To have asked DH to buy my youknows?

[FrankieDobie]

Is it unreasonable able to ask a man to buy youknows when they are going out to the shop anyway? It’s not an extra trip, to buy whilst already there?

No, there is nothing wrong with him buying tampons for you
Do you call them 'youknows' to him and does he have the same attitude towards them?

Yes he would and has, but only if I told him exactly what to buy by name and in detail.

How old are you op? Even as a shy youngster over 40 years ago I knew what to ask my mum for without pet names.

Ffs, 'youknows' please don't pass that period shaming shit on to any children you may have.

I've told dd to never get involved with any man who is squeamish or ridiculous about buying sanitary protection for her. We call it the 'tampon test'

@EvilRingahBitch

Much easier nowadays for someone to pick something unfamiliar up for you at the shops because you can WhatsApp them a screen shot of the exact packaging without them having to spend ages checking all of the ninety seven slightly different brands on offer, sniffing them to check they don't smell like a minicab air freshener and almost inevitably come back with discreetly labelled incontinence pads.

Although of course maybe incontinence pads is what you actually want - because you didn't say.

I wish I'd thought of that when I had an unexpectedly heavy period that knocked me for six when I was unprepared.

DP offered to pick up what I needed, but seeing as I'd managed the last 20 years on liners and light flow tampons I didn't really know what to ask for, so we both went, despite me not feeling great, but of course I could have looked on the online shopping and showed him some options.

Mine would go out purely to buy them and will chuck a bar of chocolate in for me too. He has a photo on his phone to remember which ones I prefer.

Presuming hespeaks your language and heknew what a youknow was then hewas being unreasonable yes

@FrankieDobie

Wow so much anger over a simple word! 😳 my mum always called them that so I’ve grown up calling them that, sorry!

It’s just like DH was brought up calling his glasses his gogs. And my stepdad calls the tv remote the dofer

That's nonsense. Every family has silly words for everyday objects but obviously nobody expects total strangers to understand them.

No I asked him to get me some youknows and showed him the picture on the asda app. He knows what I mean as I’ve always called them that.

There's no shame in saying tampon. Of course a man should buy then. My DH has bought them for me, and his step daughters, many times.

@FrankieDobie

Sorry I was brought up calling them that, I meant tampons

Now as an adult, do you not find that really very odd?

@FrankieDobie

Wow so much anger over a simple word! 😳 my mum always called them that so I’ve grown up calling them that, sorry!

It’s just like DH was brought up calling his glasses his gogs. And my stepdad calls the tv remote the dofer

Yes but surely you understand that if you ask where the best place is to buy reasonably priced gogs, or whether you can buy a replacement for a broken dofer on Amazon on a public forum then you're going to get a lot of comments.

For future reference, not everyone was brought up in your house. If you've never ever heard anyone else using a term then it's probably not in common usage.

@brittleheadgirl

Ffs, 'youknows' please don't pass that period shaming shit on to any children you may have.

I've told dd to never get involved with any man who is squeamish or ridiculous about buying sanitary protection for her. We call it the 'tampon test'

Good advice. After all, if they can't cope with periods and tampons, how are they going to manage if she gets pregnant, which inevitably leads to giving birth, stitches, maternity pads and breastfeeding?

If I said y'knows to DH he would come back with Haribo

My husband buys them for me if needed.

My boyfriend at uni, who was 18 at the time, bought them for me if he was doing the shopping for my place because I was at work. Or if he was coming over and asked if I needed anything from the shop.
If an 18 year old boy can do it without missing a beat then a grown ass man can do it.

Did he complain? Get all embarrassed? Why? What is it that is embarrassing. Half the population require them. You both need to grow up.

You call them whatever you are comfortable calling them @FrankieDobie, it's really nobody else's business

@FrankieDobie

Wow so much anger over a simple word! 😳 my mum always called them that so I’ve grown up calling them that, sorry!

It’s just like DH was brought up calling his glasses his gogs. And my stepdad calls the tv remote the dofer

But you wouldn't put gogs and dofer in a mumsnet post about glasses and tv remotes would you?

This is mn and you must know that euphemisms for sanitary protection is going to be treated with derision. I suppose it gets lots of threads using words like towel and tampons though.

@PlonkyWillyWonky

You call them whatever you are comfortable calling them *@FrankieDobie*, it's really nobody else's business

Thank you ❤️ Bit shocked at the outrage

I need to go back to sleep. This is mad 🤣

If you're old enough to have a husband you're probably old enough to say whisper tampons.

Did he not get them or refuse to? Why on earth would you be unreasonable to expect the person you have chosen to spend your life with to buy tampons?

What do you call them when asking a colleague at work for one in an emergency? I'd be very confused and weirded out by someone who didn't use the proper word in public. With your mum, go ahead, but it's a bit unreasonable to expect us all to understand 'youknows'? Because we don't know!

Buy yourself some reusable sanitary protection and then you will never again need to do an emergency shopping trip for things so embarrassing you can't even name them.

Why would a man even care? Anyone who notices what he's buying will know they're for his wife or daughter. Not as though they reveal some deep, dark secret. When a woman buys them, there's the chance someone will speculate that she's currently on her period. Nothing shameful about that, but she may not want people thinking about her period at all... At least a man won't have that "issue"!

I would specify exactly what I wanted, though, as there's a lot of choice, and he might not know which I prefer, since I typically get them for myself.

Youknows here would be cake or expensive chocolate, I think.

Please don’t keep up with this level of period coyness. I had this at home when growing up and found it terribly difficult to overcome the idea that periods aren’t a bit shameful. Not at all healthy.