To be annoyed my mum says I’m a snob for this

[BrendaBubbles]

It’s relevant to note that I am from a working class background and last year I moved into a flat in an actually “naice” area of the northern town I grew up in. The number of the flat has “A” after it because it was originally the upstairs of a single Edwardian townhouse and the ground floor has the number only.. for example I have 69A and downstairs they have 69.

I thought having the A just looked a bit rubbish and a friend suggested that I could instead give the flat a name and register it with the post office and so on to use it officially. So I went through this rigmarole and my flat is now called something along the lines of Brenda Tower then the road name etc (not exactly that name due to privacy!)

I thought it was quite a fun thing to do but when I told my DM she went berserk and said she was disappointed because she hadn’t brought me up to be so snobby about something like an address and that moving to this part of town has made me into a worse person. I thought she was joking at first but she is really holding me in contempt for it and makes annoying references to how “posh” and “too good” I am at family gatherings and things. Other than having a nice flat in a nice area and giving it my own name, Am I actually being unreasonable?? Lots of people with cottages and things have house names so why can’t my flat?

How is anyone going to be able to find your flat?

If someone I knew did that, I would think they were being pretentious.

Your mum thinks she’s losing you: that you’ll rise above your roots and look down on them (this is very very common and a not unrealistic fear). Have a proper conversation about what this is really about, and then tell her to shut up about the flat name.

I think she's got a point and FWIW house names are way more naff (unless long established where there are no numbers) than an upstairs flat with an A.

Obviously it's not worth a big row with your daughter, but she's not wrong IMO

You might have registered it with the post office but I doubt every postie will have seen those documents so it will make it harder for them to deliver mail and couriers will have a nightmare.

It's your flat but I do think it's a bit odd and yes a bit Hyacinth Bucket. My house has both a name and number, I never use the name. I cringed a bit when new neighbours move in and bought a nice new house sign with the name rather than number, I keep getting their post! I'm from a very working class background.

I think it's cool, I didn't know it was a thing that could be done. I really don't see any issue or snobbery

For whatever reason this has touched a nerve with your mum. Her reaction is utterly out of proportion.

All other things being equal I think I'd try and get past it with a repeated 'yes, I know you don't like it, let's talk about something else'

You named your flat? After yourself?

Blimey.

Odd thing of you to do. But your mother should let it go now.

The naming of houses always reminds me of Dalentrace (sp?) from Birds of a feather

If that's what you want to do though no one else should be going on and on about it.

Express and opinion by all means - but then let it go!

I think you seem to have done it for fun reasons not snobby ones. I think naming your flat is funny!

Your dm isnt being very nice but you are bonkers

Where we live there aren’t any house numbers and receiving post can be a pita.
There is a push for all houses in France to get numbers ASAP.
However the numbers are decided by how far from the main road the house is if in a hamlet.
Eg. 150 if 150m. A hamlet of 10 houses could potentially have very high numbers.
Logically though, for delivery drivers, once they turn off the main road then they can estimate how far to drive to find the house.

Not snobby but naff. Like personalised number plates

If you have a number then you don't need a name

If you have a number then you don't need a name

Showing my age but.. “I am not a number, I am a free (wo)man!”

Okay taking your points on board. Maybe I could offer to rename it again after DM!

It’s quite an eccentric thing to do. That’s not really the point though, your mum should be building you up not tearing you down. If she doesn’t like the flat name, then she doesn’t need to talk about it, I would never take the piss out of a loved one in front of others.

Awww it's your home, do what you want with it.

i think it's bizarre for people choose to judge or form an opinion of you based on such a trivial thing.
Your mum is out of order.

I think what you've done is quite funny!

But as an ex-delivery driver it would probably be handy to put your house number visibly in the window of the flat. Ambulances also find this very useful I have been told.

Legal requirement to have and use a number, name can be in addition to but not instead of a number. Councils can use various legislation including - section 64 and 65 of the Town Improvement Clauses Act 1847;
Section 160 of the Public Health Act 1875;
Section 21 of the Public Health Act 1907;
Section 17, 18 and 19 of the Public Health Act 1925;
The Local Government Act 1972

What you decide to call your home is up to do andvyour mum has completely overreacting.

However, the 'naice' word is completely ridiculous, just use nice, it works really well.

I think it's quite sweet and funny that you've named your flat OP, it's obviously not because you have delusions of grandeur.

I'm now dying to give my perfectly ordinary terraced house a name.

Your mum is worried you're leaving her behind in terms of social status. I had this with my dad. I ignored his comments because I thought it was his issue, not mine.

@BrendaBubbles You lost me at "NAICE". YABU.

We used to live at a 69 that is more sniggeringly embarrassing than a letter. 😁

Sorry OP but I think it’s pretentious.

Your mum is being ott but i dont get naming a flat

do you have problems with deliveries or do you just write above number 70 or whatever