To have asked DH to buy my youknows?

[FrankieDobie]

Is it unreasonable able to ask a man to buy youknows when they are going out to the shop anyway? It’s not an extra trip, to buy whilst already there?

Spot on! Call anything what you want in the privacy of your own home.

However, if you then go on a public forum asking about whether it would be better to put a wotsit or a fiddle-de-dee up your doodah before you have a bit of a bing-bong then (a) no one can give you a sensible answer and (b) you will get ridiculed!

@Plantpot75

Surely the OP can call her sanitary protection whatever she wants to call it? Do you all say TV remote and never buttons/zapper/doofer etc? Do you all say sexual intercourse and never shag/fuck/nookie etc? Talk about dictating what someone else has to say, the outrage is ridiculous!

Of course she can. It's unusual to not use the standard terminology when asking for advice from strangers though, unless your intention is to get a reaction to your quirk.

I wouldn't ask a friend if she had a 'lady's necessary', but that's what me and my husband call sanitary towels at home because Jim Branning called them that on EastEnders about 20 years ago

@LubaLuca we call them “ladies items” in the shopping list. Yet when speaking its sanitary towels. DH isn’t a massive fan
Of getting them as I’m quite fussy: hate scented and wings, and like extra long. Some shops don’t have my exact requirements and DH hates having to faff looking for them. He does ask if I need tampons with a skirt though as this amuses him no end

Just here for the "Grow up and use the words, what is this, the 1950s?" ratio.

😂 at ‘lady’s necessary’

Plant pot, comparing it to nicknames for things like the tv remote is not the same at all, euphemisms for sanitary products and any thing menstruation related is all about period shaming

@Macncheeseballs I disagree. I’d say the only thing that has been shamed is the OP as a person. Nobody has even broached it in a nice or even educational way. Just ridicule and is it the 1950’s blah blah on repeat.

My DH does this for me very regularly (he also usually brings icecream)

YANBU to ask anyone who will be in the shop anyway to pick up sanitary products. You will just have to be very specific about what you want (maybe show them a photo of the item first).

YABU to call them "youknows" on here. Nothing wrong at all for having different names for things (I call them Jam Rags), but you need to be straight to the point here.

Do you call your vagina a fairy too?

@Macncheeseballs

Plant pot, comparing it to nicknames for things like the tv remote is not the same at all, euphemisms for sanitary products and any thing menstruation related is all about period shaming

I called sanitary towels, 'Jam Rags'. It has nothing to do with period shaming at all. I find 'sanitary towels' to be a mouthful tbh. My friends know what I mean when I say Jam Rags. We also refer to our period as 'Shark Week'. I have a friend who calls it 'Volcano Week' as she suffers horribly with it, and it is an accurate description for her. Outside a medical setting, you can call it what you want.

@FrankieDobie

Sorry I was brought up calling them that, I meant tampons

They were known as Delilahs in our house

This reminds me about the time I sent DH out to Primark to get some nursing bras and breast pads from Boots after DS was born. He FaceTimed me from Boots and asked the shop assistant where the 'nipple pads' were 🤣 she found it hilarious.

YOU

KNOWS

😂😂😂

@FrankieDobie

No I asked him to get me some youknows and showed him the picture on the asda app. He knows what I mean as I’ve always called them that.

Gets worse with every explanation

@HoppingPavlova

If I asked DH or kids to buy ‘you knows’ they would probably come home with crisps or ice cream or naughty cream biscuits. I doubt they would think to go into the tampon/pad aisle .

I thought she'd meant lingerie when I first read it 😂

Are you and your DH in your 70s/80s? Kind of attitude my parents had!

My DH buys mine (usually if he sees them cheap but still)

I would totally refuse to comply if someone asked me to buy them some youknows.

Feeling a bit sorry now for the OP. She’s getting a bit much of a bashing from multiple folk for for a small thing. Feeling guilty for joking about it earlier on the thread now

@MrsSkylerWhite

TurnipTales

My partner calls tampons cunt plugs.“

A bard amongst men. Lovely.

Yep, he has a creative turn of phrase! We also call bum bags and fanny packs 'cunt carriers'. Yes we are juvenile and stupid.

@Macncheeseballs we will continue to laugh at cunt plugs! There is precious little to laugh about nowadays.

Surely as you typed you realised that outside of your family, most of us don’t call them youknows? I can’t understand why it would be remotely unreasonable for him to buy health products unless you both still find periods a giggle / embarrassing

@Macncheeseballs I really don’t understand why you find it period shaming in the slightest. Surely if my dp and I are comfortable enough to make up nicknames for sanitary products it’s the opposite as shaming. As in is so normal it has qualified to have its own silly name.

When we laugh at the name we aren’t laughing about periods, just the very crude name we managed to think of that month.

Do you have any different names for any of your body parts? Vagina - front bum etc?

@TracyLords

Feeling a bit sorry now for the OP. She’s getting a bit much of a bashing from multiple folk for for a small thing. Feeling guilty for joking about it earlier on the thread now

Deserves it lmao the word irritates me To no end…

YANBU to ask him to get them. YABVU to refer to them on the internet as 'youknows' and expect people to know that that was your mums weird name for them because she was too embarrassed to say tampon.

Youknows? What? Are you 3?