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How would you take this?

300 replies

WhatAPickledOnion · 03/10/2021 16:34

I’ve recently given birth to a beautiful baby girl. Throughout the pregnancy sex was actually non-existent.

Since having the baby DH has wanted it non-stop.

We were giggling and messing around today and I said “I’ve got my stallion back” he turned around and said “well yeah I’ve got nothing to release into now.”

How would you take this statement? I’m just so disgusted and told him what I thought he was implying by that statement but think I’m being gaslighted as he says I’m over reacting and it doesn’t mean what I think.

What would that statement imply to you?

OP posts:
Crunchymum · 03/10/2021 19:01

needy*

BarefootHippieChick · 03/10/2021 19:02

@madkittylady

Is no one going to ask how the bloody hell you've got the energy to be 'constantly at it' when you've just had a baby? Grin

Not to mention the time! I don't recall having that much free time with a newborn and a house to run.

OP, if you really are so needy and high maintenance as you say, then honestly I kind of feel sorry for your husband.

2pinkginsplease · 03/10/2021 19:03

I think you need to make an appointment at the doctors! You have concocted a huge story to do with your mistrust and mental health.

Many couples don’t have sex during pregnancy!

You need help and fast!

chickenninja · 03/10/2021 19:06

“I’ve not got anything to release into anymore”
But if he had been sleeping around why would he choose that moment to reveal it to you? Surely he'd be smart enough not to blurt that out.
Is there more to the story that would make you assume he's been having an affair?

I also think looking for a sex doll is waste of time because he doesn't have it 'anymore'?

The locksmith comment is a bit trollish so I'm wondering if this is real. But if it is, Op you need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. This is a big misunderstanding over a strange comment.

Notimeforaname · 03/10/2021 19:08

Nope. Doesn't make sence. His comment implies hes not getting any sex. Which isnt the case.

OP is a troll or has serious mental health issues.. in either case,get help.

slashlover · 03/10/2021 19:16

Mumsnet say that OP has been on here for a few years for anyone troll hunting.

She has just had a baby and seems to be spiralling, the last thing she needs is people laughing at her.

LalalalalalaLand123 · 03/10/2021 19:18

Makes no sense at all OP.
Are you sure he didnt say "ive got SOMETHING to release into now" ?

Nobodysempire · 03/10/2021 19:19

Hey OP, can you talk to someone in RL about how you're feeling? I'm worried that people are taking the piss out of you here and that isn't helpful.

5BlackDoors · 03/10/2021 19:22

Op can you please call your GP tomorrow or your HV and someone in RL who can just help and prop you up? Your reactions are a bit out there and you may need some proper support. Okay? HUgs to you, Thanks Please talk to someone.

Derbee · 03/10/2021 19:24

I think you need to reach out for some mental health support, OP. A few people have mentioned post natal psychosis, I think you need support, and I hope you get it.

The fact that mumsnet have verified OP as a long time poster means people should stop troll hunting and taking the piss out of someone who is clearly unwell.

Sceptre86 · 03/10/2021 19:27

Are you well? You sound hormonal and insecure. I wouldn't have jumped to the conclusion my dh was cheating on me had he said something like that, instead like a semi rational person I would have clarified what he meant. It sounds to me more like he has been masturbating rather than cheating with someone (although I get some people have different boundaries on masturbating too). Talk to him.

QuestionEverythingBaby · 03/10/2021 19:31

@slashlover

Mumsnet say that OP has been on here for a few years for anyone troll hunting.

She has just had a baby and seems to be spiralling, the last thing she needs is people laughing at her.

Don't mn usually come on the thread to say that?

ChristmasPlanning · 03/10/2021 19:31

@CandleWick4

Never been so confused over a thread in my life. Also ‘rent-a-vagina’ 🤮
This

Also why did you not confront & leave him when you thought he was cheating on you!?

MrsJBaptiste · 03/10/2021 19:33

Christ on a bike, I have no idea what's going on here and every time the OP updates it confuses me even more...

ChristmasPlanning · 03/10/2021 19:34

Please hold off on a locksmith & have a proper conversation with him Thanks

NormanStangerson · 03/10/2021 19:34

This whole thread is vile and utterly, utterly confusing.

The way you spoke to each other and the way you speak about a possible mistress (rent a vagina?!) is just awful.

KarmaStar · 03/10/2021 19:34

I just asked a male what he thought your dh might be referring to,he said he had no idea whatsoever unless your dh was referring to it not being the same after the birth.
But surely,hopefully not op.💐

toocold54 · 03/10/2021 19:37

Please see your GP. This could be some kind of post natal psychosis. The fact that you've got a locksmith coming is really disturbing.

I agree!

I wish everyone would stop with the unkind comments OP is obviously struggling right now.

I suffered with post natal psychosis and my mum has suffered with reoccurring psychosis all my life and this type of behaviour is definitely pointing towards that.

Is your partner there now?

Maybe you could show him this thread so he understands that you might need some help as not everyone is aware of it.

MrsBobDylan · 03/10/2021 19:37

Your main problem is that you don't seem to be able to have an actual conversation with your partner. And that you thought he was having sex with someone else, but as soon as he wanted it 'non-stop' with you again, you could ignore that and crack on. Weird.

waitingpatientlyforspring · 03/10/2021 19:39

My first thought was he didn't want to 'release into you' as there was something there, ie a baby. It never crossed my mind he might be meaning another women.

slashlover · 03/10/2021 19:42

Don't mn usually come on the thread to say that?

I reported the thread a while ago, MN emailed to say

Thanks for reporting this odd thread. We've already had a look behind the scenes and can see that the OP's been on the site for a number of years and that her posting history seems consistent. Obviously we can never really vouch for anyone on the site, nor know if what they've posted is genuine, but we're just going to keep this thread on our radar for now.

Tevion28 · 03/10/2021 19:47

If he had of said I've got nothing to release into whilst you was pregnant it would have made sense but I honestly don't get it otherwise.

JSL52 · 03/10/2021 19:48

You've got a locksmith booked ??? Confused

tootiredtospeak · 03/10/2021 19:48

God you sound unbelievably high maintenance. I dont get what he meant but my guess would have been there wasnt anything in you anymore that he would have ejaculated on. In other words the baby put him off. But that sounds a bit too normal now.

BiLuminous · 03/10/2021 19:52

I hope youre doing ok op. I get what youre saying but im not sure if it means that or not. You say that he said its not what meant- what is his explanation?

Everyones sex lives are different but dont feel you need to be sleeping with him all the time. You have a newborn! Its ok to be tired.

I hope you have some support.