Told to f* off by DH. AIBU?

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Hi everyone.

Yesterday, DH wanted to meet with a friend of his. I was happy to go, although I said only if the bar we met at had an outside space. We are both double vaccinated, however, I still feel better taking precautions like not eating/drinking in enclosed spaces.

We arrived, and the bar was completely indoors. Since DH friend was already there and with another group of people, I didn't feel as if I could make an issue and didn't want there to be a scene, so went inside and stayed for 2 hours.

Upon leaving, I calmly told DH that I was upset he hadn't kept to the agreement, even though he knows how I feel about eating/drinking inside at the moment. His response was to tell me to 'fuck off' as apparently I'm an irritation to him.

To add context, I have my first annual leave in 9 months next week - and so I have been trying to be even more careful as I don't want to be unwell - and have been looking forward to some relaxation time for months.

AIBU to still feel like this even though I have had both vaccines?

@BoredZelda

I’d certainly find your behaviour tiresome but I’d simply not invite you out rather than put up with the hassle of it.

Nice. Would you really treat your partner with such contempt?

What's he meant to do then?

@girlmom21

we certainly wouldn't dream of just leaving each other behind and doing our own thing.

We have a very normal, ordinary respectful marriage

Both of these statements can't be true @billy1966.

Never doing your own thing isn't normal.

My thoughts exactly.

So you'd never go somewhere your partner didn't want to go, @billy1966 ?

I work remotely - and as it is, I work every single time I am feeling unwell - this has included a vomiting bug and an incident where I passed out (but was back working 2 hours later). So yes, if I am ill next week, I will be really upset.

For goodness sake if you’re ill don’t work! This ^^ is ridiculous.

If you weren’t comfortable going on you should have said so at the start of the evening not at the end.

[quote Cadent]@Offmyfence

She wasn't chained to him, she could've you know, LEFT and GONE HOME.

NOT the point of the thread, which is him telling his own WIFE to FUCK OFF.[/quote]
Well it is absolutely the point of the thread isn’t it

@LaikO I don't think you have health anxiety (I do), I think you're sensible

Where did I say about not doing anything on our own? 🙄

How on earth did you deduce that, from what I wrote.🙄

What I said was, we wouldn't just tell each other Fxxk off because we didn't agree with each other, and just say not bother going out together because during a pandemic, one was more concerned about being in a crowded space than the other.

Lots of people have different comfort levels at the moment.

I personally know of several double vaccinated people who have had nasty doses, so yes, many older people are still being careful.

@billy1966 you are allowed to say fuck on MN!

@billy1966

Where did I say about not doing anything on our own? 🙄

How on earth did you deduce that, from what I wrote.🙄

What I said was, we wouldn't just tell each other Fxxk off because we didn't agree with each other, and just say not bother going out together because during a pandemic, one was more concerned about being in a crowded space than the other.

Lots of people have different comfort levels at the moment.

I personally know of several double vaccinated people who have had nasty doses, so yes, many older people are still being careful.

Where did I say about not doing anything on our own?

we certainly wouldn't dream of just leaving each other behind and doing our own thing

That's exactly what it sounds like lmao