To be annoyed my mum says I’m a snob for this

[BrendaBubbles]

It’s relevant to note that I am from a working class background and last year I moved into a flat in an actually “naice” area of the northern town I grew up in. The number of the flat has “A” after it because it was originally the upstairs of a single Edwardian townhouse and the ground floor has the number only.. for example I have 69A and downstairs they have 69.

I thought having the A just looked a bit rubbish and a friend suggested that I could instead give the flat a name and register it with the post office and so on to use it officially. So I went through this rigmarole and my flat is now called something along the lines of Brenda Tower then the road name etc (not exactly that name due to privacy!)

I thought it was quite a fun thing to do but when I told my DM she went berserk and said she was disappointed because she hadn’t brought me up to be so snobby about something like an address and that moving to this part of town has made me into a worse person. I thought she was joking at first but she is really holding me in contempt for it and makes annoying references to how “posh” and “too good” I am at family gatherings and things. Other than having a nice flat in a nice area and giving it my own name, Am I actually being unreasonable?? Lots of people with cottages and things have house names so why can’t my flat?

I think it’s a bit odd and it will be difficult for an ambulance to find your property but it sounds like your mother has a massive chip on her shoulder and some reverse snobbery issues.

I have to say I think names for homes are bizarre. At least you know 69A is near to 69 and maybe 67. But Brenda Tower could be near no3 or no89. Who would know? I wouldn’t call you a snob for it, I’d just wonder why. Our house had a name when we moved in 15yrs ago so we got rid of it for the above reason.

Agree that your mum clearly has a chip on her shoulder. I don't think naming a flat makes you snobby, although I also can't see anything wrong with having an A. I usually think of properties with names as having a bit of personality as opposed to being snobby. Now personalised number plates is a whole other matter

I do think it's quite embarrassing that you've done this, but your mum should have just rolled her eyes or teased you about it, her reaction was very over the top.

Not sure naming your flat, although it's a slightly odd thing to do, makes you snobby but your mother certainly sounds like an inverted snob with a huge chip on her shoulder.

Not much you can do about it tbh but she's being ridiculous.

There's nothing posh about naming your property; it's incredibly nouveau riche, so I'd just ignore your Mum.

It's not snobby necessarily but it is pretty ridiculous...sorry

There’s nothing wrong with having a house name rather than number.

It’s not snobby but I do find it very strange…

Hmm I have to say naming a flat is rather unusual. I do think it’s a bit pretentious to be honest.
A bit Hyacinth Bucket.
Our perfectly ordinary detached house was given a name by the previous owners and I hate it. Think it sounds terribly poncey and social climbing.
It’s up to you though isn’t it. If it makes you happy, it’s doing not one any harm, so who cares really.

There’s nothing wrong with letters in house addresses. I’d think a friend was being extremely precious and particular if they used that reason to change to a name instead.

She’s being nasty if she’s bad mouthing you at meet ups and you need to tell her you don’t need to keep hearing it and won’t tolerate it continuing.

“Oh my god mum, are you still banging on about where I live?!”

“Yep, heard you the first 20 times Mum, please drop it”.

She’s threatened by you changing your life, sad for her, not your problem though.

But the name thing is still a bit odd tbh.

Not snobby so yanbu about that, but silly. I think you made your own house harder to find. Presumably still need to use 69A so people can locate you on the road. So that's trouble for visitors, cabs, deliveries and the postie.

It’s a bit naff tbh but whatever makes you happy. I feel unless your house has had a name since ‘birth’ if you like, then giving it a name when all those around it are numbered is trying hard to be something it’s not. Especially when they are randomly named twee things like ‘tree view’ or similar in a town.
But if you like it then what’s the problem really?

The best house name ieper saw was in Hornsea.Fookam Hall.

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Come on, OP, you need to give the flat a REALLY poncy name. That will get your mother’s dander up. Start thinking.

Yep, an actual snob would think making up a name for your flat to hide the fact that it’s a flat says a lot about you, but not that you’re posh. Sorry.

I don’t think it’s a snobby thing to do but it’s a bit irritating to find houses that have a name and no number as well.

There's nothing strange about a house name.
I think your mum's reaction is crazy

I find house names a bit wanky when they’re just on a normal street (vs super rural out on their own). Number 2, number 4, number 6, Honeysuckle Retreat, number 10…
But your mum’s reaction is way OTT.

YANBU to be annoyed, it's not nice to have your mum call you snobby.

It's not snobby but it is a bit silly to give a flat your name.

But that's just my opinion for the nothing it's worth 🤷‍♀️ it just seems very, how to put it, delusions of grandeur. It's a flat. Not a country pile.

That said, I'd not call you names, your mum should have just rolled her eyes and kept her gob shut if she felt a particular way about it.

@Ohshitiveturnedintomymother

It’s a bit naff tbh but whatever makes you happy. I feel unless your house has had a name since ‘birth’ if you like, then giving it a name when all those around it are numbered is trying hard to be something it’s not. Especially when they are randomly named twee things like ‘tree view’ or similar in a town. But if you like it then what’s the problem really?

A name has to start at some point though

Bit odd thinking the A looks rubbish but she sounds jealous

The house name thing wouldn't be for me but is entirely your call. Your mum's totally OTT reaction says to me she is resentful of what you've achieved with your location upgrade. What a shame.

@MintyGreenDream

The best house name ieper saw was in Hornsea.Fookam Hall.

There's a house in my town with the same name.

It's also very garishly decorated on the outside, can't imagine what the inside's like, so I'm thankful it isn't near where I live.