To have asked DH to buy my youknows?

[FrankieDobie]

Is it unreasonable able to ask a man to buy youknows when they are going out to the shop anyway? It’s not an extra trip, to buy whilst already there?

Haha, reminds me of my very victorian stepfather pointing viciously at the bathroom door and saying to me in a furious whisper, "You've left your...LADIES THINGS."

I wouldn't mind but I was 15 and the elderly convalescing aunt staying with us had left a fucking great thing in the bathroom with loops on, it was about a foot long.

I think the op has had a hard time on here. However "you knows" is a bit silly and on a par with my grandma asking if I was "unwell" - she'd be 111 now!

OTH I wouldn't have asked my husband ordinarily. He once went to the chemist just after ds was born and I was running out of maternity pads and said to the lady very quietly and added "they're for my wife you know". The lady registered our name from prescriptions and told me - the shop thought it was hilarious - even nearly 27 years ago.

The issue with you calling them you knows is that it implies periods are some shameful thing that shouldn't be talked about

The difference with calling the TV remote the doofer, is because that's just a daft word. Whereas 'you knows' obviously stems from saying "you know what" because your mother thought menstruation was a dirty and shameful thing that shouldn't be mentioned.

And now by continuing this ridiculous habit, you're perpetuating that shame. Please tell me you don't have daughters. Or sons. A guinea pig would be fine.

@MysweetAudrina

Well if you are too embarrassed to type the word, you can't really complain about him being too embarrassed to buy them for you.

THIS! FFS.

YANBU when I was at school (decades ago now) I remember my bf at the time was happy to go to the shop on the high street and buy them for me once, can’t remember why I asked him now, but if a teenaged boy can do that for his gf then so can a fully grown DH!!

What's " you knows" ?

Oh my goodness. How old are you ?

How ridiculous.

Oh ffs just say tampons!!!! I have two sons, it is normal in my house that they know what tampons are. Breastfeeding is normal to them, they know they have a penis and I have a vulva. They are unphased by everyday language!

My husband will buy me tampons, he bought me breast pads and nipple shields when I was breastfeeding too. It's a non issue!

Do tell us, OP, is the tiny elderly woman with the huge dogs still allowing them to poo outside your house?

*joke
Young lad starts work on a chemist.
Asks the boss what should he do if anyone comes in asking for tampons etc as he will feel a bit embarrassed..
Make a joke the boss says.
Customer comes in and buys cotton wool.
Oh do you roll your own then??

To answer the actual question, yes, my husband has bought sanitary protection, as did my dad for my mum and teenage me in the 80s.
First time anyone made an issue was when I lived away in my first job at 18. Went into a little shop in a little village, and had to ask for them as they were behind the counter. There was a mature woman serving, and she was was talking to an elderly lady. She insisted on putting them in a bag so nobody would see.
I was more embarrassed at that, but in hindsight I think she was just being kind.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4358139-What-to-do-about-dog-poo-woman

This thread went on for ages and you left everyone wondering...

Lol

No wonder there’s such shame and stigma around things when grown women can’t even bring themselves to use the names of the items they require

Missing the whole point of the thread here, but if your name is similar on IG, we follow each other

Honestly, call things what you want @FrankieDobie. They are your words coming out of your mouth (or hands) so it’s up to you. Everyone clearly knew you meant some form of lady equipment.

The language police can sling their hook - honestly, the internet has turned everyone into a wannabe editor - and that’s a professional sociolinguistic opinion 😉

I’ve always found the euphemisms for periods and having sex on the treating to conceive boards a bit odd… AF for period? BD and DTD for having sex? Or donning a cloak??

Sorry trying to conceive

@SunsetCastle the man who runs our local corner shop puts them in a brown paper bag before putting them into the carrier bag. I think he’s being sweet more than anything, but it is a bit archaic!

why are posters saying ffs and 'grow the fuck up' on the very first page?
How unkind and unnecessary

we all have different levels of comfortability around period language.
mumsnet can be incredibly supportive and understanding, but I never get this piling on of a poster that is perceived by some as different to themselves

@SunshineCake1

The point of this thread is.....?

To make women on the internet say tampon and towel? A lot.

“You knows”?? My DP bought my sanitary products very early on in our relationship. My dad bought mine when I was a child. You do realise that men know what periods and sanitary pads/tampons are?

My husband will buy anything I put on the shopping list and wouldn't better an eyelid. I am going to tell my young teen daughter to do the tampon buying tests on future partners. Dump them if they have a problem with it.

Expecting others to understand your twee language is unreasonable OP. Personally I find it annoying. Coyness really pisses me off!

Asking dh to pick some up for you - reasonable.