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To say there are some decent men

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Poppyscone · 30/09/2021 15:31

I know there are many threads about how shit men are. It may be a shit partner not helping, abused by a stranger, sexism etc etc etc.

But to say some men are decent. My DH said this morning re the policemen just sentenced “we men are mostly basically shit aren’t we”
I told him he was one of the good ones and the good ones need to carry on trying to challenging these men who basically hate women
My DH had challenged many men over their behaviour towards women including dropping friendships.

I have epilepsy and DH had always had my back and supported me. Done more then his fare share with kids including most night feeds as well as working full time which I can do. Letting me sleep and recover after a seizure and taking charge without complaining.

He always make me feel good about myself, never pesters for sex and is a good dad.

Yep sure he had his faults he is a bit disorganised and he seems to think dirty clothes belong on the bedroom floor (but does pick them up when asked)
He snores like a machine gun and I have to wear earplug but on the whole he is a decent bloke and I am sure there are many more out there. I would just like to here about them

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EspressoDoubleShot · 03/10/2021 22:33

I do really like that shite like this gets challenged on mn.
It’s a shame best @Tevion28 can manage is witches coven and highly strung
We can only go on your words @Tevion that’s all you’ve given us. Your woefully inadequate and prosaic words

youvegottenminuteslynn · 03/10/2021 22:34

@Tevion28

Oh and I don't have a thread called what is wrong with men.
Mate...
To say there are some decent men
youvegottenminuteslynn · 03/10/2021 22:35

@EspressoDoubleShot

I do really like that shite like this gets challenged on mn. It’s a shame best *@Tevion*28 can manage is witches coven and highly strung We can only go on your words *@Tevion* that’s all you’ve given us. Your woefully inadequate and prosaic words
I'm just waiting for 'hysterical' for full house misogyny...
EspressoDoubleShot · 03/10/2021 22:37

Yup it’s like bingo
Witches
Hysterical
NAMALT
…maybe hysterical
..have we had feminists?
Someone definitely said woke

Tevion28 · 03/10/2021 22:39

Oh right I remember the thread now I'm not gonna shy away I had genuinely forgotten about it

PurpleDaisies · 03/10/2021 22:41

I’m still waiting to hear how getting angry at a guy threatening me with a knife with absolutely nobody around was supposed to help with the situation.
Maybe I should have used my witch power to summon a broomstick to get me out of there…

EspressoDoubleShot · 03/10/2021 22:41

Boom! And there we have it. @youvegottenminuteslynn splendid work, very intrepid

OhWhyNot · 03/10/2021 22:42

Have we had

The problem is feminism has gone too far and men don’t know where they stand now

youvegottenminuteslynn · 03/10/2021 22:42

@Tevion28

Oh right I remember the thread now I'm not gonna shy away I had genuinely forgotten about it
And yet you were so confident it wasn't true. Maybe re-evaluate the beliefs you are firm in as others may be wrong too. Like that women simply need to accept men are violent so 'fight back' or carry an alarm... as if that's a sensible solution.

If you're a mother then I hope you aren't passing this misogyny down to yet another generation. It's terrifying /some women aren't even on their own side and attack other women for being afraid, like you have on this thread.

If you had a daughter who had been through what many of us had been through, you'd be livid reading your own words back.

Tevion28 · 03/10/2021 22:43

Childish behaviour on here wouldn't happen in real life. Only when hidden behind a screen

PurpleDaisies · 03/10/2021 22:44

@Tevion28

Childish behaviour on here wouldn't happen in real life. Only when hidden behind a screen
What sort of childish behaviour do you mean?
SkinnyMirror · 03/10/2021 22:46

@Tevion28

Childish behaviour on here wouldn't happen in real life. Only when hidden behind a screen
What childish behaviour? Having an opinion and entering into a discussion isn't childish.

Using the term witches coven on the other hand 🤷🏼‍♀️

youvegottenminuteslynn · 03/10/2021 22:46

@Tevion28

Childish behaviour on here wouldn't happen in real life. Only when hidden behind a screen
Trust me, if I knew you then we would be having this same discussion. Calmly and sensibly. But the same discussion.

Do you really think what we are saying is shocking or 'out there' at all?!

Why would a woman be unlikely to say 'stop blaming women' / 'alarms aren't a good enough answer' / 'saying you'd fight harder is victim blaming' / 'it's misogyny to call angry women witches' etc to your face? Those aren't shocking views people are scared to say. They are normal views held by people who give a shit about women's safety. About YOUR safety.

As I said, before women could vote, you'd have said 'well what can we do, this is how it is, we just need to hope we marry up' and waited for women like us to lay down our lives to fight for your right to vote?

Tevion28 · 03/10/2021 22:47

I've come on here and admitted i had forgotten about that thread at least I owned up to it.
Also people seem to have taken it that by saying I would try to defend myself and suggest others fight back that I am somehow a bad person I've never known anything like how people gang up on people here.

EspressoDoubleShot · 03/10/2021 22:49

@OhWhyNot

Have we had

The problem is feminism has gone too far and men don’t know where they stand now

Christ there’s been permutations of it yes We have had the liberal elite✅ Complaining entitled Middle class women✅ Woke✅ Men haters✅ Witches✅
Tevion28 · 03/10/2021 22:50

I was actually on everybody's side and wasn't out to cause offence but hey.

PurpleDaisies · 03/10/2021 22:50

Also people seem to have taken it that by saying I would try to defend myself and suggest others fight back that I am somehow a bad person I've never known anything like how people gang up on people here.

Have you actually been in the position of being threatened with a weapon? If I’d fought back I’d likely have been killed. They were never able to charge the guy who did it but they told me they thought he was responsible for murdering someone else.

PurpleDaisies · 03/10/2021 22:51

@Tevion28

I was actually on everybody's side and wasn't out to cause offence but hey.
Except thx witches.
youvegottenminuteslynn · 03/10/2021 22:52

@Tevion28

I've come on here and admitted i had forgotten about that thread at least I owned up to it. Also people seem to have taken it that by saying I would try to defend myself and suggest others fight back that I am somehow a bad person I've never known anything like how people gang up on people here.
And yet you seem to know how women should protect themselves from male violence.

By saying you'd fight back. Do you honestly not think that women have tried physically fighting back and it hasn't worked?

Do you honestly not get that in some situations if a weapon is used it would be MORE dangerous to fight back?

You admitted you were wrong about your own other thread.

Surely you can also say you've reflected on the fact that you saying you'd fight back / sound an alarm as a solution is offensive to victims of sexual assault and rape who know that them NOT doing those things is nothing to do with what happened to them.

That they were assaulted / raped because of men's proactive behaviours, not because of women's responses?

Awalkintime · 03/10/2021 22:52

When 99.7% of women have experienced violence and sexual assault repeatedly and 51% of women have woken up to their partners raping or sexually assaulting them when asleep this is not being done by a minority. Also while some men might not do this, a lot sit back and let it happen, they turn a blind eye that also makes them enablers.

This is not a minority at all. From experience we don't call walking to the bar 'running the gauntlet' for no reason in my town.

EspressoDoubleShot · 03/10/2021 22:52

A group of women having a coherent shared opinion isn’t ganging up
To be fair you’ve posted provocative informed posts you’ve name called
You’ve had a little tantrum and claimed we are ganging up on you

Tevion28 · 03/10/2021 22:53

PurpleDaisies No I haven't fortunately but people have taken me all wrong on here akot of people would surely suggest attempt to defend yourself its not unheard of.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 03/10/2021 22:54

@Tevion28

PurpleDaisies No I haven't fortunately but people have taken me all wrong on here akot of people would surely suggest attempt to defend yourself its not unheard of.
Well lucky you.

By saying you'd fight back. Do you honestly not think that women have tried physically fighting back and it hasn't worked?

Do you honestly not get that in some situations if a weapon is used it would be MORE dangerous to fight back?

You admitted you were wrong about your own other thread.

Surely you can also say you've reflected on the fact that you saying you'd fight back / sound an alarm as a solution is offensive to victims of sexual assault and rape who know that them NOT doing those things is nothing to do with what happened to them.

That they were assaulted / raped because of men's proactive behaviours, not because of women's responses?

FOJN · 03/10/2021 22:55

Witches coven?

Nest of vipers if you don't mind.

Yours, Proud Viper

PurpleDaisies · 03/10/2021 22:55

@Tevion28

PurpleDaisies No I haven't fortunately but people have taken me all wrong on here akot of people would surely suggest attempt to defend yourself its not unheard of.
Come back when you’ve been in that situation. I genuinely hope it never happens to you.

You have not listened to any poster explaining why trying to defend yourself against someone with a weapon can be a bad idea. You have up survive in any way you can.

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