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Wanting to rehome a dog

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Newmama93 · 08/10/2021 05:13

I’m in a horrible situation, I’ve rehomed a dog before,I had two dogs, both were XL American bullies, my male was attacking my other female dog repeatively, with a baby on the way we found the male a beautiful property where we see daily photos of him and he is so happy. That almost killed me! DH then proposed to me with another dog for our female as she developed severe seperation anxiety once our male was gone (even though she was scared and hid from him all day prior) I was shocked that he bought another dog and also a big dog which I did not want. Fast forward a year and this dog is aggressive toward other animals, people and kids. He is good with my 6 month old and mum, that is it. I still do t trust him. He is aggressive toward people we have come to the house (friends and family) and I’m so anxious constantly whenever someone wants to come over and see my son.

I am such an animal lover, I donate to a shelter monthly, I would never have imagined giving up my first dog let alone two but I really can’t cope with this aggression. He’s a 60kg dog.

What would you do? I can’t stop crying, I can’t eat. DH is not on board and says just put him outside away from everyone but I’m so anxious someone will accidentally walk outside and I also feel it’s a bad life for him.

Please no judgement - I would never dump my dog at a shelter or anything like that. I’d keep him if we couldn’t find anyone to take him.

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amusedtodeath1 · 10/10/2021 12:06

OP, I'm concerned for you and your child's safety. You sound like this is really getting to you.

So you're now in this position and you openly acknowledge that your DH should never have got the dog.

So how do we move forward, for your peace of mind and safety?

You can carry on doing what you're doing (which isn't really an option as it clearly upsets you). Re-home the dog to a place where there is no children and a very experienced owner who has the resources to help the dog. Or you have him PTS.

No one can make that decision for you, all we can do is advise.

Be careful OP, Flowers

Closetbeanmuncher · 10/10/2021 12:20

He’s been aggressive toward my 2 year of nephew and he’ll have to be put away constantly when we have people here. It’s a really tough situation

You need to rehome this dog ASAP before it seriously hurts someone and focus on the females problems with a proper behaviorist.

Your husband is an absolute moron and that's being polite.

RunningFromInsanity · 10/10/2021 15:55

@Newmama93

Can the comments stop. I’m trying to look after DS with all this stress on me and can’t take more people coming at me saying it’s my fault or the way I’ve raised my dogs when I’ve tried my best. I’ve struggled with PPD and really can’t handle Any more stress, this situation is hard enough. Thank you for your input
That’s nothing compared to how you will feel when this dog seriously injures a family member, or your son.

And it will happen. I work in an industry where I come across this situation a lot, and the dog always injures the child that the parent said he would never harm. Always.

cherriesgalore · 10/10/2021 16:11

Well that's ok if he's ok with you. Don't worry if he kills someone else's kid or family member OP. Bloody hell what on earth are you waiting for?!

tsmainsqueeze · 10/10/2021 18:00

I judge anyone harshly who knowingly keeps aggressive dogs in a house with children .
What are you thinking ? already shown aggression to a 2 year old and you don't trust him , get your priorities right .

TheOccupier · 11/10/2021 09:00

Welcome to mumsnet, OP. Are there other examples of your DP ignoring your wishes and imposing things that cause you fear and unhappiness? If so you may find the relationships board useful.

esloquehay · 11/10/2021 09:07

So, you can't parent your "wild son" on your own, or provide the right conditions for wild dogs? 🤷
OP, the common denominator in this scenario is you. Stop blaming your DH (who sounds like an idiot) and take some responsibility for this situation.

Newmama93 · 18/10/2021 21:15

@esloquehay

So, you can't parent your "wild son" on your own, or provide the right conditions for wild dogs? 🤷 OP, the common denominator in this scenario is you. Stop blaming your DH (who sounds like an idiot) and take some responsibility for this situation.
Yuck what a nasty comment.

I do parent my son, he’s a hard baby, is that now allowed? You need something else to do other than tear people down that are already struggling

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