Wanting to rehome a dog

[Newmama93]

I’m in a horrible situation, I’ve rehomed a dog before,I had two dogs, both were XL American bullies, my male was attacking my other female dog repeatively, with a baby on the way we found the male a beautiful property where we see daily photos of him and he is so happy. That almost killed me! DH then proposed to me with another dog for our female as she developed severe seperation anxiety once our male was gone (even though she was scared and hid from him all day prior) I was shocked that he bought another dog and also a big dog which I did not want. Fast forward a year and this dog is aggressive toward other animals, people and kids. He is good with my 6 month old and mum, that is it. I still do t trust him. He is aggressive toward people we have come to the house (friends and family) and I’m so anxious constantly whenever someone wants to come over and see my son.

I am such an animal lover, I donate to a shelter monthly, I would never have imagined giving up my first dog let alone two but I really can’t cope with this aggression. He’s a 60kg dog.

What would you do? I can’t stop crying, I can’t eat. DH is not on board and says just put him outside away from everyone but I’m so anxious someone will accidentally walk outside and I also feel it’s a bad life for him.

Please no judgement - I would never dump my dog at a shelter or anything like that. I’d keep him if we couldn’t find anyone to take him.

Also - we socialised this fog every single day , he was genetically just nervous and that has turned into aggression. I’ve spent about 5 thousand dollars in training so far.

I am not judging you but I am judging your dp.

What was he thinking? Bringing a dog in when you both didn't discuss it? And now shut the dog outside?

The dog should be rehomed, as difficult as that sounds. Through a reputable rescue that understands the breed. Not sold, since aggressive.

But, this may sound like an over reaction, I am really passionate about rescue dogs people buying responsibly. If my Dp had the attitude like this, especially with the 'just shut him away from people' it would reay make me review the relationship. Certainly wouldn't be rushing to marry this man

You've tried.
It's better to rehome him.
I hope DP learns a lesson as he's an idiot.

He means shut him outside when we have people come to our house with kids etc, he still walks him daily at quiet times.

But I get you both

If he’s aggressive to strangers... how are you going to rehome him?

Surely he’d be aggressive to whoever takes him...

I think you should have the dog put down. Rehoming an aggressive 60 kg dog is not a good idea. It could go on to kill someone,be used for fighting, or just end up shut away for life.
Your 5000 dollars would have been better spent on treating the so called separation anxiety of the other dog, rather than getting a new one. Did you use a veterinary behaviourist or just a dig trainer? Sounds like you've had poor advice to spend that much to end up in this situation?

The dog should be rehomed, as difficult as that sounds. Through a reputable rescue that understands the breed. Not sold, since aggressive.

No reputable rescue is going to re-home an aggressive 60 kg dog.

@SnackSizeRaisin

The dog should be rehomed, as difficult as that sounds. Through a reputable rescue that understands the breed. Not sold, since aggressive.

No reputable rescue is going to re-home an aggressive 60 kg dog.

I disagree. Many rescues have very highly trained people who work with aggressive dogs that are given up, even larger ones to see if there is anything that can be done before opting for killing the dog.

Many dogs go into long term Foster, especially ones with these issues. I know, because I used to do it.

Even the rspca does it. And it depends on many many things, level of aggression, has the dig actually attacked or gone for people, what triggers it etc.

That's why I said 'one that understands the breed'. I think it worth a converstation rather than jumping straight to 'put it down'.

Rescues, generally, don't refuse to take all dogs with aggression problems.

Thanks everyone. Our other dog is social so I really don’t like having them out and away all the time. We have a friend who lives on an acre who doesn’t have many visitors who would take him but I just feel horrid doing this again. I didn’t want another big dog to begin with and adding aggressive issues when we Have kids here regularly is just difficult for me.

Thanks everyone

Please rehome both dogs and don't get any more animals?!

Has the current male dog been neutered? If not that could be a reason for his agression.

I’m not keen on these dogs. They are basically turbo charged pit bulls. All the dodgy people around where I live have them. Have you had their ears cropped? They shouldn’t be bred in the first place and sadly, as an aggressive one could do a huge amount of damage, I think euthanasia could be a possibility.

If it's not working it's not working. You'll know this from the behaviourist but aggression is usually based on fear so you either need a proper plan to work with his fear (Ie not shutting outside) or you need to rehome so that someone else can do so.
If your other dog has separation anxiety that is not solved by getting another dog and your partner did the complete wrong thing and now you're paying the price. Rehome the dog and work with your current dog on her anxiety. Join Dog Training Advice and Support Group on Facebook. They have a separation anxiety group with professionals that can help x

Why on Earth did your DH buy another huge male dog when he knew how it was likely to turn out and you have a tiny baby?? This dog should not be around a baby or your existing dog or anyone for that matter. Unfortunately an aggressive dog, especially one of that size needs to be put down. And then your DH needs to not buy another!

Get rid of it whether that's by giving it to the friend or having it put down and then never get another dog. Especially not a big powerful dog

So you rehome and then what? Your idiot partner brings another big status dog you can't cope with home?

I wouldn't be taking ANY risks with a large, aggressive dog and a baby. These kind of dogs can kill adults, let alone an infant. Put your family first OP and get rid of this dog asap.

And yes, tell your stupid DH that you will rehome HIM if he ever pulls another stunt like bringing another huge dog home that you don't want!

Why on earth would someone bring a dog like this into the household with a baby 😱

You need to rehome your DH

Rehome both dogs and the husband whilst you're at it

Honestly, a good rescue will assess the dog in a home and will have access to behaviourists.
I would also expect to make a big donation to the rescue to support them and to ask them to do their absolute best.

As for your DH, tell him that your families safety and feeling of safety has to come first. No more dogs, none. You aren't in a position to be having large dogs at the moment, that's the honest truth.

Definitely rehome, but please make sure it’s a suitable home with a owner who is aware of the type of dog they are getting and willing to put time into more training.

You have done your best in a hard situation that was put upon you, don’t give yourself a hard time your husband is the idiot here. Make sure to tell him he is never to buy another animal without any conversation with you.

Thanks all!

He is fear aggressive, he is actually submissive with my other dog and good with my son however I do not trust him. I have a friend who knows him and would take him but I feel so guilty about it. He is just so big and unpredictable unfortunately. He’s been aggressive toward my 2 year of nephew and he’ll have to be put away constantly when we have people here. It’s a really tough situation.

Why are people saying to rehome
Both dogs?

Umm no we don’t have their ears cropped?

Why have these type of dogs when you planned to have children