To have asked DH to buy my youknows?

[FrankieDobie]

Is it unreasonable able to ask a man to buy youknows when they are going out to the shop anyway? It’s not an extra trip, to buy whilst already there?

I know it's just a word you've grown up with and you aren't overthinking it, but it was clearly created from embarrassment to avoid calling them sanitary products, if you want people like your DH not to be embarrassed by sanitary products you need to call them as they are!

My DH has no issues buying them, so long as I explain exactly what I need in terms of flow etc!

@MysweetAudrina

Well if you are too embarrassed to type the word, you can't really complain about him being too embarrassed to buy them for you.

Agreed

You showed him a picture? how hilarious!

Dh gets them sometimes for the dds. Why are you embarrassed about it OP? do you pass your innate sense of shame onto your dc as well?

Of course it's not unreasonable. Do you buy him toilet paper to use? It's just a sanitary product. My dh gets all ours when he does the food shop. So that's my pads, older teens tampons and younger teen prefers a specific brand and type. He's never batted an eyelid. Spots if they are running low or they request them, off he goes.

I voted YABU on the basis of you using euphemisms for tampons - not unreasonable to ask him to get them.

@ramonaquimby people are not required to be kind or nice. People are allowed to call out stupidity when and where they see it.

You may call them what you want, but also shouldn't be defensive when others don't know your special word. And yes, my husband would be happy to buy tampons for me.

Well fuck me I thought we'd come quite far in the world of period taboo but clearly not

Please tell me you don't have daughters op.

If you do pls try and change your thoight process when it comes to a natural bodily function for us or they'll spend their life thinking in the 60s Aswell

Partner picks them up all the time for me. It's no big deal.
My father however,is one of those men who has never uttered a word to us about periods.
Never heard him say the words persiod ,tampon or towel,hes never spoken about them....ever In the past if he asked what was wrong and one of us said 'crapms' or whatever he would just say nothing and turn away. Mum always 'hid' the towels in the airing cupboard insane

If I asked DH to buy me some “you knows” he’d probably buy me some donuts

Yanbu to ask him to buy them, obviously. I can't imagine why you even need to ask.

Yabu to call them youknows. There is nothing shameful about menstruation and we don't need to use euphemisms. Just call them tampons!

Period* christ. It's too early l..

@ramonaquimby

why are posters saying ffs and 'grow the fuck up' on the very first page? How unkind and unnecessary

we all have different levels of comfortability around period language.
mumsnet can be incredibly supportive and understanding, but I never get this piling on of a poster that is perceived by some as different to themselves

They are clearly fighting the good fight to liberate women by piling on to women one at a time and correcting how women express themselves.

They’re a bit like men really, only worse, because they should know better.

Cramps* words are hard this morning!!

@FrankieDobie

No I asked him to get me some youknows and showed him the picture on the asda app. He knows what I mean as I’ve always called them that.

Why did you think everyone here would know what you meant? Why are you asking if it's ok to ask your husband to buy them? Did he complain?

@TracyLords

If I asked DH to buy me some “you knows” he’d probably buy me some donuts

To be fair, I'd be happier with a box of donuts than a box of tampons. But dh would be less inclined to buy them as he doesn't like them much.

Are you 10yo?

Is it unreasonable to ask a man to buy youknows when they are going out to the shop anyway? No.
Is it unreasonable to expect someone to know what “youknows” are? Yes.

My much loved and missed late DH happily bought tampons for me back in the 1970s.
He came home chortling once, saying the checkout girl in Boots had given him a funny look, so he’d said, loudly: “They’re not for me, love. I haven’t got a nosebleed!”.
Apparently she’d turned crimson and couldn’t put them in a bag fast enough!
40 years later, DD’s boyfriend really did start a profuse nosebleed, on the bus.
DD raked in her bag and found him a sanitary pad to stem the flow, apologising that she didn’t have an extra thick night time one - much to the hilarity of the other passengers!
I think it’s sad if anyone of either sex is still embarrassed about purchasing sanitary products. We should have all grown up by now.

Most women have a preferred brand.
If you have to ask someone to get the brand, absorbency and pack size you want then you may as well use the word tampon as well?

As an aside we call the TV remote, the buttons.

I can't believe you need to ask, and I can't believe you didn't know most people wouldn't know what a 'youknow' is. Get in the sanitary disposal bin.

FFS! Grow up.

If I asked DH or kids to buy ‘you knows’ they would probably come home with crisps or ice cream or naughty cream biscuits. I doubt they would think to go into the tampon/pad aisle .

DH or DS would buy sanitary and incontinence products, but would not pander to "I am ashamed of my bodily functions so refuse to say the name, continue the tradition of women beeing 'ick' and call them 'youknows' instead".