovely 60ieth birthday treat for my husband and wondered what he'd do for mine - sadly he died when I was 59. Let it go, and organise something wonderful for yourself xx

Surely he is pretending and will come up with a big surprise??

headintheproverbial you may be right. Happened to me once on a special anniversary. I felt like shit afterwards for making a fuss.